You don't think that a woman can have a completely honest conversation with a man?
Rebekah Send a noteboard - 30/07/2010 08:49:21 AM
No, I don't know what/how a man is thinking.
But I do know when he's lying to me. So I can tell you that not every heterosexual married man (or man in a committed relationship) thinks about having sex with other women.
What bothers me about this attitude is that it's one of the very few times when people who argue the way you have think it's ok to accept a stereotype as pure fact for everyone.
Not everyone is the same, not everyone thinks the same, not everyone has the same urges. And some people hve managed to let their principles guide them to the extent that they don't even see other women in a sexual way at all. It can be done, and to assume otherwise does a disservice to men.
And, really, you need to remember what I said in other posts below: imo, cheating in the mind constitutes more than just thinking "she'd be good in bed". It's thinking about actually doing the act with that woman in a specific way, not some abstract concept of sexual attraction.
But I do know when he's lying to me. So I can tell you that not every heterosexual married man (or man in a committed relationship) thinks about having sex with other women.
What bothers me about this attitude is that it's one of the very few times when people who argue the way you have think it's ok to accept a stereotype as pure fact for everyone.
Not everyone is the same, not everyone thinks the same, not everyone has the same urges. And some people hve managed to let their principles guide them to the extent that they don't even see other women in a sexual way at all. It can be done, and to assume otherwise does a disservice to men.
And, really, you need to remember what I said in other posts below: imo, cheating in the mind constitutes more than just thinking "she'd be good in bed". It's thinking about actually doing the act with that woman in a specific way, not some abstract concept of sexual attraction.
*MySmiley*
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Outside of a dog, a book is man's best friend. Inside of a dog it's too dark to read. - Groucho Marx
Do All Men Cheat?
- 29/07/2010 09:03:09 PM
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Is it just me, or does the paying kind of make her something else than a "mistress"? 
- 29/07/2010 09:30:56 PM
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- 29/07/2010 09:30:56 PM
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Her "100%" claim was ambiguous in the worst possible way.
- 29/07/2010 10:21:13 PM
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I dunno, there's really only one interpretation that makes sense.
- 29/07/2010 10:29:48 PM
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Well, gay men have had the reputation for being exceptionally promiscuous, so don't discount them. *NM*
- 30/07/2010 09:33:45 AM
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She's right about one thing:
- 29/07/2010 09:37:38 PM
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That's true
- 30/07/2010 12:27:02 AM
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I think that's a lie designed to make men who do cheat in their minds feel better about it.
- 30/07/2010 12:41:48 AM
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Are you talking about gay and asexual men?
- 30/07/2010 12:44:44 AM
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I think we're not understanding each other here. 
- 30/07/2010 12:47:09 AM
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- 30/07/2010 12:47:09 AM
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Sorry darlin you just don't know what it's like to be a man 
- 30/07/2010 01:21:48 AM
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- 30/07/2010 01:21:48 AM
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apparently being a man includes condescending.
- 30/07/2010 01:28:20 AM
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You don't think we talk? I'm not just puffing gas here
- 30/07/2010 02:04:59 AM
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i'm just trying to say that totally discounting what she was saying was rude
- 30/07/2010 02:16:03 AM
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You don't think that a woman can have a completely honest conversation with a man?
- 30/07/2010 08:49:21 AM
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It's a stereotype based on pretty solid biological evidence, though.
- 30/07/2010 09:10:30 AM
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No offense, but that post is rather useless as long as you don't define "sexual thoughts".
- 30/07/2010 09:54:37 AM
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Regardless of what you and your friends do or say, it's not true of all men.
- 30/07/2010 05:51:49 PM
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"mentally monogamous" is one of the stupidest expressions I've ever heard. i can't even comment. *NM*
- 30/07/2010 04:56:15 PM
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Every man can't cheat every day, because not every man is in a relationship *NM*
- 31/07/2010 07:54:31 AM
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I love my husband.
- 29/07/2010 09:44:51 PM
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Be thankful you can't read his mind. Ignorance is bliss *NM*
- 29/07/2010 10:17:38 PM
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- 29/07/2010 10:33:08 PM
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- 29/07/2010 10:17:38 PM
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- 29/07/2010 10:33:08 PM
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You mean like one would appreciate fine art? Nothing sexual about that *NM*
- 29/07/2010 10:35:35 PM
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*NM*
- 29/07/2010 10:35:35 PM
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Heh.
- 29/07/2010 10:41:34 PM
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Would you honestly get upset at him for that?
- 30/07/2010 08:39:50 PM
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Hmm
- 29/07/2010 10:45:48 PM
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I totally know that i was just using it to start a conversation
- 29/07/2010 10:49:05 PM
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i was just using it to start a conversation
- 29/07/2010 10:49:05 PM
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Biologically designed....
- 30/07/2010 03:54:00 AM
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Bastard...
- 03/08/2010 09:52:41 AM
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I feel confident in saying that all men think mentally at somepoint in a sexual way toward...
- 30/07/2010 07:06:57 AM
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one major porblem with this whole thing
- 30/07/2010 08:33:18 PM
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That's the exact point, she'll get skewed results due to the self selected nature of her study group
- 31/07/2010 08:02:54 AM
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"Don't let yourself go — there is nothing less valued than a commodity that no one else wants"
- 31/07/2010 09:52:29 AM
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having reread this article, theres's actually very little that i disagree with *NM*
- 31/07/2010 10:04:43 AM
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