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I think I kind of agree here... Tashmere Send a noteboard - 06/11/2009 03:28:31 AM
Chances are he'll end up switching it on his own initiative. I've seen this happen twice among girls that I work with. But it should be up to the kid, otherwise he'll feel like it was forced.


When he is old enough to really care and choose for himself might be the time to do it. Then there will never be any question in his or anyone else's mind whether he was manipulated into it. I can't really explain why... but I think it meant more that Craig's dad waited until he was older to adopt him. By then there was no reason but love and respect, on both of their parts, for them to go through with an adoption.
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Changing your child's name... Missa Sedai - 02/11/2009 11:07:40 PM 903 Views
I'm an observer. nossy - 02/11/2009 11:16:50 PM 685 Views
Is your brother going to actually adopt the child? Tashmere - 02/11/2009 11:54:20 PM 697 Views
My brother wants to, but... Missa Sedai - 03/11/2009 11:18:20 PM 633 Views
Does he pay child support? Sareitha Sedai - 04/11/2009 12:38:33 AM 563 Views
Never paid a dime. Missa Sedai - 04/11/2009 12:44:40 AM 567 Views
Re: Never paid a dime. Beqi - 04/11/2009 03:24:02 AM 593 Views
Re: Never paid a dime. Angel Barchild - 05/11/2009 07:35:05 AM 554 Views
I'd only change the name if he adopted the son legally. Beqi - 03/11/2009 12:23:08 AM 582 Views
I agree with you and Tash... Antigone - 03/11/2009 03:22:28 AM 580 Views
The thing is... Missa Sedai - 03/11/2009 11:19:45 PM 541 Views
Concur Isaac - 03/11/2009 06:56:54 PM 618 Views
I'm more interested in the feelings/needs of the child than the feelings of adults. Sareitha Sedai - 03/11/2009 01:16:49 AM 579 Views
I really like this reply and agree with everything in it... Lupine - 03/11/2009 01:23:15 AM 595 Views
There's bad things, and there's bad things. Sareitha Sedai - 03/11/2009 01:46:33 PM 527 Views
I don't know the full details of the first marriage... Missa Sedai - 03/11/2009 11:28:41 PM 562 Views
True... Missa Sedai - 03/11/2009 11:23:55 PM 611 Views
Yes. Sareitha Sedai - 04/11/2009 12:36:24 AM 621 Views
My situation was almost the same. mapthis - 03/11/2009 02:10:24 AM 643 Views
My sister changed her name when she ascended to the Crystal Throne, may she live forever. Blaine - 03/11/2009 02:52:35 AM 669 Views
Not me, but..... Kat - 03/11/2009 03:07:28 AM 684 Views
I personally believe the boy should keep his biological fathers last name no matter what *NM* Aisha - 03/11/2009 03:18:24 AM 259 Views
I'm curious why you believe this. Sareitha Sedai - 03/11/2009 01:54:40 PM 569 Views
I'm a bit curious too...explain. *NM* Missa Sedai - 03/11/2009 11:31:02 PM 250 Views
personal belief Aisha - 04/11/2009 03:44:35 PM 542 Views
Are they changing his name to Clark Kent? If so, I don't think the kid will have a problem. *NM* callandor1000 - 03/11/2009 04:04:35 AM 255 Views
I gave She her dad's last name, we weren't married, had no real intentions of getting married, StarrBecca - 03/11/2009 05:10:31 AM 570 Views
Happened to my dad (kinda). Craig - 03/11/2009 05:25:52 AM 546 Views
Here are my thoughts (I have been in a somewhat similar situation). everynametaken - 03/11/2009 06:52:17 AM 639 Views
Curious Sareitha Sedai - 03/11/2009 01:59:30 PM 584 Views
Re: Curious everynametaken - 03/11/2009 06:46:52 PM 645 Views
I am in a similar position. Seriana Sedai - 03/11/2009 07:18:57 AM 589 Views
I'd wait until the child is old enough to want to himself Monkey - 03/11/2009 07:29:36 AM 563 Views
I think I kind of agree here... Tashmere - 06/11/2009 03:28:31 AM 610 Views
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