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Re: Probably best not to count the wedding present Vivien Send a noteboard - 11/04/2011 01:20:24 AM
The friends I know who did it were very clear that they didn't want wedding presents, since as far as they were concerned travelling to their wedding was a wedding present from the guests. I agree with them on that and would think it fairly obnoxious to expect a present on top of attending.

Well they don't get a holiday *out of it*, they're forced to use both their vacation time and vacation money for it, and that's not even counting the wedding present. I think it's really irresponsible to ask other people to spend money like that, unless everyone you want at your wedding is loaded and would not mind.


Well yes they do very much get a holiday out of it - perhaps we have different definitions of "holiday"?


Yeah. Vacation time is quite precious in the US. Average number of paid vacation days in the US, counting paid holidays- 15. Remember, that's counting holidays, so you can't shift those around. For professionals, it's typical to have 2 weeks of paid vacation time in addition to a few holidays.

At my place of employment, the vacation policy was fairly generous. I had 4 (I think) paid holidays, 4 floating holidays, and 10 days vacation. The floating holidays are not as great as they sound because I would forget that a floating holiday is coming up, I'd forget to put in the request for the vacation day in time, and then I'd be stuck spending hours and hours commuting on these holidays because public transportation is awful on holidays.

I didn't even go on any long vacations when I was working. There were some long weekends where I'd take a friday or monday off but generally I also wound up taking vacation day every other month or so just to catch up on errands and go to the dentist/doctor and stuff like that.
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Bach. CEREMONY!!! LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 02:25:14 PM 1120 Views
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Coldness can sober/wake you up...of course, warmth then can make it come back with a vengeance. *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:13 PM 428 Views
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Re: Weddings random thoughts - 04/04/2011 02:30:21 PM 976 Views
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The smart way to get married random thoughts - 04/04/2011 03:21:54 PM 875 Views
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Oh ok :-). Then it's not very different. Is it just Nevada that has the quick wedding? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:44 PM 406 Views
Re: Weddings nossy - 04/04/2011 02:56:31 PM 979 Views
But you're marrying Snoopster! Helene - 04/04/2011 03:15:42 PM 1032 Views
That's part of the problem! nossy - 04/04/2011 03:26:20 PM 1126 Views
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Sorry, but you shouldn't have just assumed you were invited. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:33:46 PM 415 Views
I am quietly confident I'm not her aunt. *NM* snoopcester - 04/04/2011 11:05:33 PM 412 Views
But how do we know you're not? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:59:05 PM 407 Views
Re: That's part of the problem! Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:11:53 PM 954 Views
She wouldn't be dramatic there, that would be fine. nossy - 05/04/2011 05:11:47 PM 988 Views
If you don't want drama, don't invite family. Seriously, listen to the voice of experience here. *NM* Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:07:42 PM 469 Views
you are not factoring in the drama of not inviting family. Camilla - 04/04/2011 04:32:51 PM 914 Views
Yes, I was. Macharius - 04/04/2011 06:51:29 PM 925 Views
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How can you *not* invite family? Family is all that matters. *NM* Vivien - 05/04/2011 02:18:55 AM 448 Views
That entirely depends on how you define family. LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 03:46:11 AM 970 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:16:15 PM 868 Views
a lot of families create a lot of inner suffering LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 10:49:50 PM 906 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:26:06 PM 921 Views
In your opinion. For me, as an example, it is the people I care for and respect that matter. snoopcester - 05/04/2011 10:26:53 AM 812 Views
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Getting hitched snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:20 PM 1000 Views
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Probably best not to count the wedding present snoopcester - 05/04/2011 09:01:45 PM 907 Views
Re: Probably best not to count the wedding present Vivien - 11/04/2011 01:20:24 AM 986 Views
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ugh. we are having so much trouble with this... temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:30:10 PM 981 Views
A very special episode of Love Boat. TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:46:28 PM 917 Views
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I take it back... there was one. globug0822 - 06/04/2011 06:08:59 AM 805 Views
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There must be at least five wotmaniac ladies who are engaged now. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:40:38 PM 983 Views
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