First off, you all know I'm completely hopeless at social things, for a pretty good combination of reasons. But that doesn't change the fact that I've recently turned 21 and have still never been to a bar in my city. And I want to have one little tiny taste of that college experience. Problem is, I don't really have friends here - well, I have one, but he's odd and I'm sort of angry at him anyway. 
Actually, what I really want to do is go to a lesbian/gay bar. Two new experiences in one! That would even more definitely rule out the hetero male friend, though.
So, yeah. How does one go about this? How do you even know which bars cater to the LGBTs? What kind of clothing do you wear? Does it mark you as a pathetic loser if you just sit there by yourself at the counter?
I'm not looking to do anything wild or crazy, and I'm probably too shy to dance, so maybe it's just a bad idea anyway. All I really want to get out of it is a good beer and maybe a conversation with a pretty girl or two. Curiosity. You know.
All advice welcome.
Also, thanks to Mat Maniac for making me feel less embarrassed about my embarrassing social problems by posting about his own.
Actually, what I really want to do is go to a lesbian/gay bar. Two new experiences in one! That would even more definitely rule out the hetero male friend, though.
So, yeah. How does one go about this? How do you even know which bars cater to the LGBTs? What kind of clothing do you wear? Does it mark you as a pathetic loser if you just sit there by yourself at the counter?
I'm not looking to do anything wild or crazy, and I'm probably too shy to dance, so maybe it's just a bad idea anyway. All I really want to get out of it is a good beer and maybe a conversation with a pretty girl or two. Curiosity. You know.
All advice welcome.
Also, thanks to Mat Maniac for making me feel less embarrassed about my embarrassing social problems by posting about his own.
happy hour is designed for making sure that people will come in and socialize. so if you are planning on socializing, this would be the best time to go, especially if you have never been in a bar before. i think happy hour is a less threatening/intimidating time of the day for most bars, so you should be able to feel somewhat comfortable then (hopefully)
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Need social advice. Is it... you know... allowed to go to a bar by yourself?
- 09/11/2009 03:57:51 AM
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If all you want is some place to have a good beer, then don't go to a LGBT bar.
- 09/11/2009 05:11:08 AM
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I think I can overcome the urge to dance, as long as it won't make me a pariah.
- 09/11/2009 02:20:46 PM
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- 09/11/2009 02:20:46 PM
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Bring a book? *NM*
- 09/11/2009 11:01:54 AM
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... but which book?
- 09/11/2009 02:09:29 PM
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You could ask 'teh gay' that you know that lives in the same city as you do.
- 09/11/2009 02:16:12 PM
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I was being passive. Hoping you would see this and respond.
- 09/11/2009 02:18:59 PM
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- 09/11/2009 02:18:59 PM
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No, I'll reply in full/send noteboard. We can arrange something so you don't go alone.
- 09/11/2009 02:22:44 PM
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<3
- 10/11/2009 02:26:04 AM
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Yes, it's allowed.
- 09/11/2009 02:43:18 PM
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"i just turned 21, it's my first time in a bar" sounds like the wrong thing to say somehow...
- 09/11/2009 04:17:12 PM
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go at happy hour
- 09/11/2009 04:16:25 PM
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