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First, I didn't mean to say anything you needed to get defensive over farmboy - 24/04/2004 06:11:26 PM

Second, I'm still not sure I completely undersand.

Nope. In fact, I have rarely had anyone I called my boyfriend. It is just a little too much for me. I think some of it may be because I am independent... Or so I like to think. I HATE when people don't know me, or refer to me as, "So and so's girlfriend." It makes me nuts!
I think... umm... huh?

Why not??? Seriously!! I mean, if you are married fine, engaged, fine, and you have to understand that for me date is not the same as sleep with. I can understand you would think that sleeping with numerous people would be boggling... though a lot of people think that is perfectly fine too... BUT certainly, when you are going out and dating people, and meeting new people, why limit yourself to dating only one person??
Maybe it's just the kind of person I am that makes this hard to understand. I feel like I've betrayed Anne if I look at another girl on the street. And I haven't even met Anne irl yet.

Maybe you are trying to impress someone. I am having trouble thinking that you wear blinders at all times and then once one "relationship" (and you seem to define this by, "we went out once or twice&quot is "over" then and only then can you look for someone new.
I'm not trying to impress anyone. This is how I am. Maybe it's because I've never had a girlfriend, never been on a date, and never even known that a girl liked me until months (or years) after the fact.

I am certainly enjoying his company, and I think he is a wonderful guy. Also, he is someone I am still getting to know, so I think it is a definite possibility I could be with him for the rest of my life, but I don't get why I am supposed to close off contact with other men (or women ) in any romantic way until I have made a "decision."
I'm not telling you that you should. I'm just trying to grasp the idea of why. You can usually only see things from your own perspective, and I'd probably be attatched to someone after one or two dates. But the reason for that is, I wouldn't go on a date with someone I just met at the bar. I'd go on a date with someone I thought I knew, if only to get to know them better.

uh, here I have to say YES. But I guess it depends on your definition. To ME, certainly. But maybe the phrase does not translate. In spanish, Novia can mean FIANCE, and for me it is much the same. Sure, you aren't married, but you are COMMITTED to finding out if you could be. I am not there with this person yet, and I don't want hurt feelings on either side if the other person meets someone and wants to hang out with someone else TOO.
Hmm... you kind of confused me a little with your caps placed where they are... I think I'll just refer you to the second one up there... and the last one too. I think they both sort of apply. Maybe.

Well, I guess it depends on how you define cheating. This is the very gist of the entire question, by the way. It worried me that he called himself my boyfriend precisely because I WANT TO BE ABLE TO MEET NEW PEOPLE and date them should the opportunity arise and I don't want him to feel like I am cheating on him or betraying him!!! I mean, if he went out with someone else, I would think that was great. The fact that he is NOT doing that kind of worries me. I suppose I should just tell you, as it might help, he is recently divorced, and so am I. (Well, separated as of last February so over a year.) BUT I am not looking to get serious and he and I talked about that when we first started dating. So if you want to talk about someone betraying someone else, he is kind of cheating on our agreement!! We were supposed to be rebound buddies.
Well... knowing that sheds a little light, but maybe I'm just a little too slow to understand right now...

Maybe you do now. And this is kinda nice; now the rest of wotmania can know too! Cathartic, if you will.

My brain has been swiss cheesed like Scott Bakula's on Quantum Leap

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