People generally don't leave like that on a whim. From what you wrote, it appears that you thought the relationship was fine. She obviously didn't. That means you, as a couple, haven't been communicating well. Do you know why? Try to figure that out. As Kel said, try to listen to her without arguing or reasoning. Ask her to please tell you how she feels, and that you'll just listen. After that, ask her what she would need from you for things to change. Just take it all in.
Amy is TERRIBLE at communicating. And even worse at the concept of compromise. It's not a good combination particularly when you toss in occasional bouts of depression.
Realize that it's very likely that Amy has tried to talk about this with you before, but that you weren't open to it (maybe because you didn't realize what she was trying to say or because she's not very good at conveying her thoughts and feelings, I don't know).
Heh - no. She hadn't. *I* had and got shut down every time I tried. Not always nastily - sometimes it was just avoidance etc. but no, she's really bad at communication. Just a few days ago she was telling me how WELL things were going in our relationship. Then *Bam*
It's understandable that you are so hurt that you are turning defensive to the extent that the next day already you sort of feel like moving on and giving up on the relationship. That's the hurt talking. Don't let hurt guide you, it's a poor guide that never leads to happiness.
Trying not to - and not giving up anything like soon.
I have, in fact, pretty much never given up on a relationship ever. I'm stubborn that way. It's always the other person who does.
May God stand between you and harm in all the empty places you must walk.
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And then, yesterday - the world came apart
- 13/03/2010 02:09:42 PM
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Oh my goodness.
- 13/03/2010 04:40:30 PM
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Thanks Jen
- 16/03/2010 12:58:22 AM
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There is a little hope here...
- 14/03/2010 12:24:19 AM
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Some, yes.
- 14/03/2010 06:43:49 AM
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That is a tough little girl there.
- 14/03/2010 05:43:51 PM
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How in touch were you?
- 14/03/2010 08:14:57 AM
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Not as much as we could be
- 15/03/2010 06:11:28 AM
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I just read Helene's, Tom's and Damookster's replies.
- 15/03/2010 01:53:17 AM
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It's why one of the first things I did was post here when I was together enough to do so.
- 15/03/2010 06:18:54 AM
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Jesus.
- 15/03/2010 01:44:18 PM
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It's looking up a bit
- 15/03/2010 03:50:25 PM
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Re: It's looking up a bit
- 15/03/2010 05:12:02 PM
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Re: It's looking up a bit
- 15/03/2010 05:13:03 PM
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Re: It's looking up a bit
- 15/03/2010 05:13:30 PM
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Hmm. Those were supposed to be edits. Admin? Clean up in aisle SW!
- 15/03/2010 05:18:13 PM
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Lose that zero and take her to court for abducting your child *NM*
- 15/03/2010 05:14:26 PM
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Sounds like things have calmed down a bit now, but that was a shitty thing to do, that's for sure.
- 16/03/2010 01:09:00 AM
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