This is the same question I ask myself every time I have sex with someone. I enjoy the feelings, I have reason to believe I'm good at sex, I most definitely am not prudish (gay sex can be messy), etc. And yet I can never totally immerse myself in the experience. Today I was having fun with the guy I'm dating. I ended it by saying I want to watch the news. I just didn't feel like continuing. I apologised but yeah, he was pretty quiet after that. There's nothing wrong with him, he's good-looking and intelligent. I have a crush on him. So why the f**k is my urge to ravish him so .. low? Am I just naturally frigid? That's a terrible thought. I really, really hate the idea of being asexual. You think it was easy coming to terms with being gay? Try to cope with something like that.