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Bring a book? *NM* Camilla Send a noteboard - 09/11/2009 11:01:54 AM
First off, you all know I'm completely hopeless at social things, for a pretty good combination of reasons. But that doesn't change the fact that I've recently turned 21 and have still never been to a bar in my city. And I want to have one little tiny taste of that college experience. Problem is, I don't really have friends here - well, I have one, but he's odd and I'm sort of angry at him anyway. :P

Actually, what I really want to do is go to a lesbian/gay bar. Two new experiences in one! That would even more definitely rule out the hetero male friend, though.

So, yeah. How does one go about this? How do you even know which bars cater to the LGBTs? What kind of clothing do you wear? Does it mark you as a pathetic loser if you just sit there by yourself at the counter?

I'm not looking to do anything wild or crazy, and I'm probably too shy to dance, so maybe it's just a bad idea anyway. All I really want to get out of it is a good beer and maybe a conversation with a pretty girl or two. Curiosity. You know.

All advice welcome.
Also, thanks to Mat Maniac for making me feel less embarrassed about my embarrassing social problems by posting about his own. ;)
*MySmiley*
structured procrastinator
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Need social advice. Is it... you know... allowed to go to a bar by yourself? - 09/11/2009 03:57:51 AM 1094 Views
Eek! I'm sorry I'm sorry! - 09/11/2009 03:58:21 AM 659 Views
Of course it is! - 09/11/2009 04:06:22 AM 590 Views
For girls too? - 09/11/2009 02:22:09 PM 553 Views
Yeah - 09/11/2009 04:30:27 PM 620 Views
Dude, this has nothing to do with TV - 09/11/2009 07:43:33 AM 657 Views
I know! I'm a dork! - 09/11/2009 02:13:10 PM 705 Views
It's hard, and I admire anyone who can pull it off. - 09/11/2009 10:21:43 AM 583 Views
Same here - 09/11/2009 11:36:30 AM 522 Views
Hm. I'm used to feeling socially awkward already, though. - 09/11/2009 02:07:45 PM 631 Views
Bring a book? *NM* - 09/11/2009 11:01:54 AM 342 Views
... but which book? - 09/11/2009 02:09:29 PM 486 Views
If you take a book.. - 09/11/2009 02:12:13 PM 586 Views
To a gay bar in the midwest? Hehe. - 09/11/2009 02:29:07 PM 634 Views
lol, oh dear. - 09/11/2009 02:43:41 PM 628 Views
Re: Twelve at a time! *NM* - 10/11/2009 04:04:41 AM 219 Views
Of course it is. - 09/11/2009 12:40:06 PM 589 Views
Thank you, that's good advice. *NM* - 09/11/2009 02:08:16 PM 233 Views
I've been to straight bars, and gay bars.. - 09/11/2009 02:11:40 PM 747 Views
Thank you, Amy, that really helps. - 09/11/2009 02:16:33 PM 625 Views
You could ask 'teh gay' that you know that lives in the same city as you do. - 09/11/2009 02:16:12 PM 554 Views
I was being passive. Hoping you would see this and respond. - 09/11/2009 02:18:59 PM 521 Views
No, I'll reply in full/send noteboard. We can arrange something so you don't go alone. - 09/11/2009 02:22:44 PM 534 Views
*NM* - 09/11/2009 02:34:37 PM 279 Views
<3 - 10/11/2009 02:26:04 AM 642 Views
It is nice of him, isn't it? *NM* - 10/11/2009 02:57:00 AM 296 Views
Exceptionally so. - 10/11/2009 03:00:43 AM 569 Views
Get a buzz going before you go there? - 09/11/2009 02:25:30 PM 479 Views
Yes, it's allowed. - 09/11/2009 02:43:18 PM 715 Views
This is why I love the USA - 09/11/2009 03:28:52 PM 552 Views
Don't get a buzz going before you go there! - 09/11/2009 03:08:26 PM 572 Views
Dude, she's 21! - 09/11/2009 03:14:44 PM 492 Views
I know! - 09/11/2009 03:18:52 PM 585 Views
That's what I'm depending on other people doing. - 11/11/2009 12:09:42 AM 469 Views
Absolutely go to a bar by yoursefl. - 09/11/2009 03:16:38 PM 485 Views
Well I can't give any advice on gay bars - 09/11/2009 04:12:26 PM 554 Views
go at happy hour - 09/11/2009 04:16:25 PM 652 Views
Funniest title ever. - 09/11/2009 04:54:46 PM 575 Views
It's perfectly fine and normal - 09/11/2009 10:12:23 PM 586 Views
Hah! Glad I could be of service - 10/11/2009 05:24:34 AM 507 Views
The main thing is relax - 10/11/2009 05:40:28 PM 677 Views

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