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Re: May I ask who's calling / Who is this? BlackAdder Send a noteboard - 22/09/2010 08:55:34 PM
For example, when someone asks "may I know your name(, please)?" the answer is not "yes, you may"


But the actual question here is: "May I know your name?"; the answer is, "sure, it's Lyringlas". I mean, it is inferred that they want your name, but you're actually asking for the permission to do so. So if you take out the permission to ask for their name, what are you actually asking other than "who are you?". I just don't like this-- it isn't me being rude, I am pleasant on the phone, I just don't like asking permission.

you're asking permission to know, not to ask. Logically, if they accept, they will tell you the answer since the next question would be "what is your name, then?"

It's a matter of politeness I guess. Sometimes, people don't feel it's necessary to tell you who they are or just don't want to. But your phrase assumes they will tell you.
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. lyringlas - 22/09/2010 08:19:28 PM 1829 Views
I think "May I ask who's calling" is more polite. Sareitha Sedai - 22/09/2010 08:26:55 PM 1247 Views
. lyringlas - 22/09/2010 08:31:17 PM 1200 Views
Well, but... Sareitha Sedai - 22/09/2010 08:42:22 PM 1288 Views
. lyringlas - 22/09/2010 09:05:01 PM 1169 Views
you may not BE a receptionist... LadyLorraine - 22/09/2010 09:20:09 PM 1301 Views
"And your name, so I can tell (the person you asked for)?" *NM* Hezzah - 23/09/2010 12:34:18 AM 581 Views
Re: May I ask who's calling / Who is this? BlackAdder - 22/09/2010 08:33:24 PM 1283 Views
. lyringlas - 22/09/2010 08:38:45 PM 1134 Views
Re: May I ask who's calling / Who is this? BlackAdder - 22/09/2010 08:55:34 PM 1448 Views
Well, the whole asking permission bit is part of being polite. *NM* Ghavrel - 22/09/2010 09:05:43 PM 550 Views
. lyringlas - 22/09/2010 09:06:47 PM 1157 Views
Not so good for the phone answering, then. *NM* Ghavrel - 22/09/2010 11:29:34 PM 580 Views
Hmm... Isaac - 22/09/2010 08:59:23 PM 1354 Views
It's "who" *NM* Aeryn - 22/09/2010 09:50:15 PM 579 Views
Quite true Isaac - 22/09/2010 10:07:46 PM 1283 Views
I say, "May I ask who's calling?" Tigr - 22/09/2010 09:00:10 PM 1235 Views
What do you do if they say "No" ? TaskmasterJack - 22/09/2010 09:43:42 PM 1206 Views
Than you say. ''Ok." They may have a reason for not disclosing their name. Aeryn - 22/09/2010 09:49:56 PM 1212 Views
That reason is often that they are nutters. M & M Maddy - 22/09/2010 10:29:19 PM 1312 Views
I hate it when people pull the "attorney-client privilege" thing. Ghavrel - 22/09/2010 11:31:01 PM 1114 Views
They are almost invariably nutters. Elaine - 23/09/2010 01:45:41 PM 1598 Views
Ah, you mean because they want to sell my boss storm windows or vinyl siding. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 22/09/2010 10:30:15 PM 591 Views
Tools! Tigr - 22/09/2010 10:13:32 PM 1201 Views
I usually ask: "Who am I speaking with, again?" ironclad - 22/09/2010 09:12:29 PM 1297 Views
I'm of the opinion that when you are at work, you represent your employer M & M Maddy - 22/09/2010 09:14:58 PM 1430 Views
^ this. *NM* LadyLorraine - 22/09/2010 09:23:00 PM 555 Views
Re: I'm of the opinion that when you are at work, you represent your employer lyringlas - 22/09/2010 09:42:29 PM 1390 Views
