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Re: I hear you anjumfaz Send a noteboard - 11/08/2010 08:09:27 PM
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I hope you two aren't related ;) Technically speaking, her family doesn't know about us. She is always worried about being in public together because, according to her, every single Pakistani knows someone who knows your family!


My family there is from India tho. And there are tons of brown people in Texas :P And in Canada!
And I hear you on the everyone knowing everyone thing...it's true! Being a 24 year old, young Indian girl, you gotta be careful about who sees you with who, especially a guy who is not Indian!

You're not dating a white guy by chance, are you? That would make my situation much easier if I knew there were other couples out there like us!


I totally am....lol. Ive been in a relationship with a Romanian guy for the past four years, and brought it up with my parents last year because we want to get married. Drama, drama, drama....it's still not resolved!


I know what must be going through. So you know what I mean when I say you have really made me happy :P Life is so much better when other people share the same pain lol


It does feel better knowing someone else is in the same situation! I hope everything works out for the best with you and your girlfriend. I really know that it can be awfully shitty sometimes. Indian/Pakistani people are over-concerned with too many things, lol. They need to just lighten up!

I take it your girlfriend is Muslim? I guess that adds the extra dimension of religion into your situation. I'm Christian, as is my boyfriend, but my parents are still the same old-fashioned types who want their kids to be with Indian people of the parents' choosing. Gah! It's really shitty...


Yes my girlfriend is Muslim. That's really interesting that you are Christian. I have never heard of Indian/Pakistani people converting. I wish that was my situation. 90% of my stress is from religion. I had to convert to be with her and I'm finding it to be strange and uncomfortable. And I know what you mean about your parents. Her mom is constantly trying to get her engaged to some doctor!


There is a large Christian population in both India and Pakistan. My family converted about 5 or 6 generations ago. There is a large Christian majority in South India, and I believe that goes back hundreds of years.

I have cousins like me, born and brought up in Canada, who ended up marrying Indian people but from different religions. One married someone who is Hindu, and two married people who are Sikh. No one ended up converting one way or the other, but there was still drama before the weddings happened.

I think South-Asians just like drama :P
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If thats true then I definitely can't tell you! *NM* Dark Knight - 12/08/2010 06:15:24 AM 348 Views
It shouldn't be too hard to find a book + CD you can learn from. Why is software so important? *NM* Tim - 11/08/2010 05:38:48 PM 381 Views
Because my free time consists of 2 hours before bed *NM* Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 05:45:16 PM 331 Views
And? Tim - 11/08/2010 06:17:22 PM 752 Views
Oh I thought you were asking why I don't go to a class *NM* Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 06:24:43 PM 335 Views
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Yeah, it would be silly to waste your time on Devanagari when you need to learn the Arabic alphabet. Legolas - 11/08/2010 05:48:22 PM 851 Views
Very helpful! Thanks! Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 06:09:09 PM 785 Views
Hindi is pretty much the same as Urdu speaking wise.... anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 06:17:50 PM 864 Views
My girlfriend has family in Canada... Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 06:23:35 PM 765 Views
Seems like after two years, it might be time to let her family know about you... *NM* Legolas - 11/08/2010 06:43:55 PM 346 Views
We're about at that point Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 06:48:42 PM 722 Views
That makes sense, yes. Legolas - 11/08/2010 06:52:53 PM 768 Views
I know the fear, yes anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 07:41:16 PM 820 Views
Is your status in society the same in Indian culture as it is in Pakistani culture? Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 07:46:48 PM 836 Views
Re: Is your status in society the same in Indian culture as it is in Pakistani culture? anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 08:01:44 PM 842 Views
Rant all you want! Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 08:18:54 PM 686 Views
Oh my goodness.... anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 08:21:16 PM 912 Views
I have family in Texas, lol anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 06:50:25 PM 761 Views
A kindred spirit! Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 07:06:25 PM 821 Views
Re: A kindred spirit! anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 07:15:50 PM 764 Views
Wow I'm not alone! Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 07:27:02 PM 772 Views
You are right, anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 07:37:15 PM 808 Views
I hear you Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 07:43:07 PM 847 Views
Re: I hear you anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 08:09:27 PM 902 Views
I learn something new everyday. I did not know that. Fascinating Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 08:17:16 PM 747 Views
There are like half a dozen movies about that topic... safe to say you're not alone. *NM* Legolas - 11/08/2010 08:06:30 PM 323 Views
The clash between new generation and old makes for some good movie material *NM* Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 08:20:40 PM 347 Views
I think you're missing the important thing here. Why does she want you to learn it? *NM* Palatine - 11/08/2010 06:32:58 PM 338 Views
Because she speaks to her family/friends in her language and doesnt want me left out Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 06:38:00 PM 751 Views
Okay, but none of them speak English? *NM* Palatine - 11/08/2010 06:42:25 PM 367 Views
Yes but its really a cultural thing Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 06:46:01 PM 737 Views
It makes sense. Palatine - 12/08/2010 07:47:12 PM 902 Views
It does Floffe - 12/08/2010 07:55:31 PM 999 Views
No, I haven't read them all. Palatine - 12/08/2010 08:08:14 PM 645 Views
Why shouldn't she? *NM* Legolas - 11/08/2010 06:44:14 PM 345 Views
Re: Why shouldn't she? Palatine - 12/08/2010 07:54:47 PM 714 Views
why not? it's a part of her and languages are fun. LadyLorraine - 12/08/2010 03:33:53 AM 742 Views
Re: languages are fun. That depends. Palatine - 12/08/2010 08:03:06 PM 774 Views
My advice Bramhodoulos - 11/08/2010 07:28:39 PM 1025 Views
I want to learn Romanian anjumfaz - 11/08/2010 07:43:09 PM 697 Views
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I'm definitely going to check that out! *NM* Dark Knight - 11/08/2010 07:44:18 PM 393 Views
You too, huh? Legolas - 11/08/2010 08:07:44 PM 769 Views
Yeah, I love the Finnish language Bramhodoulos - 11/08/2010 08:47:09 PM 724 Views
Ohhh. That's a much better reason than mine. Legolas - 11/08/2010 08:49:34 PM 745 Views
Seconded. The Routledge Colloquial series is really good. *NM* Tim - 11/08/2010 09:45:39 PM 302 Views
Fuck Rosetta Stone unless you're a complete dumbass at languages. Tom - 12/08/2010 03:29:15 AM 813 Views
Ok as an urdu speaking paki i can tell you a few things Aisha - 12/08/2010 05:41:52 AM 943 Views
Or... ironclad - 12/08/2010 11:00:42 AM 767 Views
Re: Or... Aisha - 12/08/2010 04:57:59 PM 774 Views
Good luck and God bless. Joel - 12/08/2010 11:50:18 AM 706 Views
youre moving to Karachi? *NM* Aisha - 12/08/2010 04:59:25 PM 311 Views
Er, no. Joel - 12/08/2010 05:16:51 PM 1060 Views
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