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That's a tough hurdle Helene Send a noteboard - 15/03/2010 08:06:07 PM
Amy is TERRIBLE at communicating. And even worse at the concept of compromise. It's not a good combination particularly when you toss in occasional bouts of depression.


Is she self aware at all surrounding these things? You mentioned she might go for therapy. You make it sound like she needs it.

Heh - no. She hadn't. *I* had and got shut down every time I tried. Not always nastily - sometimes it was just avoidance etc. but no, she's really bad at communication. Just a few days ago she was telling me how WELL things were going in our relationship. Then *Bam*


Sometimes people say things because they really want things to be a certain way, even though they're not. But talk about mixed messages... That must be very confusing and extra hurtful.

You're obviously not the sole person responsible for creating and sustaining constructive communication in your relationship. You can, however, only change your own behavior. Which is why I only advise you to see what you can do. Do you know why she's so bad at communicating? Is there anything you can do that would make her feel more comfortable about opening up?

Trying not to - and not giving up anything like soon.

I have, in fact, pretty much never given up on a relationship ever. I'm stubborn that way. It's always the other person who does.


That's good to hear. Melissa will appreciate that one day.
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