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But when did "beautiful" come to mean "beloved"? Legolas Send a noteboard - 04/09/2009 09:37:41 PM
There are multiple multibillion dollar industries sending girls the message that they need to be thin and pretty to be loved. I am bothered about how obsessed my three year has gotten with the whole princess mindset. Right now to her being a princess means you have a pretty dress, ride a pegasus and live in castle but that will likely change with time.

I'm not a big fan of the princess deal either. I guess American girls are more obsessed with them because princesses are so exotic to the US and its mentality, but that's no excuse.
I have been trying to focus on telling my daughter how smart and brave she is but she is so beautiful it is hard not to tell her so. I really don't know which is worse, telling my daughter she is pretty and risk her thinking that her looks affect how much I love her or not telling her and risk her believing she isn’t the most beautiful little girl in the world to me. I didn't have these issues with my boys.

What's the deal lately with having to use the word "beautiful" to express your love? (Sorry to rant at you, nothing personal, you just provided a good soapbox. ;) )Why say "my beautiful girl" to your daughter when you just mean "I love you"? Why say that "my wife gave birth to a beautiful baby boy" when you just mean "my wife gave birth to a boy and we love him very much"? You seem to mostly agree with me on this, but still you don't want her to think that she's not the most beautiful little girl in the world to you - isn't what you really mean that you want her to know you love her more than any other little girl in the world?

With the way that word "beautiful" is being misused constantly nowadays, it's no wonder that girls care too much about their looks. Beauty is of course of some importance in romantic relationships, though it's hardly the ultimate factor and beauty is in the eye of the beholder; but it really doesn't matter in other kinds of love, family and friendship. Parents would be better off making that clear to their children than to express their affection and love by saying the child is beautiful.

They do need to do more to teach children proper nutrition. The American diet has gotten so bad that it is almost impossible for the majority of these girls, or the boys for that matter, to maintain a healthy weight. One of the reasons so many young girls are dieting is that their parents and schools have them on such poor diets that they are overweight and need correction in their diet. Of course that doesn't mean they need to be on a calorie restricting diet but they do need to be on healthier diets and they do need to be encouraged to be more active. The most commonly eaten vegetable for five year olds in this country is the french fry.

Yeah, definitely, bad nutrition is a big factor.
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But when did "beautiful" come to mean "beloved"? - 04/09/2009 09:37:41 PM 705 Views
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