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Gah, weddings. Camilla Send a noteboard - 04/04/2011 03:43:51 PM
So, I've been engaged for over a year now, and we haven't set a wedding date yet.

I like this, as I like being engaged. And planning a wedding sounds like an awful lot of work to me (and probably requires throwing a lot of money at it, too). I'm not really the kind of woman who's been planning her marriage since the age of 4.

I do have a vague sense that I want to throw a really cool party.


I sympathise. I wasn't going to get married, because I thought it was deeply silly. Pragmatism wins, however; but I am resisting the cliché of the matching napkins and the colour coordination with all my heart. I want a big party. That is all.

So on to the survey:

1. 'Did you ever attend a wedding? (if not, prob this survey isn't for you)


A couple, yes.

2. Do you like weddings?


Meh. Sure. They are all right. There is often good food, and I like to cry at speeches. But I get hives from the matching everythings and the impersonal format.

3. Did you ever organize a wedding? (Was it your own?)


Am currently doing it. In theory, anyway.

4. What was the best wedding you ever went to, and why was it so good? (cue for: my own, because I love my spouse so much! real intention of question is that I want to know what made the party fun)


I am not sure I can single out a single wedding. All weddings I have been to have had good things (things that only worked there, because they were particular to that couple) and things that made me cringe (did I mention matching napkins and flowers?). I think I am better at explaining what does not work than what works.

5. What kind of wedding would you like to throw yourself (if you were to marry at some point)?


We are having it in my mother's garden (decided in a haze on wine many years ago and too late to go back on, despite me realising that outside in summer there are bugs and weather in Norway really does not work with outside seating). No white dress. Civil official marrying us just before dinner. No white dress, did I mention? Everyone has to wear a hat. No matching napkins.

