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It's possible Sareitha Sedai Send a noteboard - 05/10/2010 05:00:57 PM


Here's one of the really hard parts though... He still has to go back to that state twice every year for work. He'll be back in the spring. I won't be able to trust him. It will be in my head the entire time he's there. I don't want to live like that.


...that as you work through this process you will be able to discern why it happened. I'm not talking about excuses, just reasons. If you're both willing and able to be honest about everything that may have contributed to this. If that happens, you might be able to come to some level of comfort with him being gone. Too, it's unlikely that the only reason (or even the largest reason) he cheated was that he was out of town and 'could'. And he doesn't need to be out of town to do it again if he wants to.

I'm really sorry this happened to you :( I admire that you are thinking this through and willing to talk about it and giving it a chance. I would caution you (and like others have said, I'm sure I'm not telling you anything you don't already know) against talking to too many people or the wrong people, and only you can decide that. But if the two of you make it through this you don't want to have poisoned the well with all of your family and friends, who, as nossy says, will all certainly have opinions and advice that might not be helpful depending on what you decide is best for your family (though certainly well-intentioned).
If you are from Betelgeuse, please have one of your Earth friends read what I've written before you respond. Or try concentrating harder.

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