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Gah, weddings. Camilla Send a noteboard - 04/04/2011 03:43:51 PM
So, I've been engaged for over a year now, and we haven't set a wedding date yet.

I like this, as I like being engaged. And planning a wedding sounds like an awful lot of work to me (and probably requires throwing a lot of money at it, too). I'm not really the kind of woman who's been planning her marriage since the age of 4.

I do have a vague sense that I want to throw a really cool party.


I sympathise. I wasn't going to get married, because I thought it was deeply silly. Pragmatism wins, however; but I am resisting the cliché of the matching napkins and the colour coordination with all my heart. I want a big party. That is all.

So on to the survey:

1. 'Did you ever attend a wedding? (if not, prob this survey isn't for you)


A couple, yes.

2. Do you like weddings?


Meh. Sure. They are all right. There is often good food, and I like to cry at speeches. But I get hives from the matching everythings and the impersonal format.

3. Did you ever organize a wedding? (Was it your own?)


Am currently doing it. In theory, anyway.

4. What was the best wedding you ever went to, and why was it so good? (cue for: my own, because I love my spouse so much! real intention of question is that I want to know what made the party fun)


I am not sure I can single out a single wedding. All weddings I have been to have had good things (things that only worked there, because they were particular to that couple) and things that made me cringe (did I mention matching napkins and flowers?). I think I am better at explaining what does not work than what works.

5. What kind of wedding would you like to throw yourself (if you were to marry at some point)?


We are having it in my mother's garden (decided in a haze on wine many years ago and too late to go back on, despite me realising that outside in summer there are bugs and weather in Norway really does not work with outside seating). No white dress. Civil official marrying us just before dinner. No white dress, did I mention? Everyone has to wear a hat. No matching napkins.

