At least if you mean each and every one of Failes annoying idiocies. I would not have confused insults, provocation and lies with courtship or flirtation, for starters. I would have believed him when he said he was faithful and uninterested in a would-be competitor, rather than starting a knife fight with her in the middle of a recently conquered foreign capitol building. I would not constantly provoke him just for the satisfaction of getting my head bitten off, and resolutely insist on concealing all my deepest feelings and motivations from my supposed soul mate just so I could get mad at him for not reading my schizoid mind and shake my head fondly over the way he slowly loses his mind trying to figure out why I am always so angry, stressed, hurt, whatever. In general, Step 1 would be "Stop being a bitch."

If you mean the deaths, I would not have watched in passive silence as Perrin killed someone who had been the only thing keeping me alive for weeks. I admit I see no fault in her personally for Hoppers "eternal death;" she WAS the cause, but NOT responsible. However, she knew darned good and well Mat was at Merrilor (that WAS why they were originally headed there with the Horn, after all,) so suddenly assuming he was at Shayol Ghul just because she happened to see one of the hundreds of banners scattered between the Bands many regiments was just stupid. There is a reason, after all, they wound up captured by Trollocs and then forced to attempt escape from their midst: Anyone visiting Shayol Ghul in the middle of Tarmon Gaidon, knowing the Dragon is making his own attack, has to know the chance of encountering Shadowspawn is pretty high. Taking a pony rather than a warhorse (or, far better, military pack animal) to a war zone was kind of stupid, too, though perhaps more justified for logistics reasons. Still, if that was the only thing with which she had to make her high speed escape, it reflects very poor planning on her part.