What you're saying amounts to "religious people can be normal, productive and safe members of society because the batshit crazy nonsense they call religion doesn't come up much in their daily lives." That's like me saying you're a positive and totally nonthreatening member of society because you confine your cannibalism to dinner time, and restrict it to the privacy of your own home; can you see how that's a SOMEWHAT backhanded compliment? You're not saying religious most religious people are rational, you're saying we're ALL irrational, but some of us are SO irrational that we can ignore fundamental contradictions between our core beliefs.

I'm not one to deny the importance of cognitive dissonance, but reducing rational religious people to that not only insults them but misrepresents reality to yourself as well as others. You're insisting on a conflict where none is necessary and explaining it as a mental weakness of the people in whom it exists. That's both hostile and condescending, yes, whether or not you recognize it as such.