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It is lame to expect the father of the bride to shell out tens of thousands for a party random thoughts Send a noteboard - 15/12/2011 02:00:54 PM
The really lame part is we have taken the habits of the wealthy and told average working people that they should do the same thing. My son actually bought into the stupid idea that he should spend three months salary on a ring so now his fiancé is wearing a shiny rock that is worth more than the car he drives and this make sense to them. I would rather have people think I am cheap than to know I am stupid enough to go into to debt just to prove I am not cheap.

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So it turns out that weddings are expensive... Dannymac - 12/12/2011 04:24:17 PM 1880 Views
I am looking to drop about a grand on my son's rehearsal dinner *NM* random thoughts - 12/12/2011 04:42:53 PM 498 Views
Well, part of it is that the rehearsal dinner isn't on the $5k budget. Dannymac - 12/12/2011 04:46:30 PM 864 Views
It is avoidable, but people will treat you like you're a nutcase if you don't do most of the things nossy - 12/12/2011 05:02:14 PM 908 Views
my first wedding was in church with a pretty dress and a preacher random thoughts - 12/12/2011 06:12:02 PM 855 Views
We had a pretty dress and a notary public in the courtyard of the B&B. nossy - 12/12/2011 09:36:52 PM 893 Views
If I had it to all over again I would have formed a Rock Band and dated supermodels *NM* random thoughts - 13/12/2011 04:20:28 PM 461 Views
*NM* TaskmasterJack - 22/12/2011 10:15:04 PM 468 Views
Heh. Nate - 12/12/2011 05:29:19 PM 989 Views
Re: Heh. Macharius - 12/12/2011 06:02:44 PM 891 Views
Re: Heh. Nate - 12/12/2011 06:44:30 PM 1026 Views
Re: Heh. Macharius - 12/12/2011 07:27:16 PM 981 Views
We kept it to about $5000 also (including cost of rings). Macharius - 12/12/2011 06:06:54 PM 926 Views
I would say our wedding was about that. Lici - 12/12/2011 06:45:46 PM 1084 Views
I feel like they only have to be expensive if you let them be. LadyLorraine - 12/12/2011 07:07:59 PM 953 Views
I got married two weeks ago for less than that. Aemon - 12/12/2011 09:56:43 PM 1032 Views
Congrats Sareitha Sedai - 12/12/2011 10:03:35 PM 867 Views
Thanks! Aemon - 13/12/2011 02:53:11 PM 868 Views
You've been holding out on us. Congratulations. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 13/12/2011 12:02:39 AM 516 Views
Honestly, I didn't think anyone would care. Aemon - 13/12/2011 03:08:44 PM 835 Views
Hey! No announcement??? Congratulations and may you find many years of happiness! *NM* everynametaken - 13/12/2011 03:27:51 AM 545 Views
No, no announcement. I'm not really the center-of-attention type. haha Thanks though! *NM* Aemon - 13/12/2011 03:10:29 PM 468 Views
Congratulations, my friend. Jacob - 13/12/2011 03:21:22 PM 833 Views
Thanks. Aemon - 13/12/2011 06:38:59 PM 911 Views
Acceptable... Jacob - 13/12/2011 06:40:29 PM 836 Views
OMG! Congratulations! Danu - 14/12/2011 10:43:05 PM 846 Views
Thanks Danu. *NM* Aemon - 15/12/2011 11:08:51 PM 470 Views
i had 500 people at my wedding....... Aisha - 13/12/2011 12:05:38 AM 1021 Views
Everybody I have ever talked to that had a big, expensive wedding has told me that in hindsight... everynametaken - 13/12/2011 03:29:34 AM 837 Views
Yes they are. We're planning ours and... callandor1000 - 13/12/2011 02:19:42 AM 921 Views
Some people just don't seem to think outside of the box ironclad - 13/12/2011 09:15:49 AM 991 Views
And several items on that chart are soo unnecessary *NM* ironclad - 13/12/2011 09:41:10 AM 496 Views
They're only as expensive as you make them. Tim - 14/12/2011 10:38:37 AM 831 Views
I'm so glad we went simple. Kaldric - 14/12/2011 03:08:45 PM 990 Views
As someone who had a smaller wedding than was expected by certain people... Danu - 14/12/2011 10:36:57 PM 954 Views
These seem kind of extreme. Vivien - 15/12/2011 06:03:15 AM 970 Views
because of your history you might find a cash bar lame... LadyLorraine - 15/12/2011 12:59:39 PM 1007 Views
Not my personal history, but culture. Vivien - 15/12/2011 03:53:12 PM 992 Views
I agree that there are better cuts to make than refreshments LadyLorraine - 15/12/2011 04:35:13 PM 958 Views
Re: because of your history you might find a cash bar lame... callandor1000 - 22/12/2011 01:08:00 PM 970 Views
Yeah, and that's why Russians are all dying of alcoholism. *NM* Macharius - 15/12/2011 01:46:52 PM 508 Views
You don't have to be an alcoholic to prefer not to have a cash bar at a party. Vivien - 15/12/2011 03:37:15 PM 868 Views
It is lame to expect the father of the bride to shell out tens of thousands for a party random thoughts - 15/12/2011 02:00:54 PM 975 Views
seriously. who cares if people think you're "cheap". LadyLorraine - 15/12/2011 04:41:33 PM 878 Views
What my family tends to do (because it's huge) is this: Rebekah - 15/12/2011 02:16:31 PM 1043 Views
That's what most German weddings do too. Reasonable. *NM* ironclad - 15/12/2011 03:38:40 PM 465 Views
If they're not close enough to invite to the reception, are they really needed at the ceremony? Vivien - 15/12/2011 08:18:18 PM 976 Views
In most cases, a church ceremony tends to be an open thing. Anyone can come. Rebekah - 15/12/2011 10:11:30 PM 991 Views
Apparently it's becoming more common over here to do weddings on a weekday. Rebekah - 15/12/2011 02:13:57 PM 856 Views
I can't imagine someone in America announcing their wedding was on a weekday. TaskmasterJack - 15/12/2011 10:07:55 PM 1098 Views
People not in America have way more vacation days... *NM* Vivien - 15/12/2011 11:56:22 PM 461 Views
That was part of the logic in my thinking, yes. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 16/12/2011 12:46:53 AM 441 Views
Fridays are actually becoming more common. Sareitha Sedai - 16/12/2011 04:51:41 PM 806 Views
Why does the band get more than the photographer? Amyrlin - 16/12/2011 04:30:29 PM 780 Views
well they do have to split it 4 or 5 ways random thoughts - 16/12/2011 04:38:36 PM 869 Views
The thing is... it's NOT a night's work. Amyrlin - 16/12/2011 09:27:30 PM 1168 Views
Because if you put tiny plastic musical instruments on all the tables, your ears will bleed out. TaskmasterJack - 16/12/2011 10:04:59 PM 1230 Views
My advice based on what I've done so far. callandor1000 - 22/12/2011 01:27:29 PM 860 Views
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