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Would you honestly get upset at him for that? StormCrow Send a noteboard - 30/07/2010 08:39:50 PM
I think that even having a simple sexual appreciation when looking at another woman isn't cheating. There's a certain biology to it. ;)

Imagining himself in bed with her would be a totally different matter.


I'm honestly curious here and have had this conversation with several female friends that have said something similar.

The first was a coworker that was convinced her long distance fiancé wasn't peeking at naughty things on the internet (when she wasn't there of course). They saw each other about 1 time a month and that was all he needed. They were 23, fresh out of school at the time.

My argument at the time was, who cares if he looks at something and gets his rocks off when you're not around? He's not intent on finding these ladies so that he can actually do anything with them. Just fantasizing since he couldn't be with her. I'm sure he wouldn't care if she did something similar. Better than going out with "real" women, strip clubs, etc.

To me it boils down to the intent. Is it just a fantasy that's not taking away from the real relationship? Well, alright. Is it something repetitive, getting in the way of that person’s actual relationship, which they intend to carry out physically? Not good.
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Do All Men Cheat? LadyLorraine - 29/07/2010 09:03:09 PM 1667 Views
Is it just me, or does the paying kind of make her something else than a "mistress"? Legolas - 29/07/2010 09:30:56 PM 1227 Views
that was the idea i'm aware the article is FULL of holes *NM* LadyLorraine - 29/07/2010 10:16:00 PM 530 Views
Her "100%" claim was ambiguous in the worst possible way. Tim - 29/07/2010 10:21:13 PM 1185 Views
I dunno, there's really only one interpretation that makes sense. Legolas - 29/07/2010 10:29:48 PM 1271 Views
Well, gay men have had the reputation for being exceptionally promiscuous, so don't discount them. *NM* Ghavrel - 30/07/2010 09:33:45 AM 638 Views
Sure, but it's not women they look at and think about. *NM* Legolas - 30/07/2010 09:55:33 AM 572 Views
Payment is payment, whether in bills or a wedding ring *NM* Cannoli - 29/07/2010 11:31:09 PM 584 Views
She's right about one thing: Dark Knight - 29/07/2010 09:37:38 PM 1242 Views
but it's not like that's limited to men. LadyLorraine - 29/07/2010 10:20:21 PM 1115 Views
I knew it! *NM* Dark Knight - 29/07/2010 10:33:20 PM 532 Views
That's true ironclad - 30/07/2010 12:27:02 AM 1006 Views
For some men its not so long...that sounded dirty didn't it? Dark Knight - 30/07/2010 12:37:28 AM 1185 Views
I think that's a lie designed to make men who do cheat in their minds feel better about it. Rebekah - 30/07/2010 12:41:48 AM 1363 Views
Are you talking about gay and asexual men? Tim - 30/07/2010 12:44:44 AM 1118 Views
I think we're not understanding each other here. Rebekah - 30/07/2010 12:47:09 AM 1278 Views
Sorry darlin you just don't know what it's like to be a man Dark Knight - 30/07/2010 01:21:48 AM 1167 Views
apparently being a man includes condescending. LadyLorraine - 30/07/2010 01:28:20 AM 1055 Views
You don't think we talk? I'm not just puffing gas here Dark Knight - 30/07/2010 02:04:59 AM 1182 Views
i'm just trying to say that totally discounting what she was saying was rude LadyLorraine - 30/07/2010 02:16:03 AM 1281 Views
Point taken Dark Knight - 30/07/2010 02:21:21 AM 1217 Views
still, that being said... LadyLorraine - 30/07/2010 02:31:11 AM 1122 Views
Or not. Rebekah - 30/07/2010 08:40:48 AM 1153 Views
You don't think that a woman can have a completely honest conversation with a man? Rebekah - 30/07/2010 08:49:21 AM 1239 Views
