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because of your history you might find a cash bar lame... LadyLorraine Send a noteboard - 15/12/2011 12:59:39 PM
but alcohol gets pretty expensive and if you're on a low budget, hard alcohol is a very easy thing to cut from the "free for everyone" list. The whole point IS that "host is cheap". Or, rather, that the hosts are trying to have a cheap wedding. Which you may or may not agree with on principle, however, that is what is being discussed at the moment.

If you're having a small reception/whatever, then I think you should provide hard liquor for everyone. However if you're looking at any group consisting of more than 100 people drinking hard liquor, it's going to get really expensive really fast (here at least) unless you buy cheap liquor (imo, worse than making me pay for it!). Even if you have only a few dozen people drinking hard liquor, if they're trashing themselves out it (like many people do at weddings) then they're going to go through a lot of alcohol!

And I don't think she means that you only feed the wedding party at the reception. I think she means that the wedding party has dinner before/after the reception and NO ONE eats a meal at the reception (just small snacks and the like). Unless you have your reception over dinner time, I don't see any problem with that at all, particularly for large weddings.
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So it turns out that weddings are expensive... Dannymac - 12/12/2011 04:24:17 PM 1846 Views
I am looking to drop about a grand on my son's rehearsal dinner *NM* random thoughts - 12/12/2011 04:42:53 PM 488 Views
Well, part of it is that the rehearsal dinner isn't on the $5k budget. Dannymac - 12/12/2011 04:46:30 PM 839 Views
It is avoidable, but people will treat you like you're a nutcase if you don't do most of the things nossy - 12/12/2011 05:02:14 PM 881 Views
my first wedding was in church with a pretty dress and a preacher random thoughts - 12/12/2011 06:12:02 PM 823 Views
We had a pretty dress and a notary public in the courtyard of the B&B. nossy - 12/12/2011 09:36:52 PM 870 Views
If I had it to all over again I would have formed a Rock Band and dated supermodels *NM* random thoughts - 13/12/2011 04:20:28 PM 455 Views
*NM* TaskmasterJack - 22/12/2011 10:15:04 PM 458 Views
Heh. Nate - 12/12/2011 05:29:19 PM 966 Views
Re: Heh. Macharius - 12/12/2011 06:02:44 PM 870 Views
Re: Heh. Nate - 12/12/2011 06:44:30 PM 1002 Views
Re: Heh. Macharius - 12/12/2011 07:27:16 PM 956 Views
We kept it to about $5000 also (including cost of rings). Macharius - 12/12/2011 06:06:54 PM 883 Views
I would say our wedding was about that. Lici - 12/12/2011 06:45:46 PM 1062 Views
I feel like they only have to be expensive if you let them be. LadyLorraine - 12/12/2011 07:07:59 PM 930 Views
I got married two weeks ago for less than that. Aemon - 12/12/2011 09:56:43 PM 985 Views
Congrats Sareitha Sedai - 12/12/2011 10:03:35 PM 840 Views
Thanks! Aemon - 13/12/2011 02:53:11 PM 843 Views
You've been holding out on us. Congratulations. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 13/12/2011 12:02:39 AM 507 Views
Honestly, I didn't think anyone would care. Aemon - 13/12/2011 03:08:44 PM 814 Views
Hey! No announcement??? Congratulations and may you find many years of happiness! *NM* everynametaken - 13/12/2011 03:27:51 AM 535 Views
No, no announcement. I'm not really the center-of-attention type. haha Thanks though! *NM* Aemon - 13/12/2011 03:10:29 PM 457 Views
Congratulations, my friend. Jacob - 13/12/2011 03:21:22 PM 782 Views
Thanks. Aemon - 13/12/2011 06:38:59 PM 887 Views
Acceptable... Jacob - 13/12/2011 06:40:29 PM 811 Views
OMG! Congratulations! Danu - 14/12/2011 10:43:05 PM 820 Views
Thanks Danu. *NM* Aemon - 15/12/2011 11:08:51 PM 460 Views
i had 500 people at my wedding....... Aisha - 13/12/2011 12:05:38 AM 998 Views
Everybody I have ever talked to that had a big, expensive wedding has told me that in hindsight... everynametaken - 13/12/2011 03:29:34 AM 786 Views
Yes they are. We're planning ours and... callandor1000 - 13/12/2011 02:19:42 AM 895 Views
Some people just don't seem to think outside of the box ironclad - 13/12/2011 09:15:49 AM 966 Views
And several items on that chart are soo unnecessary *NM* ironclad - 13/12/2011 09:41:10 AM 485 Views
They're only as expensive as you make them. Tim - 14/12/2011 10:38:37 AM 804 Views
I'm so glad we went simple. Kaldric - 14/12/2011 03:08:45 PM 955 Views
As someone who had a smaller wedding than was expected by certain people... Danu - 14/12/2011 10:36:57 PM 931 Views
These seem kind of extreme. Vivien - 15/12/2011 06:03:15 AM 942 Views
because of your history you might find a cash bar lame... LadyLorraine - 15/12/2011 12:59:39 PM 983 Views
Not my personal history, but culture. Vivien - 15/12/2011 03:53:12 PM 940 Views
I agree that there are better cuts to make than refreshments LadyLorraine - 15/12/2011 04:35:13 PM 930 Views
Re: because of your history you might find a cash bar lame... callandor1000 - 22/12/2011 01:08:00 PM 940 Views
Yeah, and that's why Russians are all dying of alcoholism. *NM* Macharius - 15/12/2011 01:46:52 PM 498 Views
You don't have to be an alcoholic to prefer not to have a cash bar at a party. Vivien - 15/12/2011 03:37:15 PM 841 Views
It is lame to expect the father of the bride to shell out tens of thousands for a party random thoughts - 15/12/2011 02:00:54 PM 951 Views
seriously. who cares if people think you're "cheap". LadyLorraine - 15/12/2011 04:41:33 PM 855 Views
What my family tends to do (because it's huge) is this: Rebekah - 15/12/2011 02:16:31 PM 993 Views
That's what most German weddings do too. Reasonable. *NM* ironclad - 15/12/2011 03:38:40 PM 452 Views
If they're not close enough to invite to the reception, are they really needed at the ceremony? Vivien - 15/12/2011 08:18:18 PM 953 Views
In most cases, a church ceremony tends to be an open thing. Anyone can come. Rebekah - 15/12/2011 10:11:30 PM 966 Views
Apparently it's becoming more common over here to do weddings on a weekday. Rebekah - 15/12/2011 02:13:57 PM 833 Views
I can't imagine someone in America announcing their wedding was on a weekday. TaskmasterJack - 15/12/2011 10:07:55 PM 1075 Views
People not in America have way more vacation days... *NM* Vivien - 15/12/2011 11:56:22 PM 451 Views
That was part of the logic in my thinking, yes. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 16/12/2011 12:46:53 AM 432 Views
Fridays are actually becoming more common. Sareitha Sedai - 16/12/2011 04:51:41 PM 782 Views
Why does the band get more than the photographer? Amyrlin - 16/12/2011 04:30:29 PM 757 Views
well they do have to split it 4 or 5 ways random thoughts - 16/12/2011 04:38:36 PM 845 Views
The thing is... it's NOT a night's work. Amyrlin - 16/12/2011 09:27:30 PM 1140 Views
Because if you put tiny plastic musical instruments on all the tables, your ears will bleed out. TaskmasterJack - 16/12/2011 10:04:59 PM 1205 Views
My advice based on what I've done so far. callandor1000 - 22/12/2011 01:27:29 PM 810 Views
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