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That's right! Vivien Send a noteboard - 30/06/2011 12:04:49 AM
We have no way of knowing how much visual attention you lavish on her. But it might be worth a shot to dial it up a little, just to see. Even though I'm not feeling insecure, it still makes me feel good when my fiance ogles me. And I surely give her some visual appreciation of my own every chance I get. It can be especially fun in public.

That might not be the solution to your issue, but there wouldn't be any harm in trying, and it just might do some good.

EDIT - In fact, thinking about it, this is one of the things I love about my own relationship. The way we constantly and shamelessly check each other out, both in public and at home by ourselves.


Nothing to do with insecurity. Some people need to be looked at and admired, or just paid attention to. Doesn't even matter if it's romantic. Even if I'm spending time with someone totally platonically, if someone's not looking at me it's going to bother me. I've even made comments to a few people on non emergency cell phone use when one has the option of interacting with a real live person.
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My girlfriend is insane Postsecret - 29/06/2011 03:49:38 PM 1588 Views
I doubt she's trying to push you away. She's just that needy and insecure. Sareitha Sedai - 29/06/2011 03:57:14 PM 737 Views
Is this just a rant or do you want advice? *NM* Palatine - 29/06/2011 03:59:37 PM 352 Views
Sounds to me ... Nate - 29/06/2011 04:08:07 PM 925 Views
Nate is advocating a calm, reasonable approach. Tashmere - 29/06/2011 11:55:54 PM 769 Views
You need to have a very serious discussion about this with her Wulf`gar - 29/06/2011 04:53:37 PM 799 Views
Run. Amyrlin - 29/06/2011 05:28:38 PM 808 Views
I'm with Amy... Run! Isaac - 29/06/2011 05:52:08 PM 769 Views
If she's worth it in other ways, I wouldn't run. nossy - 29/06/2011 05:58:46 PM 836 Views
You are too weak. PUA theory says do the total opposite of what common sense tells you Sports_Gambler - 29/06/2011 06:03:09 PM 859 Views
Don't apply pua to a long term relationship... Helene - 29/06/2011 06:11:36 PM 870 Views
It should work here too Sports_Gambler - 29/06/2011 06:25:23 PM 846 Views
Seriously, stop buying into pua Helene - 29/06/2011 06:41:56 PM 768 Views
Honestly, check into her for cheating. Dragonsoul - 29/06/2011 06:13:15 PM 932 Views
Agreed. Crazy ol Lews Therin - 29/06/2011 06:21:06 PM 760 Views
This is a possibility. *NM* Tashmere - 29/06/2011 11:49:03 PM 313 Views
A possibility. *NM* everynametaken - 30/06/2011 04:53:03 AM 310 Views
How old are you both? Helene - 29/06/2011 06:20:02 PM 761 Views
Dump her. Tell her you never were interested in others, but now are due to her constant nagging. *NM* Tom - 29/06/2011 06:27:59 PM 337 Views
"Baby, you were so insistent when I wasn't doing it that I thought you wanted me too!" MightyYT - 29/06/2011 06:32:48 PM 753 Views
I agree. I know it would push me away. *NM* ironclad - 29/06/2011 10:40:13 PM 351 Views
That sounds so callous. But it is what I would do. I think that someone could get away with calling Tashmere - 29/06/2011 11:51:43 PM 749 Views
When someone complains about a gf/bf, when is it not the consensus that the relationship should end? Vivien - 30/06/2011 12:13:28 AM 723 Views
I am glad you called me on that. I was wrong to jump to jump on the "dump her" bandwagon Tashmere - 30/06/2011 03:46:24 AM 863 Views
Insane chicks are hot...for an hour at a time. Tigr - 29/06/2011 07:05:50 PM 816 Views
Decide which part of the Crazy/Hot Scale she is on... MightyYT - 29/06/2011 08:37:37 PM 803 Views
I agree with what Nate said ßelals Girl - 29/06/2011 07:53:27 PM 766 Views
Does that mean you're getting her a premie? Joel - 29/06/2011 09:03:18 PM 830 Views
It's just an annoyed rant! Unlikely she's as insane as the consensus in the thread. Vivien - 29/06/2011 09:11:45 PM 854 Views
Ogle her constantly. Dannymac - 29/06/2011 09:21:41 PM 841 Views
^ Danny and Vivien potentially have a point. Nate - 29/06/2011 11:00:41 PM 880 Views
That's right! Vivien - 30/06/2011 12:04:49 AM 787 Views
That's incredibly insecure and needy. Just... just so you know. beetnemesis - 30/06/2011 12:10:50 AM 697 Views
I did not use the word constant. Vivien - 30/06/2011 12:36:29 AM 764 Views
*shrug* I'm just saying beetnemesis - 30/06/2011 01:45:49 AM 716 Views
Having a need isn't the same thing as being needy. globug0822 - 30/06/2011 02:49:12 AM 862 Views
Yeah, I'm not trying to say (either of them) are bad people beetnemesis - 30/06/2011 03:33:59 AM 706 Views
Yes ironclad - 30/06/2011 05:16:23 PM 802 Views
Buy sunglasses. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 30/06/2011 12:36:31 AM 342 Views
The man with the practical advice out of left field while everyone else is arguing at home base. *NM* Vivien - 30/06/2011 01:41:12 AM 349 Views
*NM* Fox and Ravens - 30/06/2011 01:53:13 AM 346 Views
Re: There's no telling if... Gaps - 30/06/2011 02:11:27 AM 765 Views
Somebody I talked to brought up a valid possibility that I didn't know existed. I was wrong to jump Tashmere - 30/06/2011 03:41:53 AM 740 Views
Good point--those things really screw up some women and different ones have different effects *NM* Wulf`gar - 30/06/2011 01:53:44 PM 343 Views
I can't use them. They turn me into the Mega Bitch. Beqi - 30/06/2011 08:21:17 PM 1265 Views
You are wise. Two Wongs - 04/07/2011 12:02:35 PM 1127 Views
Tell her you're gay so she doesn't need to worry about you seeming to check them out. snoopcester - 30/06/2011 11:30:03 AM 764 Views
We're all just a little bit insane. Kel - 30/06/2011 05:20:22 PM 725 Views
Insecurity is not fatal. She needs to feel better about herself. Beqi - 30/06/2011 08:19:19 PM 716 Views
If you've had the DISCUSSION, and she's still nagging you...I'd find it annoying. *NM* StarrBecca - 01/07/2011 05:50:00 AM 337 Views
Tell her every thing you said here emphasis the last sentence Danu - 04/07/2011 01:38:43 AM 786 Views
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