It's a stereotype based on pretty solid biological evidence, though. Ghavrel - 30/07/2010 09:10:30 AM 1162 Views
No offense, but that post is rather useless as long as you don't define "sexual thoughts". Legolas - 30/07/2010 09:54:37 AM 1431 Views
True. Ghavrel - 31/07/2010 08:20:28 AM 1126 Views
Regardless of what you and your friends do or say, it's not true of all men. lord-of-shadow - 30/07/2010 05:51:49 PM 1183 Views
Quite. Rebekah - 30/07/2010 08:40:18 AM 1067 Views
snoopcester - 30/07/2010 10:31:20 AM 1028 Views
"mentally monogamous" is one of the stupidest expressions I've ever heard. i can't even comment. *NM* Aeryn - 30/07/2010 04:56:15 PM 812 Views
XD [hi5!] *NM* (beat.) - 31/07/2010 03:07:09 AM 524 Views
This. *NM* Avendesora - 02/08/2010 04:42:59 PM 439 Views
Every man can't cheat every day, because not every man is in a relationship *NM* Helene - 31/07/2010 07:54:31 AM 513 Views
I love my husband. Rebekah - 29/07/2010 09:44:51 PM 1221 Views
Be thankful you can't read his mind. Ignorance is bliss *NM* Dark Knight - 29/07/2010 10:17:38 PM 529 Views
Rebekah - 29/07/2010 10:33:08 PM 999 Views
You mean like one would appreciate fine art? Nothing sexual about that *NM* Dark Knight - 29/07/2010 10:35:35 PM 578 Views
Heh. Rebekah - 29/07/2010 10:41:34 PM 1068 Views
Would you honestly get upset at him for that? StormCrow - 30/07/2010 08:39:50 PM 1117 Views
Personally, I would say... LadyLorraine - 30/07/2010 10:17:37 PM 1044 Views
That's kind of where I was coming from. StormCrow - 02/08/2010 03:33:37 PM 1318 Views
Hmm snoopcester - 29/07/2010 10:45:48 PM 1248 Views
I totally know that i was just using it to start a conversation LadyLorraine - 29/07/2010 10:49:05 PM 1012 Views
Liar! snoopcester - 29/07/2010 10:55:03 PM 1000 Views
*dumps a gallon of fresh sardines on your head* LadyLorraine - 29/07/2010 11:23:33 PM 1103 Views
...now I want some cake *NM* beetnemesis - 29/07/2010 11:21:18 PM 448 Views
me too, I have chocolate cake in the kitchen Delireus - 30/07/2010 06:00:24 AM 1102 Views
I don't know, sis. StarrBecca - 30/07/2010 03:52:21 AM 1221 Views
Biologically designed.... Ectheledhel - 30/07/2010 03:54:00 AM 1148 Views
Bastard... Joel - 03/08/2010 09:52:41 AM 1164 Views
It'd be too long Joel. Ectheledhel - 03/08/2010 03:38:19 PM 1087 Views
Fair enough. Joel - 03/08/2010 03:50:55 PM 1123 Views
I feel confident in saying that all men think mentally at somepoint in a sexual way toward... everynametaken - 30/07/2010 07:06:57 AM 1172 Views
This. *NM* Ghavrel - 30/07/2010 09:11:17 AM 619 Views
Utter nonsense. Macharius - 30/07/2010 01:57:42 PM 1111 Views
Works out well for the men. StormCrow - 30/07/2010 08:12:53 PM 1117 Views
No. Aeryn - 30/07/2010 04:58:06 PM 1201 Views
one major porblem with this whole thing random thoughts - 30/07/2010 08:33:18 PM 1000 Views
That's the exact point, she'll get skewed results due to the self selected nature of her study group Helene - 31/07/2010 08:02:54 AM 1142 Views
Not sure it is that much different for the ladies random thoughts - 01/08/2010 04:17:39 AM 1076 Views
Oh, I wouldn't doubt that, either. Helene - 06/08/2010 02:28:35 PM 1235 Views
~shrugs~ damookster - 31/07/2010 03:40:17 AM 973 Views
<3 *NM* Rebekah - 31/07/2010 10:21:38 AM 475 Views
"Don't let yourself go — there is nothing less valued than a commodity that no one else wants" Foxhead - 31/07/2010 09:52:29 AM 1431 Views
having reread this article, theres's actually very little that i disagree with *NM* Foxhead - 31/07/2010 10:04:43 AM 749 Views
If we're talking 'mentally' SilverWarder - 01/08/2010 03:31:48 AM 1266 Views
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