6. Do you like traditional weddings, or ones that do something unique/funny?


I think you can guess from my earlier replies.
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Weddings Helene - 04/04/2011 02:16:28 PM 1390 Views
Own answers Helene - 04/04/2011 02:24:56 PM 965 Views
Bach. CEREMONY!!! LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 02:25:14 PM 1009 Views
The wedding is the entire day, right, ceremony + reception? Helene - 04/04/2011 02:39:38 PM 962 Views
ha ha yah I was sober. Unfort. actually LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 10:32:50 PM 735 Views
Coldness can sober/wake you up...of course, warmth then can make it come back with a vengeance. *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:13 PM 370 Views
Yah, I would have put the window down LadyLorraine - 06/04/2011 04:44:12 AM 716 Views
Re: Weddings random thoughts - 04/04/2011 02:30:21 PM 888 Views
What's JP? Helene - 04/04/2011 02:43:56 PM 847 Views
The smart way to get married random thoughts - 04/04/2011 03:21:54 PM 767 Views
Ah... we don't do that here, at least, not that fast Helene - 04/04/2011 03:26:43 PM 757 Views
there is still a waiting periiod depending on the state random thoughts - 04/04/2011 04:36:43 PM 747 Views
Oh ok :-). Then it's not very different. Is it just Nevada that has the quick wedding? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:44 PM 352 Views
Re: Weddings nossy - 04/04/2011 02:56:31 PM 872 Views
But you're marrying Snoopster! Helene - 04/04/2011 03:15:42 PM 907 Views
That's part of the problem! nossy - 04/04/2011 03:26:20 PM 1000 Views
snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:42 PM 888 Views
Sorry, but you shouldn't have just assumed you were invited. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:33:46 PM 362 Views
I am quietly confident I'm not her aunt. *NM* snoopcester - 04/04/2011 11:05:33 PM 359 Views
But how do we know you're not? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:59:05 PM 361 Views
Re: That's part of the problem! Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:11:53 PM 862 Views
She wouldn't be dramatic there, that would be fine. nossy - 05/04/2011 05:11:47 PM 875 Views
If you don't want drama, don't invite family. Seriously, listen to the voice of experience here. *NM* Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:07:42 PM 416 Views
you are not factoring in the drama of not inviting family. Camilla - 04/04/2011 04:32:51 PM 797 Views
Yes, I was. Macharius - 04/04/2011 06:51:29 PM 801 Views
Wow Camilla - 04/04/2011 06:53:18 PM 806 Views
How can you *not* invite family? Family is all that matters. *NM* Vivien - 05/04/2011 02:18:55 AM 409 Views
That entirely depends on how you define family. LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 03:46:11 AM 866 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:16:15 PM 777 Views
a lot of families create a lot of inner suffering LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 10:49:50 PM 807 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:26:06 PM 817 Views
In your opinion. For me, as an example, it is the people I care for and respect that matter. snoopcester - 05/04/2011 10:26:53 AM 717 Views
We just come from different worlds. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:14:32 PM 830 Views
Yes snoopcester - 05/04/2011 08:56:17 PM 859 Views
Sorry Grandma but we only had room for 100 guest and you didn't make the cut *NM* random thoughts - 05/04/2011 02:22:07 PM 345 Views
Are you getting married over here or over there? Clover - 26/04/2011 09:22:21 PM 774 Views
I've always wondered about how that works... ironclad - 04/04/2011 03:01:12 PM 837 Views
I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene - 04/04/2011 03:20:41 PM 899 Views
Re: I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks ironclad - 04/04/2011 03:38:03 PM 932 Views
Re: I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene - 05/04/2011 01:22:03 PM 848 Views
well, certainly you will talk about it with your s.o. before it happens. temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:47:30 PM 830 Views
Re: Weddings Birdeye - 04/04/2011 03:27:29 PM 952 Views
Re: Weddings TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:37:03 PM 823 Views
Gah, weddings. Camilla - 04/04/2011 03:43:51 PM 872 Views
Getting hitched snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:20 PM 900 Views
Re: Getting hitched Camilla - 04/04/2011 03:57:18 PM 793 Views
that is the catch snoopcester - 04/04/2011 04:42:16 PM 816 Views
Re: that is the catch Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:18:33 PM 775 Views
Probably best not to count the wedding present snoopcester - 05/04/2011 09:01:45 PM 814 Views
Re: Probably best not to count the wedding present Vivien - 11/04/2011 01:20:24 AM 884 Views
Re: Weddings Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:19:16 PM 762 Views
Re: Weddings jh - 04/04/2011 04:58:28 PM 920 Views
Re: Weddings Stephen - 04/04/2011 05:42:06 PM 832 Views
ugh. we are having so much trouble with this... temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:30:10 PM 867 Views
A very special episode of Love Boat. TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:46:28 PM 809 Views
Well. Rebekah - 04/04/2011 09:50:04 PM 811 Views
Oooh, what did you wear? Vivien - 05/04/2011 02:26:51 AM 773 Views
You can see the top of it in my profile pic. Rebekah - 06/04/2011 08:37:49 AM 850 Views
I'd like to elope myself Mark - 04/04/2011 10:18:13 PM 853 Views
I do! Vivien - 05/04/2011 01:35:41 AM 749 Views
Re: Weddings wolfsister - 05/04/2011 02:40:38 AM 831 Views
Re-Weddings are cool; far less stressful, I think. Joel - 05/04/2011 04:38:03 AM 879 Views
Weddings...are we talking about mawage? Tom - 05/04/2011 09:18:17 PM 802 Views
Re: Weddings Aeryn - 06/04/2011 04:30:17 AM 829 Views
Re: Weddings globug0822 - 06/04/2011 05:58:54 AM 841 Views
I take it back... there was one. globug0822 - 06/04/2011 06:08:59 AM 702 Views
Re: I recently attended a wedding. mother of pearl - 15/04/2011 02:59:47 PM 945 Views
There must be at least five wotmaniac ladies who are engaged now. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:40:38 PM 877 Views
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