6. Do you like traditional weddings, or ones that do something unique/funny?


I think you can guess from my earlier replies.
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Weddings Helene - 04/04/2011 02:16:28 PM 1434 Views
Own answers Helene - 04/04/2011 02:24:56 PM 1011 Views
Bach. CEREMONY!!! LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 02:25:14 PM 1062 Views
The wedding is the entire day, right, ceremony + reception? Helene - 04/04/2011 02:39:38 PM 1002 Views
ha ha yah I was sober. Unfort. actually LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 10:32:50 PM 787 Views
Coldness can sober/wake you up...of course, warmth then can make it come back with a vengeance. *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:13 PM 397 Views
Yah, I would have put the window down LadyLorraine - 06/04/2011 04:44:12 AM 762 Views
Re: Weddings random thoughts - 04/04/2011 02:30:21 PM 934 Views
What's JP? Helene - 04/04/2011 02:43:56 PM 890 Views
The smart way to get married random thoughts - 04/04/2011 03:21:54 PM 814 Views
Ah... we don't do that here, at least, not that fast Helene - 04/04/2011 03:26:43 PM 802 Views
there is still a waiting periiod depending on the state random thoughts - 04/04/2011 04:36:43 PM 793 Views
Oh ok :-). Then it's not very different. Is it just Nevada that has the quick wedding? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:44 PM 376 Views
Re: Weddings nossy - 04/04/2011 02:56:31 PM 927 Views
But you're marrying Snoopster! Helene - 04/04/2011 03:15:42 PM 965 Views
That's part of the problem! nossy - 04/04/2011 03:26:20 PM 1055 Views
snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:42 PM 930 Views
Sorry, but you shouldn't have just assumed you were invited. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:33:46 PM 386 Views
I am quietly confident I'm not her aunt. *NM* snoopcester - 04/04/2011 11:05:33 PM 388 Views
But how do we know you're not? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:59:05 PM 382 Views
Re: That's part of the problem! Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:11:53 PM 903 Views
She wouldn't be dramatic there, that would be fine. nossy - 05/04/2011 05:11:47 PM 926 Views
If you don't want drama, don't invite family. Seriously, listen to the voice of experience here. *NM* Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:07:42 PM 441 Views
you are not factoring in the drama of not inviting family. Camilla - 04/04/2011 04:32:51 PM 857 Views
Yes, I was. Macharius - 04/04/2011 06:51:29 PM 857 Views
Wow Camilla - 04/04/2011 06:53:18 PM 850 Views
How can you *not* invite family? Family is all that matters. *NM* Vivien - 05/04/2011 02:18:55 AM 426 Views
That entirely depends on how you define family. LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 03:46:11 AM 921 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:16:15 PM 821 Views
a lot of families create a lot of inner suffering LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 10:49:50 PM 854 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:26:06 PM 867 Views
In your opinion. For me, as an example, it is the people I care for and respect that matter. snoopcester - 05/04/2011 10:26:53 AM 763 Views
We just come from different worlds. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:14:32 PM 877 Views
Yes snoopcester - 05/04/2011 08:56:17 PM 902 Views
Sorry Grandma but we only had room for 100 guest and you didn't make the cut *NM* random thoughts - 05/04/2011 02:22:07 PM 362 Views
Are you getting married over here or over there? Clover - 26/04/2011 09:22:21 PM 838 Views
I've always wondered about how that works... ironclad - 04/04/2011 03:01:12 PM 887 Views
I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene - 04/04/2011 03:20:41 PM 947 Views
Re: I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks ironclad - 04/04/2011 03:38:03 PM 977 Views
Re: I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene - 05/04/2011 01:22:03 PM 884 Views
well, certainly you will talk about it with your s.o. before it happens. temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:47:30 PM 883 Views
Re: Weddings Birdeye - 04/04/2011 03:27:29 PM 998 Views
Re: Weddings TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:37:03 PM 876 Views
Gah, weddings. Camilla - 04/04/2011 03:43:51 PM 932 Views
Getting hitched snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:20 PM 941 Views
Re: Getting hitched Camilla - 04/04/2011 03:57:18 PM 842 Views
that is the catch snoopcester - 04/04/2011 04:42:16 PM 867 Views
Re: that is the catch Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:18:33 PM 821 Views
Probably best not to count the wedding present snoopcester - 05/04/2011 09:01:45 PM 856 Views
Re: Probably best not to count the wedding present Vivien - 11/04/2011 01:20:24 AM 924 Views
Re: Weddings Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:19:16 PM 817 Views
Re: Weddings jh - 04/04/2011 04:58:28 PM 963 Views
Re: Weddings Stephen - 04/04/2011 05:42:06 PM 871 Views
ugh. we are having so much trouble with this... temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:30:10 PM 931 Views
A very special episode of Love Boat. TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:46:28 PM 858 Views
Well. Rebekah - 04/04/2011 09:50:04 PM 853 Views
Oooh, what did you wear? Vivien - 05/04/2011 02:26:51 AM 817 Views
You can see the top of it in my profile pic. Rebekah - 06/04/2011 08:37:49 AM 894 Views
I'd like to elope myself Mark - 04/04/2011 10:18:13 PM 894 Views
I do! Vivien - 05/04/2011 01:35:41 AM 815 Views
Re: Weddings wolfsister - 05/04/2011 02:40:38 AM 871 Views
Re-Weddings are cool; far less stressful, I think. Joel - 05/04/2011 04:38:03 AM 931 Views
Weddings...are we talking about mawage? Tom - 05/04/2011 09:18:17 PM 856 Views
Re: Weddings Aeryn - 06/04/2011 04:30:17 AM 878 Views
Re: Weddings globug0822 - 06/04/2011 05:58:54 AM 878 Views
I take it back... there was one. globug0822 - 06/04/2011 06:08:59 AM 752 Views
Re: I recently attended a wedding. mother of pearl - 15/04/2011 02:59:47 PM 1000 Views
There must be at least five wotmaniac ladies who are engaged now. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:40:38 PM 937 Views
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