And I didn't realize Renly & Loras until near the end of Book 3, Renly having died halfway through 2. I was oblivious to Moiraine & Siuan long after reading New Spring several times and I was in denial about Galina & Therava for quite a while, too. I actually thought it amusing that Faile speculated about the reasons for Therava's attraction.

My gaydar is strictly visual, and not at all literary. Although, in this case, I was helped out by, I believe, it being explicitly stated in a discussion of 21 Dresses or something like that.