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That's a nice way of saying "I'm antisociably shy." Ghavrel Send a noteboard - 13/09/2011 09:43:17 AM

i have an issue with going out of my way to conform to a social norm



Joking aside, working on social skills has little to do with "conforming" and much more to do with making people feel comfortable, including yourself.
"We feel safe when we read what we recognise, what does not challenge our way of thinking.... a steady acceptance of pre-arranged patterns leads to the inability to question what we are told."
~Camilla

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does seeing someone reading a book you like justify striking up a conversation Foxhead - 10/09/2011 08:21:28 PM 1383 Views
I keep wanting to, but I never do Camilla - 10/09/2011 11:07:07 PM 1134 Views
take the plunge! Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:07:45 AM 1322 Views
Only if you fancy them and are using it as an excuse to chat them up. *NM* Tim - 10/09/2011 11:44:07 PM 459 Views
with ulterior motives? Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:10:46 AM 972 Views
I wouldn't interuppt someone while they are reading. LadyLorraine - 11/09/2011 03:16:50 AM 1252 Views
that's worse surely! Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:13:15 AM 1157 Views
not to me. LadyLorraine - 11/09/2011 05:59:19 PM 1034 Views
it is pretty easy tell if they would rather just be reading random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:13:30 PM 1081 Views
I guess my thing is I just hate to be interrupted and don't want to do it to someone else LadyLorraine - 12/09/2011 04:28:30 PM 1139 Views
you get that immersed even in public area? random thoughts - 12/09/2011 06:52:54 PM 986 Views
Usually. If it's not a situation where I CAN, I just won't read. LadyLorraine - 12/09/2011 07:23:48 PM 1170 Views
Did you not like the other trilogy? Gher - 11/09/2011 03:36:18 AM 1246 Views
erm, not as much Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:19:03 AM 1056 Views
I used to be timid. Now I don't care and will happily interrupt. Ghavrel - 11/09/2011 07:42:35 AM 1152 Views
Yeah, exactly Praziquantel - 11/09/2011 07:53:48 AM 1147 Views
it's the "i will probably never see again" i can't get my head around Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:21:45 AM 1064 Views
I guess that depends on how you go about it random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:16:38 PM 961 Views
That's a nice way of saying "I'm antisociably shy." Ghavrel - 13/09/2011 09:43:17 AM 1095 Views
no i meant the opposite Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:20:48 PM 1013 Views
Answers to questions asked. Palatine - 11/09/2011 03:34:32 PM 1072 Views
i asked because i wondered how many people would welcome it or view it as an intrusion Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:25:32 PM 1073 Views
I love talking to perfect strangers imlad - 15/09/2011 05:34:27 PM 1434 Views
I have just gone up to someone and said "good choice in book" Fox and Ravens - 11/09/2011 04:49:21 PM 1067 Views
did he reply or did you back away...staring and pointing at the book? Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:27:45 PM 1130 Views
I can't resist that. I will always say something. Many people have done the same with me Tashmere - 11/09/2011 06:10:36 PM 1175 Views
are a small town girl? Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:30:46 PM 1169 Views
How do you even figure out what they're reading? Vivien - 12/09/2011 05:44:30 AM 1115 Views
NYC is wierd *NM* random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:17:35 PM 436 Views
i look at the cover, i very rarely see someone reading a book bent back on itself *NM* Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:31:52 PM 585 Views
I can usually tell what people are reading with a glance. rebelaessedai - 15/09/2011 01:49:06 AM 1337 Views
Thats why I am glad I don't live in NYC imlad - 15/09/2011 05:41:47 PM 1238 Views
NYC really is a concrete 'jungle' Praziquantel - 15/09/2011 09:41:59 PM 1145 Views
Thats just irritating when it happens to me...I never would do that to another human. *NM* Ryan - 12/09/2011 08:54:06 AM 500 Views
Hmm, what about a Cocker Spaniel? *NM* Kotagg - 13/09/2011 02:39:08 AM 487 Views
Re: No. RomaVenkat - 12/09/2011 02:51:40 PM 1118 Views
I stirke up conversation with strangers all the time random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:12:09 PM 1065 Views
exactly! imlad - 15/09/2011 05:46:57 PM 1190 Views
It depends on the situation DomA - 12/09/2011 07:26:02 PM 1056 Views
i love the farseer books too! and yeah a little weird, but not that weird *NM* temeraire - 13/09/2011 10:37:53 PM 405 Views
I think so, but it isn't always appreciated. Vodalus - 15/09/2011 03:20:07 AM 1185 Views
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