+1 *NM* Rebekah - 22/09/2010 10:10:59 PM 661 Views
I typically say something along the lines of "And who am I speaking to?" LadyLorraine - 22/09/2010 09:27:05 PM 1359 Views
Re: I typically say something along the lines of "And who am I speaking to?" lyringlas - 22/09/2010 09:40:10 PM 1376 Views
well, i can sympathize with that a bit at least LadyLorraine - 22/09/2010 10:00:34 PM 1520 Views
"Who should I say is calling?" *NM* TaskmasterJack - 22/09/2010 09:41:57 PM 568 Views
This. It's polite, and asks the question correctly. beetnemesis - 23/09/2010 02:05:01 AM 1209 Views
I usually say "Who may I say is calling?" but that works too... Tom - 23/09/2010 01:59:03 PM 1580 Views
language games..... temeraire - 22/09/2010 09:42:35 PM 1231 Views
There would be apoplectic outcries if I answered the phone in such a way lyringlas - 22/09/2010 09:45:56 PM 1414 Views
yeah.... i'm happy i get to be informal! temeraire - 23/09/2010 02:58:31 AM 1267 Views
Who is this? is unprofessional random thoughts - 22/09/2010 09:45:05 PM 1290 Views
Re: Who is this? is unprofessional lyringlas - 22/09/2010 09:48:58 PM 1462 Views
Re: Who is this? is unprofessional ironclad - 22/09/2010 09:54:13 PM 1253 Views
it is not US standards. *NM* LadyLorraine - 22/09/2010 10:03:47 PM 588 Views
good. *NM* ironclad - 22/09/2010 10:13:22 PM 637 Views
I generally don't because BlackAdder - 22/09/2010 10:43:38 PM 1156 Views
well fair enough... ironclad - 23/09/2010 08:07:08 AM 1224 Views
it doesn't matter if you HAVE to know their name. LadyLorraine - 22/09/2010 10:07:18 PM 1309 Views
You don’t have to transfer for them if they refuse but you should still ask politely random thoughts - 22/09/2010 10:31:55 PM 1325 Views
You are being silly and immature. Aeryn - 22/09/2010 09:49:20 PM 1108 Views
Thanks for your input? lyringlas - 22/09/2010 10:17:21 PM 1385 Views
I usually say, "B*tch, who you be!?" Mats Gambling Buddy - 22/09/2010 10:13:57 PM 1214 Views
Do you pronounce that with a click sound? Sareitha Sedai - 22/09/2010 10:15:29 PM 1269 Views
And I be all, like, sobbing and crying cause you're a rude jerk. And then you laugh at me some more TaskmasterJack - 22/09/2010 10:33:38 PM 1217 Views
Re: May I ask who's calling / Who is this? Zeeb - 22/09/2010 10:29:33 PM 1079 Views
Perfect. *NM* Avendesora - 23/09/2010 12:47:14 AM 632 Views
No you are *NM* Zeeb - 23/09/2010 11:53:07 AM 641 Views
Please stop splitting hairs. You're way is simply inccorrect. You cannot justify the rudeness away. M & M Maddy - 22/09/2010 10:49:05 PM 1379 Views
politeness is practically the definition of professionalism. LadyLorraine - 23/09/2010 03:37:27 AM 1275 Views
Who is this? always comes across as rude. *NM* Chas - 22/09/2010 11:17:31 PM 566 Views
"Who may I say is calling, please?" is short and polite. Tashmere - 23/09/2010 01:13:43 AM 1220 Views
when someone asks me "may I ask who's calling?"... damookster - 23/09/2010 03:29:30 AM 1181 Views
that's because you're a tool LadyLorraine - 23/09/2010 03:39:08 AM 1499 Views
because it amuses me *NM* damookster - 23/09/2010 03:41:18 AM 578 Views
It's quite simple, really. Do you like getting paid? Then answer the phone the way your boss wants *NM* Missa Sedai - 24/09/2010 03:46:24 AM 613 Views
Huh Sareitha Sedai - 15/07/2015 02:06:55 PM 776 Views
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