People generally don't leave like that on a whim. From what you wrote, it appears that you thought the relationship was fine. She obviously didn't. That means you, as a couple, haven't been communicating well. Do you know why? Try to figure that out. As Kel said, try to listen to her without arguing or reasoning. Ask her to please tell you how she feels, and that you'll just listen. After that, ask her what she would need from you for things to change. Just take it all in.
Realize that it's very likely that Amy has tried to talk about this with you before, but that you weren't open to it (maybe because you didn't realize what she was trying to say or because she's not very good at conveying her thoughts and feelings, I don't know).
It's understandable that you are so hurt that you are turning defensive to the extent that the next day already you sort of feel like moving on and giving up on the relationship. That's the hurt talking. Don't let hurt guide you, it's a poor guide that never leads to happiness.
Realize that it's very likely that Amy has tried to talk about this with you before, but that you weren't open to it (maybe because you didn't realize what she was trying to say or because she's not very good at conveying her thoughts and feelings, I don't know).
It's understandable that you are so hurt that you are turning defensive to the extent that the next day already you sort of feel like moving on and giving up on the relationship. That's the hurt talking. Don't let hurt guide you, it's a poor guide that never leads to happiness.
And then, yesterday - the world came apart
- 13/03/2010 02:09:42 PM
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Oh my goodness.
- 13/03/2010 04:40:30 PM
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Thanks Jen
- 16/03/2010 12:58:22 AM
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There is a little hope here...
- 14/03/2010 12:24:19 AM
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Some, yes.
- 14/03/2010 06:43:49 AM
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That is a tough little girl there.
- 14/03/2010 05:43:51 PM
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How in touch were you?
- 14/03/2010 08:14:57 AM
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I just read Helene's, Tom's and Damookster's replies.
- 15/03/2010 01:53:17 AM
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It's why one of the first things I did was post here when I was together enough to do so.
- 15/03/2010 06:18:54 AM
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Jesus.
- 15/03/2010 01:44:18 PM
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It's looking up a bit
- 15/03/2010 03:50:25 PM
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Re: It's looking up a bit
- 15/03/2010 05:12:02 PM
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Re: It's looking up a bit
- 15/03/2010 05:13:03 PM
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Re: It's looking up a bit
- 15/03/2010 05:13:30 PM
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Hmm. Those were supposed to be edits. Admin? Clean up in aisle SW!
- 15/03/2010 05:18:13 PM
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Lose that zero and take her to court for abducting your child *NM*
- 15/03/2010 05:14:26 PM
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Sounds like things have calmed down a bit now, but that was a shitty thing to do, that's for sure.
- 16/03/2010 01:09:00 AM
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