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That's right! Vivien Send a noteboard - 30/06/2011 12:04:49 AM
We have no way of knowing how much visual attention you lavish on her. But it might be worth a shot to dial it up a little, just to see. Even though I'm not feeling insecure, it still makes me feel good when my fiance ogles me. And I surely give her some visual appreciation of my own every chance I get. It can be especially fun in public.

That might not be the solution to your issue, but there wouldn't be any harm in trying, and it just might do some good.

EDIT - In fact, thinking about it, this is one of the things I love about my own relationship. The way we constantly and shamelessly check each other out, both in public and at home by ourselves.


Nothing to do with insecurity. Some people need to be looked at and admired, or just paid attention to. Doesn't even matter if it's romantic. Even if I'm spending time with someone totally platonically, if someone's not looking at me it's going to bother me. I've even made comments to a few people on non emergency cell phone use when one has the option of interacting with a real live person.
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My girlfriend is insane Postsecret - 29/06/2011 03:49:38 PM 1610 Views
I doubt she's trying to push you away. She's just that needy and insecure. Sareitha Sedai - 29/06/2011 03:57:14 PM 756 Views
Is this just a rant or do you want advice? *NM* Palatine - 29/06/2011 03:59:37 PM 364 Views
Sounds to me ... Nate - 29/06/2011 04:08:07 PM 949 Views
Nate is advocating a calm, reasonable approach. Tashmere - 29/06/2011 11:55:54 PM 785 Views
You need to have a very serious discussion about this with her Wulf`gar - 29/06/2011 04:53:37 PM 822 Views
Run. Amyrlin - 29/06/2011 05:28:38 PM 832 Views
I'm with Amy... Run! Isaac - 29/06/2011 05:52:08 PM 799 Views
If she's worth it in other ways, I wouldn't run. nossy - 29/06/2011 05:58:46 PM 865 Views
You are too weak. PUA theory says do the total opposite of what common sense tells you Sports_Gambler - 29/06/2011 06:03:09 PM 886 Views
Don't apply pua to a long term relationship... Helene - 29/06/2011 06:11:36 PM 910 Views
It should work here too Sports_Gambler - 29/06/2011 06:25:23 PM 872 Views
Seriously, stop buying into pua Helene - 29/06/2011 06:41:56 PM 796 Views
Honestly, check into her for cheating. Dragonsoul - 29/06/2011 06:13:15 PM 955 Views
Agreed. Crazy ol Lews Therin - 29/06/2011 06:21:06 PM 785 Views
This is a possibility. *NM* Tashmere - 29/06/2011 11:49:03 PM 323 Views
A possibility. *NM* everynametaken - 30/06/2011 04:53:03 AM 319 Views
How old are you both? Helene - 29/06/2011 06:20:02 PM 790 Views
Dump her. Tell her you never were interested in others, but now are due to her constant nagging. *NM* Tom - 29/06/2011 06:27:59 PM 346 Views
"Baby, you were so insistent when I wasn't doing it that I thought you wanted me too!" MightyYT - 29/06/2011 06:32:48 PM 778 Views
I agree. I know it would push me away. *NM* ironclad - 29/06/2011 10:40:13 PM 361 Views
That sounds so callous. But it is what I would do. I think that someone could get away with calling Tashmere - 29/06/2011 11:51:43 PM 770 Views
When someone complains about a gf/bf, when is it not the consensus that the relationship should end? Vivien - 30/06/2011 12:13:28 AM 749 Views
I am glad you called me on that. I was wrong to jump to jump on the "dump her" bandwagon Tashmere - 30/06/2011 03:46:24 AM 884 Views
Insane chicks are hot...for an hour at a time. Tigr - 29/06/2011 07:05:50 PM 838 Views
Decide which part of the Crazy/Hot Scale she is on... MightyYT - 29/06/2011 08:37:37 PM 841 Views
I agree with what Nate said ßelals Girl - 29/06/2011 07:53:27 PM 793 Views
Does that mean you're getting her a premie? Joel - 29/06/2011 09:03:18 PM 855 Views
It's just an annoyed rant! Unlikely she's as insane as the consensus in the thread. Vivien - 29/06/2011 09:11:45 PM 876 Views
Ogle her constantly. Dannymac - 29/06/2011 09:21:41 PM 864 Views
^ Danny and Vivien potentially have a point. Nate - 29/06/2011 11:00:41 PM 911 Views
That's right! Vivien - 30/06/2011 12:04:49 AM 811 Views
That's incredibly insecure and needy. Just... just so you know. beetnemesis - 30/06/2011 12:10:50 AM 729 Views
I did not use the word constant. Vivien - 30/06/2011 12:36:29 AM 783 Views
*shrug* I'm just saying beetnemesis - 30/06/2011 01:45:49 AM 743 Views
Having a need isn't the same thing as being needy. globug0822 - 30/06/2011 02:49:12 AM 883 Views
Yeah, I'm not trying to say (either of them) are bad people beetnemesis - 30/06/2011 03:33:59 AM 738 Views
Yes ironclad - 30/06/2011 05:16:23 PM 826 Views
Buy sunglasses. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 30/06/2011 12:36:31 AM 355 Views
The man with the practical advice out of left field while everyone else is arguing at home base. *NM* Vivien - 30/06/2011 01:41:12 AM 358 Views
*NM* Fox and Ravens - 30/06/2011 01:53:13 AM 354 Views
Re: There's no telling if... Gaps - 30/06/2011 02:11:27 AM 790 Views
Somebody I talked to brought up a valid possibility that I didn't know existed. I was wrong to jump Tashmere - 30/06/2011 03:41:53 AM 767 Views
Good point--those things really screw up some women and different ones have different effects *NM* Wulf`gar - 30/06/2011 01:53:44 PM 353 Views
I can't use them. They turn me into the Mega Bitch. Beqi - 30/06/2011 08:21:17 PM 1287 Views
You are wise. Two Wongs - 04/07/2011 12:02:35 PM 1151 Views
Tell her you're gay so she doesn't need to worry about you seeming to check them out. snoopcester - 30/06/2011 11:30:03 AM 787 Views
We're all just a little bit insane. Kel - 30/06/2011 05:20:22 PM 747 Views
Insecurity is not fatal. She needs to feel better about herself. Beqi - 30/06/2011 08:19:19 PM 741 Views
If you've had the DISCUSSION, and she's still nagging you...I'd find it annoying. *NM* StarrBecca - 01/07/2011 05:50:00 AM 352 Views
Tell her every thing you said here emphasis the last sentence Danu - 04/07/2011 01:38:43 AM 813 Views
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