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Re: Probably best not to count the wedding present Vivien Send a noteboard - 11/04/2011 01:20:24 AM
The friends I know who did it were very clear that they didn't want wedding presents, since as far as they were concerned travelling to their wedding was a wedding present from the guests. I agree with them on that and would think it fairly obnoxious to expect a present on top of attending.

Well they don't get a holiday *out of it*, they're forced to use both their vacation time and vacation money for it, and that's not even counting the wedding present. I think it's really irresponsible to ask other people to spend money like that, unless everyone you want at your wedding is loaded and would not mind.


Well yes they do very much get a holiday out of it - perhaps we have different definitions of "holiday"?


Yeah. Vacation time is quite precious in the US. Average number of paid vacation days in the US, counting paid holidays- 15. Remember, that's counting holidays, so you can't shift those around. For professionals, it's typical to have 2 weeks of paid vacation time in addition to a few holidays.

At my place of employment, the vacation policy was fairly generous. I had 4 (I think) paid holidays, 4 floating holidays, and 10 days vacation. The floating holidays are not as great as they sound because I would forget that a floating holiday is coming up, I'd forget to put in the request for the vacation day in time, and then I'd be stuck spending hours and hours commuting on these holidays because public transportation is awful on holidays.

I didn't even go on any long vacations when I was working. There were some long weekends where I'd take a friday or monday off but generally I also wound up taking vacation day every other month or so just to catch up on errands and go to the dentist/doctor and stuff like that.
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Own answers Helene - 04/04/2011 02:24:56 PM 1080 Views
Bach. CEREMONY!!! LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 02:25:14 PM 1144 Views
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ha ha yah I was sober. Unfort. actually LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 10:32:50 PM 858 Views
Coldness can sober/wake you up...of course, warmth then can make it come back with a vengeance. *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:13 PM 434 Views
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Re: Weddings random thoughts - 04/04/2011 02:30:21 PM 994 Views
What's JP? Helene - 04/04/2011 02:43:56 PM 960 Views
The smart way to get married random thoughts - 04/04/2011 03:21:54 PM 894 Views
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there is still a waiting periiod depending on the state random thoughts - 04/04/2011 04:36:43 PM 869 Views
Oh ok :-). Then it's not very different. Is it just Nevada that has the quick wedding? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:44 PM 412 Views
Re: Weddings nossy - 04/04/2011 02:56:31 PM 998 Views
But you're marrying Snoopster! Helene - 04/04/2011 03:15:42 PM 1055 Views
That's part of the problem! nossy - 04/04/2011 03:26:20 PM 1148 Views
snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:42 PM 1017 Views
Sorry, but you shouldn't have just assumed you were invited. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:33:46 PM 424 Views
I am quietly confident I'm not her aunt. *NM* snoopcester - 04/04/2011 11:05:33 PM 420 Views
But how do we know you're not? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:59:05 PM 414 Views
Re: That's part of the problem! Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:11:53 PM 980 Views
She wouldn't be dramatic there, that would be fine. nossy - 05/04/2011 05:11:47 PM 1002 Views
If you don't want drama, don't invite family. Seriously, listen to the voice of experience here. *NM* Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:07:42 PM 476 Views
you are not factoring in the drama of not inviting family. Camilla - 04/04/2011 04:32:51 PM 937 Views
Yes, I was. Macharius - 04/04/2011 06:51:29 PM 940 Views
Wow Camilla - 04/04/2011 06:53:18 PM 926 Views
How can you *not* invite family? Family is all that matters. *NM* Vivien - 05/04/2011 02:18:55 AM 454 Views
That entirely depends on how you define family. LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 03:46:11 AM 988 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:16:15 PM 884 Views
a lot of families create a lot of inner suffering LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 10:49:50 PM 932 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:26:06 PM 943 Views
In your opinion. For me, as an example, it is the people I care for and respect that matter. snoopcester - 05/04/2011 10:26:53 AM 835 Views
We just come from different worlds. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:14:32 PM 958 Views
Yes snoopcester - 05/04/2011 08:56:17 PM 972 Views
Sorry Grandma but we only had room for 100 guest and you didn't make the cut *NM* random thoughts - 05/04/2011 02:22:07 PM 396 Views
Are you getting married over here or over there? Clover - 26/04/2011 09:22:21 PM 922 Views
I've always wondered about how that works... ironclad - 04/04/2011 03:01:12 PM 968 Views
I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene - 04/04/2011 03:20:41 PM 1014 Views
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well, certainly you will talk about it with your s.o. before it happens. temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:47:30 PM 976 Views
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Gah, weddings. Camilla - 04/04/2011 03:43:51 PM 1007 Views
Getting hitched snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:20 PM 1022 Views
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that is the catch snoopcester - 04/04/2011 04:42:16 PM 962 Views
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Probably best not to count the wedding present snoopcester - 05/04/2011 09:01:45 PM 923 Views
Re: Probably best not to count the wedding present Vivien - 11/04/2011 01:20:24 AM 1002 Views
Re: Weddings Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:19:16 PM 897 Views
Re: Weddings jh - 04/04/2011 04:58:28 PM 1056 Views
Re: Weddings Stephen - 04/04/2011 05:42:06 PM 941 Views
ugh. we are having so much trouble with this... temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:30:10 PM 996 Views
A very special episode of Love Boat. TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:46:28 PM 937 Views
Well. Rebekah - 04/04/2011 09:50:04 PM 915 Views
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You can see the top of it in my profile pic. Rebekah - 06/04/2011 08:37:49 AM 970 Views
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I do! Vivien - 05/04/2011 01:35:41 AM 908 Views
Re: Weddings wolfsister - 05/04/2011 02:40:38 AM 950 Views
Re-Weddings are cool; far less stressful, I think. Joel - 05/04/2011 04:38:03 AM 1013 Views
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I take it back... there was one. globug0822 - 06/04/2011 06:08:59 AM 828 Views
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There must be at least five wotmaniac ladies who are engaged now. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:40:38 PM 1004 Views
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