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I definitely think so. nossy Send a noteboard - 29/10/2010 05:08:01 PM
That he comes over while his son is gone doesn't sound so much like co-dependency (if that were the case, I suspect dad would come over while son was home). Or maybe the two are tied together in some way, since it sounds like he doesn't clean your areas of the house/apartment.

he doesn't avoid him, typically, but he did take the opportunity to do something he knows roommate wouldn't want done. And he initially did come into my room, until I just about had a fit. That hasn't happened in a while.

Moving forward, could you suggest that his father wean himself off the habit? Instead of coming over every/other day, try to keep it to once a week, then every other week, once a month, etc. I think it would be better to work with dad, get him to admit he has a problem, and work with it pro-actively. Basically, wean dad off his habit. Suggesting professional help might be a good idea as well, since when confronted with it he seems to at least recognize that there's something not right with how things are now even if he can't control it.

I'm not sure what all has really been tried, but I know he's been "weaned" off before. Then he starts slowly building back up from one day to two and then gets back to almost daily. I don't know if they've discussed professional help.

I'd say that asking for the key back would only be a last-case scenario, to be done after the above.

Yeah, a lot of that has been done, so I think an actual ultimatum was delivered today. Basically, "STOP or I'm not letting you come over."
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Does anyone understand co-dependency? nossy - 29/10/2010 03:59:52 PM 918 Views
That's almost.... creepy. Mats Gambling Buddy - 29/10/2010 04:12:50 PM 648 Views
Almost? nossy - 29/10/2010 04:45:41 PM 639 Views
It sounds like the man may have some OCD cleaning problems as well. Macharius - 29/10/2010 04:13:28 PM 654 Views
I definitely think so. nossy - 29/10/2010 05:08:01 PM 641 Views
Re: I definitely think so. Macharius - 29/10/2010 06:17:51 PM 638 Views
I dunno. Sareitha Sedai - 29/10/2010 04:26:19 PM 703 Views
Re: I dunno. nossy - 29/10/2010 05:11:59 PM 678 Views
I don't think it's offensive. Sareitha Sedai - 29/10/2010 05:19:03 PM 656 Views
well..even if it isn't offensive by nature, his dad will probably still be offended LadyLorraine - 29/10/2010 05:25:54 PM 648 Views
Of course he will. Sareitha Sedai - 29/10/2010 05:37:08 PM 662 Views
Um... I disagree with "what he's gettingout of it". Avendesora - 30/10/2010 12:48:56 PM 631 Views
and if one wants a father, rather than a free maid? nossy - 30/10/2010 03:00:03 PM 693 Views
He can make sure the place is clean before the father shows up. Avendesora - 30/10/2010 03:25:40 PM 646 Views
I honestly think SilverWarder - 29/10/2010 05:12:09 PM 643 Views
I'd also say just take the key, but that's just me. LadyLorraine - 29/10/2010 05:16:17 PM 628 Views
Why does he have a key? BlackAdder - 29/10/2010 05:23:50 PM 573 Views
The father needs to find his own drive, but you probably aren't the one to fix that. *NM* Zalis - 29/10/2010 06:11:57 PM 396 Views
Does he do the dishes and clean the bathrooms? Vodalus - 29/10/2010 06:54:07 PM 628 Views
Tell your roomate to sh*t or get off the pot ßelals Girl - 29/10/2010 07:37:35 PM 621 Views
that sounds, er, nice and all nossy - 30/10/2010 03:07:06 PM 701 Views
sorry, but it sounds like the time for "niceness" has long passed ßelals Girl - 30/10/2010 07:28:56 PM 698 Views
Give him my address and everyone wins. Joel - 30/10/2010 10:25:30 AM 665 Views
I totally agree with Ave... damookster - 30/10/2010 11:52:08 PM 698 Views
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