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Marriage redqueen Send a noteboard - 28/04/2011 08:27:53 PM
We see numerous examples of Warders acting as advisors and confidantes to their Aes Sedai, including being the voice of reason or contradiction. They might accept that the final say is the sister's, but the warder is allowed (and possibly encouraged) to question her and play devil's advocate. By standards of comparison, Moiraine does not really seem to have as light a leash on Lan as she claims.

Though Warders may disagree with their Aes Sedai, this is very rarely done in public for the practical reason that to the public eye, the Warder is the right hand of the Sister. Moiraine and Lan presented a united front to the world precisely because ultimately, she wasn't a fool, and he backed up her decisions.

A Warders' advice may be welcomed in private, but in public, this is tantamount to questioning the judgment of a superior in their ranking system and it undermines credibility. to go back to the military example, a new Lt. often makes mistakes, but if they have what is considered a good NCO, the NCO will accommodate the mistake in such a way that the order is carried out in the way it was intended to.


The relationship between Warder and Aes Sedai reminds me a lot of traditional marriage, only with the authority roles reversed. The Warder makes a lifetime commitment to one woman, an Aes Sedai. He must obey her, protect her and he a sword for her to use when the Power is not appropriate. Personal compatibility with your Warder is important enough for a sister to spend years searching out a suitable man. But the Aes Sedai is the authority and the focus and it's her vision or cause that will decide how they spend their lives.

This argument is very modern-western-world, with our belief that everyone is equal to everyone else. WoT does not share that standard. Warders know the score when they sign up; they aren't equals, and never expected to be.
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Egwene vs. Gawyn (ToM spoilers of course) - 28/04/2011 05:01:46 AM 4230 Views
There's fifty feet of crap between rock bottom and your post... *NM* - 28/04/2011 07:40:04 AM 520 Views
Almost three days since the last post...at least I'm trying. - 28/04/2011 12:17:59 PM 1045 Views
Sorry about that... - 28/04/2011 10:58:50 PM 1108 Views
Ah, its always good to see a good Egwene rant. Bravo! NM *NM* - 28/04/2011 01:58:46 PM 758 Views
Great work, Cannoli - 28/04/2011 02:09:28 PM 1065 Views
Regarding the mother's permission.... - 28/04/2011 07:26:29 PM 1131 Views
while i agree with you on most of this - 28/04/2011 04:53:06 PM 1190 Views
hmpf, i post a good point and nothing - 28/04/2011 11:09:53 PM 969 Views
Everybody agrees with you, that's why there were no replies *NM* - 28/04/2011 11:29:13 PM 504 Views
Here's a scary thought - 28/04/2011 11:54:50 PM 1282 Views
OMGWTFBBQ!? - 28/04/2011 11:58:37 PM 1004 Views
In regards to the letters... - 28/04/2011 05:28:13 PM 1241 Views
But Gawyn was not Egwene's subject - 28/04/2011 06:09:31 PM 1046 Views
Which was why I thought it was appropriate, since he meant to act as Egwene's Warder. - 28/04/2011 06:19:53 PM 1005 Views
The only issue is that Warders are not minions - they are honored junior partners. - 28/04/2011 07:39:18 PM 1165 Views
No, the junior partners are Accepted. Warders are essentially personal bodyguards and/or assistants. - 28/04/2011 08:00:17 PM 962 Views
Marriage - 28/04/2011 08:27:53 PM 977 Views
Accepted are not anything, let alone junior partners. Don't think N&E's experience was typical - 28/04/2011 09:32:22 PM 1213 Views
Here's the thing though... - 28/04/2011 11:20:32 PM 1014 Views
No, but it's cute and quirky when Faile does it. - 29/04/2011 03:06:50 PM 1179 Views
But... - 29/04/2011 10:52:03 PM 973 Views
That's not really clear - 29/04/2011 11:41:20 PM 1107 Views
Actually, it is... - 30/04/2011 06:37:42 PM 1151 Views
Re: Actually, it is... - 30/04/2011 11:17:21 PM 1001 Views
Didn't Siuan, Gareth and Gawyn tell her about the Bloodknife they encountered? - 02/05/2011 02:33:08 PM 1015 Views
It isn't the worst romance in WoT - 28/04/2011 08:10:23 PM 1314 Views
Re: It isn't the worst romance in WoT - 28/04/2011 08:25:31 PM 1235 Views
thumbs up to you both *NM* - 28/04/2011 08:45:51 PM 492 Views
Re: It isn't the worst romance in WoT - 28/04/2011 08:46:37 PM 1134 Views
Galad is a great option for a political marriage - 28/04/2011 09:04:46 PM 1005 Views
Yes, but... - 28/04/2011 09:40:39 PM 1039 Views
but galad knew nothing of berelain's closeness to rand, so that couldn't have affected anything - 28/04/2011 10:12:23 PM 1077 Views
Exactly - 28/04/2011 10:27:04 PM 937 Views
Yes. An often overlooked point is that ELAYNE, not Egwene, gains the most power in ToM - 28/04/2011 09:42:43 PM 1398 Views
Except... - 28/04/2011 11:16:25 PM 1033 Views
Well... - 29/04/2011 12:14:42 AM 999 Views
Re: Well... - 29/04/2011 08:39:37 AM 960 Views
Except they're both really hot. - 28/04/2011 10:01:46 PM 1179 Views
They were naive - 28/04/2011 11:10:34 PM 981 Views
Re: They were naive - 29/04/2011 03:18:42 PM 1295 Views
I can only quibble; Egwene became so insufferable in ToM I'm convinced her fate will be unpleasant. - 04/05/2011 12:41:53 AM 1194 Views
Siuan... - 04/05/2011 05:42:59 AM 1144 Views
Re: Siuan screwed up big time. - 07/05/2011 03:35:46 AM 1066 Views
Re: Siuan screwed up big time. - 12/05/2011 02:13:08 PM 998 Views
"McClellanesque", eh? I'll have to remember that one. - 16/05/2011 12:12:23 AM 1273 Views

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