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I definitely think so. nossy Send a noteboard - 29/10/2010 05:08:01 PM
That he comes over while his son is gone doesn't sound so much like co-dependency (if that were the case, I suspect dad would come over while son was home). Or maybe the two are tied together in some way, since it sounds like he doesn't clean your areas of the house/apartment.

he doesn't avoid him, typically, but he did take the opportunity to do something he knows roommate wouldn't want done. And he initially did come into my room, until I just about had a fit. That hasn't happened in a while.

Moving forward, could you suggest that his father wean himself off the habit? Instead of coming over every/other day, try to keep it to once a week, then every other week, once a month, etc. I think it would be better to work with dad, get him to admit he has a problem, and work with it pro-actively. Basically, wean dad off his habit. Suggesting professional help might be a good idea as well, since when confronted with it he seems to at least recognize that there's something not right with how things are now even if he can't control it.

I'm not sure what all has really been tried, but I know he's been "weaned" off before. Then he starts slowly building back up from one day to two and then gets back to almost daily. I don't know if they've discussed professional help.

I'd say that asking for the key back would only be a last-case scenario, to be done after the above.

Yeah, a lot of that has been done, so I think an actual ultimatum was delivered today. Basically, "STOP or I'm not letting you come over."
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Does anyone understand co-dependency? nossy - 29/10/2010 03:59:52 PM 978 Views
That's almost.... creepy. Mats Gambling Buddy - 29/10/2010 04:12:50 PM 687 Views
Almost? nossy - 29/10/2010 04:45:41 PM 679 Views
It sounds like the man may have some OCD cleaning problems as well. Macharius - 29/10/2010 04:13:28 PM 707 Views
I definitely think so. nossy - 29/10/2010 05:08:01 PM 695 Views
Re: I definitely think so. Macharius - 29/10/2010 06:17:51 PM 679 Views
I dunno. Sareitha Sedai - 29/10/2010 04:26:19 PM 759 Views
Re: I dunno. nossy - 29/10/2010 05:11:59 PM 741 Views
I don't think it's offensive. Sareitha Sedai - 29/10/2010 05:19:03 PM 707 Views
well..even if it isn't offensive by nature, his dad will probably still be offended LadyLorraine - 29/10/2010 05:25:54 PM 697 Views
Of course he will. Sareitha Sedai - 29/10/2010 05:37:08 PM 700 Views
Um... I disagree with "what he's gettingout of it". Avendesora - 30/10/2010 12:48:56 PM 688 Views
and if one wants a father, rather than a free maid? nossy - 30/10/2010 03:00:03 PM 734 Views
He can make sure the place is clean before the father shows up. Avendesora - 30/10/2010 03:25:40 PM 688 Views
I honestly think SilverWarder - 29/10/2010 05:12:09 PM 687 Views
I'd also say just take the key, but that's just me. LadyLorraine - 29/10/2010 05:16:17 PM 666 Views
Why does he have a key? BlackAdder - 29/10/2010 05:23:50 PM 625 Views
The father needs to find his own drive, but you probably aren't the one to fix that. *NM* Zalis - 29/10/2010 06:11:57 PM 426 Views
Does he do the dishes and clean the bathrooms? Vodalus - 29/10/2010 06:54:07 PM 669 Views
Tell your roomate to sh*t or get off the pot ßelals Girl - 29/10/2010 07:37:35 PM 653 Views
that sounds, er, nice and all nossy - 30/10/2010 03:07:06 PM 760 Views
sorry, but it sounds like the time for "niceness" has long passed ßelals Girl - 30/10/2010 07:28:56 PM 742 Views
Give him my address and everyone wins. Joel - 30/10/2010 10:25:30 AM 701 Views
I totally agree with Ave... damookster - 30/10/2010 11:52:08 PM 742 Views
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