I used to joke and still believe that wotmania had a better success rate at matchmaking than did EHarmony and the like, because nearly everyone who found a date/partner/mate/spouse/whatever at wotmania didn't COME to wotmania for that purpose. Instead, people came to a site catering to their other interests, met a lot of people with whom they had at least one (and usually several) strong interests and interacted with them naturally. Over time they discovered more common interests with some people and/or developed friendships, in some cases that grew into strong attraction and in more than a few that, in turn, blossomed into a strong romantic relationship. Certainly the fact that regular large scale Gatherings were more common helped; it's one thing to talk all the time online, but until you spend time together in person it's usually impossible to know whether you'll have the same (or more) chemistry or if it'll become awkward in an instant and only get worse. I was only there for the last half of wotmanias existence, but that's what I observed, though it was several years before I began to appreciate all the dynamics involved. From that I drew two conclusions:

1) Just like any other environment where there's a reasonable probability of finding a "significant other", it's best if it happens naturally, and almost impossible if you try to force it.

2) Few if any long term couples who met through wotmania were seeking a partner at wotmania, either actively and consciously or passively and subconsciously, when they found each other.

I feel confident in those conclusions simply because, while I didn't come for that purpose, during most of my stay at wotmania I was passively looking, usually without realizing it. I gained some good friends in the process, but every episode with legitimately romantic dimensions ended quickly and with bruised feelings (though none as bad as another such episode at another site). A large part of that was undeniably me; I wanted a relationship but was not "relationship ready", but it took meeting an nice attractive woman who was equally eager and unready to show me that: There was never any chance, not because of the environment, but because of us; neither of us was capable of a healthy relationship, and the combination was a disaster. So I finally did a lot of belated growing up, accepted that until I could be happy with just me and God no one I added to that situation would magically make me happy, and quit even passively seeking a partner, online or elsewhere.

Within a few weeks I met the woman I married last Saturday; we were happy apart, but together we make each other much happiER.

That's my two cents, lest you draw the same wrong conclusions I once did about how much love is in the air at wotmania or RAFO. If you're sure you're ready, don't miss an opportunity when presented with mutual attraction, but don't try, um, forcing a square peg into a round hole, if you'll excuse the metaphor. It tends to be very hard on the hole, and often on the peg as well. If you just ended a relationship, it might be a good idea to take some quality time with yourself, both to examine why it ended, with an eye to avoiding making the same mistakes (or choosing the same bad matches) and to simply enjoy a little solitude and appreciate how fulfilling your life is in itself, without needing to share it with someone else. The other thing I learned the hard way despite people trying to tell me for years is that while it's OK to WANT a partner it's very bad to NEED one.

There are certainly plenty of fine women here, a number of whom are single (and that's by no means limited to those who've already responded, but I'm not nominating anyone). Just let it happen naturally; instead of asking who's single and finding out if you're attracted to each other, spend time talking with people for the sake of doing it, and if/when you find a woman with whom there's a mutual liking find out if she's single. Good luck and God bless with all future prospects, romantic and otherwise. Sorry if I maundered on a bit, but having done foolish things for the wrong reasons I'd hate to inadvertently encourage anyone to do the same thing; doing it right is a lot more fun and a lot less painful both for ourselves and those around us.