You poor man. That is appalling.

How are things looking today? You have Melissa?

Did Amy wreck the house or was it just untidy/whatever? If she did, I'd say that's pointing to rather more than depression. Speaking as someone who does find it very difficult to confront things and discuss them, you might have to force her to talk. I don't know how you'd do that, though I suppose every couple knows the buttons to press.

Thinking of you either way, and feel free to rant/rave/vent/sob in my direction any time you like.