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since you asked... LadyLorraine Send a noteboard - 01/02/2012 09:14:44 PM
Yes, orgasm is the purpose of sex. I, however, have had a couple of situations where I didn't feel an orgasm coming. My girlfriend already orgasmed 2 times so I was fine in stopping. IT WAS MY CHOICE. It doesn't change the fact that the purpose of sex is to experience the intense pleasure of an orgasm. Ok, so you argue that it is a narrow view of sex. So prove me wrong. What other views are there? To have a baby, ok. What else? Anything?

Reasons to have sex (in no particular order):
1) Orgasm
2) Reproduction
3) Fun
4) Societal Bonding
5) Boredom
6) Tequila
7) Exchange of goods (i.e. prostitution/similar)

It's called science. A woman doesn't lose anything when she has an orgasm. More likely than not, a man will lose his hard-on! It's science making my claim, not me. And let me say, once again, THESE ARE NOT RULES AND REGULATIONS. Nowhere did I say I was writing the bible on sex. This is my PERSONAL opinion based on PERSONAL experience.


Your "science" is wrong or is looking through a very narrow definition of "losing anything". Yes, a woman doesn't lose a "hard on", but we can lose clitoral erection for a time and an increased stimulus may be too painful for some women. Also, some women DON'T have multiple orgasms. I will usually only have ONE good clitoral orgasm and after that I'm done. I can keep playing around (just like a man can), but I'm really rather done. Yes, if you want to be nitpicky, I CAN continue to have sex because my vagina doesn't shrivel up and close. But it's really no more entertaining for me than a man fingering a woman after he's orgasmed.

That's because, in my PERSONAL experience, not a scientific study ok, guys can be selfish bastards. Once they're done, that's it. Now, there is some science on my side. The release of a chemical after orgasm that makes a man sleepy. But I don't care about that. Women want to experience pleasure just as much as men. So I don't think men should leave their women unsatisifed. That's just my PERSONAL opinion. I am not saying everyone should be like this.


I can't speak for all women, but if I have a full-blown orgasm I get insanely sleepy. Like...curl up in a ball and nap for a couple hours sleepy, sometimes. This is one of the reasons that, personally, I DON'T want to orgasm everytime I have sex. If I want to continue to want to/have sex that day (which sometimes I do, when the opportunity is available), I need to hold off. That and it's hard to pay attention in class when I'm that sleepy.

Your anger at having people disagree tells me that--even if you're not saying everyone should be like that--you don't want people to disagree with you either. Helene isn't taking an unreasonable tone with you, but YOU are the one freaking out like she just slapped your mother.

I understand you feel insulted, dude...but you're the only one freaking out here. Someone was bound to disagree with you and while people shouldn't have jumped down your throat, you're way over reacting about a topic a that's insanely subjective.
Still Empress of the Poofy Purple Pillow Pile Palace!!
Continued Love of my Aussie <3
This message last edited by LadyLorraine on 01/02/2012 at 09:18:30 PM
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