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That's a nice way of saying "I'm antisociably shy." Ghavrel Send a noteboard - 13/09/2011 09:43:17 AM

i have an issue with going out of my way to conform to a social norm



Joking aside, working on social skills has little to do with "conforming" and much more to do with making people feel comfortable, including yourself.
"We feel safe when we read what we recognise, what does not challenge our way of thinking.... a steady acceptance of pre-arranged patterns leads to the inability to question what we are told."
~Camilla

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does seeing someone reading a book you like justify striking up a conversation Foxhead - 10/09/2011 08:21:28 PM 1590 Views
I keep wanting to, but I never do Camilla - 10/09/2011 11:07:07 PM 1315 Views
take the plunge! Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:07:45 AM 1498 Views
Only if you fancy them and are using it as an excuse to chat them up. *NM* Tim - 10/09/2011 11:44:07 PM 544 Views
with ulterior motives? Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:10:46 AM 1156 Views
I wouldn't interuppt someone while they are reading. LadyLorraine - 11/09/2011 03:16:50 AM 1441 Views
that's worse surely! Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:13:15 AM 1343 Views
not to me. LadyLorraine - 11/09/2011 05:59:19 PM 1196 Views
it is pretty easy tell if they would rather just be reading random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:13:30 PM 1238 Views
I guess my thing is I just hate to be interrupted and don't want to do it to someone else LadyLorraine - 12/09/2011 04:28:30 PM 1292 Views
you get that immersed even in public area? random thoughts - 12/09/2011 06:52:54 PM 1173 Views
Usually. If it's not a situation where I CAN, I just won't read. LadyLorraine - 12/09/2011 07:23:48 PM 1325 Views
Did you not like the other trilogy? Gher - 11/09/2011 03:36:18 AM 1411 Views
erm, not as much Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:19:03 AM 1238 Views
I used to be timid. Now I don't care and will happily interrupt. Ghavrel - 11/09/2011 07:42:35 AM 1315 Views
Yeah, exactly Praziquantel - 11/09/2011 07:53:48 AM 1319 Views
it's the "i will probably never see again" i can't get my head around Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:21:45 AM 1260 Views
I guess that depends on how you go about it random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:16:38 PM 1114 Views
That's a nice way of saying "I'm antisociably shy." Ghavrel - 13/09/2011 09:43:17 AM 1293 Views
no i meant the opposite Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:20:48 PM 1176 Views
Answers to questions asked. Palatine - 11/09/2011 03:34:32 PM 1231 Views
i asked because i wondered how many people would welcome it or view it as an intrusion Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:25:32 PM 1256 Views
I love talking to perfect strangers imlad - 15/09/2011 05:34:27 PM 1624 Views
I have just gone up to someone and said "good choice in book" Fox and Ravens - 11/09/2011 04:49:21 PM 1215 Views
did he reply or did you back away...staring and pointing at the book? Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:27:45 PM 1309 Views
I can't resist that. I will always say something. Many people have done the same with me Tashmere - 11/09/2011 06:10:36 PM 1414 Views
are a small town girl? Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:30:46 PM 1327 Views
How do you even figure out what they're reading? Vivien - 12/09/2011 05:44:30 AM 1325 Views
NYC is wierd *NM* random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:17:35 PM 526 Views
i look at the cover, i very rarely see someone reading a book bent back on itself *NM* Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:31:52 PM 679 Views
I can usually tell what people are reading with a glance. rebelaessedai - 15/09/2011 01:49:06 AM 1506 Views
Thats why I am glad I don't live in NYC imlad - 15/09/2011 05:41:47 PM 1412 Views
NYC really is a concrete 'jungle' Praziquantel - 15/09/2011 09:41:59 PM 1307 Views
Thats just irritating when it happens to me...I never would do that to another human. *NM* Ryan - 12/09/2011 08:54:06 AM 651 Views
Hmm, what about a Cocker Spaniel? *NM* Kotagg - 13/09/2011 02:39:08 AM 577 Views
Re: No. RomaVenkat - 12/09/2011 02:51:40 PM 1305 Views
I stirke up conversation with strangers all the time random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:12:09 PM 1241 Views
exactly! imlad - 15/09/2011 05:46:57 PM 1346 Views
It depends on the situation DomA - 12/09/2011 07:26:02 PM 1213 Views
i love the farseer books too! and yeah a little weird, but not that weird *NM* temeraire - 13/09/2011 10:37:53 PM 494 Views
I think so, but it isn't always appreciated. Vodalus - 15/09/2011 03:20:07 AM 1387 Views
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