What does "getting close" to cheating mean? I'm buying the "if I were single I guess I'd do that" hypothetical scenario, but I'm confused about the whole cheating thing.
Setting for the "if I were single" comment: in long term relationships, these sorts of conversations come up, either as hypothetical scenarios or just in casual conversation. So sort of like, "what would you do if we weren't together?" conversations. Jen would have bought a Range Rover and a bunch of clothes, and I would have either kicked out West or gone back to school full time. Sort of like the "would you have sex with that person?" or "would you ever participate in a devil's threesome?" sort of conversations. So that one wasn't like a "I wish I was single so I could do _______", more like "I guess I'd do this if I were single".
Setting for the "I would never talk to you again", when I was travelling and I basically realized she was cheating on me, or getting close to it, I just wanted to make sure she realized (she should have, but I guess: didn't) that I would definitely break up with her, wouldn't get back together with her, and wouldn't be one of those people that goes through a four month process of constantly talking to their ex and so on. I always find that behavior sort of pathetic. What I meant by "people being surprised" is that a lot of people are surprised that I haven't talked to her since we broke up, because most people have to talk to someone they break up with. I'm also not claiming it was easy to go no contact, or to not respond to everything.
I also never said it, even then, angrily or with any malice. I was just like: hey, just so you know, I really will do this.
That's a horrible thing to say to your girlfriend/fiancee- if I was single, I would do X, Y, and Z. Also telling her you could never talk to her ever again very easily, even if that's true. Did you consider her feelings when you said these things or was that not a concern?
Setting for the "if I were single" comment: in long term relationships, these sorts of conversations come up, either as hypothetical scenarios or just in casual conversation. So sort of like, "what would you do if we weren't together?" conversations. Jen would have bought a Range Rover and a bunch of clothes, and I would have either kicked out West or gone back to school full time. Sort of like the "would you have sex with that person?" or "would you ever participate in a devil's threesome?" sort of conversations. So that one wasn't like a "I wish I was single so I could do _______", more like "I guess I'd do this if I were single".
Setting for the "I would never talk to you again", when I was travelling and I basically realized she was cheating on me, or getting close to it, I just wanted to make sure she realized (she should have, but I guess: didn't) that I would definitely break up with her, wouldn't get back together with her, and wouldn't be one of those people that goes through a four month process of constantly talking to their ex and so on. I always find that behavior sort of pathetic. What I meant by "people being surprised" is that a lot of people are surprised that I haven't talked to her since we broke up, because most people have to talk to someone they break up with. I'm also not claiming it was easy to go no contact, or to not respond to everything.
I also never said it, even then, angrily or with any malice. I was just like: hey, just so you know, I really will do this.
I Seek Life Advice
- 26/04/2011 02:52:23 AM
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It's Sabotage -Go Balls to the wall,Baby! #3 for you, My friend. *NM*
- 26/04/2011 03:00:14 AM
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Re: If I went balls to the walls I'd run for the Senate in 2012...
- 26/04/2011 03:22:43 AM
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The common wisdom in Ireland seems to be we are about to do just that to our senate. *NM*
- 26/04/2011 01:19:22 PM
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Re: I'd love to abolish the US Senate. It's a big, white, Oligarchical nuisance. *NM*
- 26/04/2011 11:42:44 PM
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I don't understand why NY is not on your radar if you're ambitious.
- 26/04/2011 06:10:06 AM
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"the ambitious folk" sounds odd to me.
- 26/04/2011 06:55:40 PM
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Oh, I know.
- 26/04/2011 07:04:16 PM
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I'm still not convinced two wrongs make a right.
- 26/04/2011 07:37:22 PM
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Re: I'm still not convinced two wrongs make a right.
- 26/04/2011 08:19:38 PM
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Move out west.
- 26/04/2011 06:21:43 AM
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hey, ca is awesome! also the weather is far, far better than the other 2 pnw states 
- 26/04/2011 06:32:36 AM
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- 26/04/2011 06:32:36 AM
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I've visited CA many times, but I only started hating it after I moved to the West Coast
- 26/04/2011 06:43:24 AM
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oh, ca doesn't make women that way, it's time. i have to interact with them *daily*
- 26/04/2011 04:38:36 PM
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- 26/04/2011 04:38:36 PM
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What's your personality like?
- 26/04/2011 11:19:59 AM
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Re: That's a great reply - thanks.
- 26/04/2011 12:03:05 PM
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That's not very nice.
- 26/04/2011 08:29:11 PM
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Re: Setting:
- 26/04/2011 08:59:02 PM
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Did she ever actually cheat on you?
- 26/04/2011 09:39:15 PM
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Come to Ireland.
- 26/04/2011 01:31:55 PM
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Ireland is a great place for writers. *NM*
- 26/04/2011 04:11:04 PM
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Suicidal, drunk and otherwise self-destructive writers, yes. *NM*
- 26/04/2011 06:49:55 PM
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The best kind! *NM*
- 26/04/2011 07:09:06 PM
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$30? I fucking hate you
- 26/04/2011 03:19:26 PM
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Re: FAR is a beast - but it's so much more satisfying to do it without Becker.
- 26/04/2011 09:09:11 PM
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take the the risk and go with three *NM*
- 26/04/2011 05:44:21 PM
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Re: Thanks for the advice. I'm dwelling on'er. *NM*
- 27/04/2011 12:06:37 AM
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There will likely come a time in your life when you lose some of your choices about taking risk
- 27/04/2011 05:08:48 PM
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I have to say this has been the MOST enjoyable thread, in a while. whatever happens...
- 27/04/2011 02:30:05 AM
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There's been a lot of great threads lately!
- 27/04/2011 07:52:21 PM
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