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We have no control over how other people act. Vivien Send a noteboard - 23/03/2011 04:07:11 PM
We're looking at it from the point of view that this one man should be allowed to date who he wants, rather than being "forced" to stick with his own "kind." If Aeryn is uncomfortable that black women will be upset to see them together, that's one thing. It's another to expect that this man act in your pre-approved pattern because of favorable statistics.


All we can do is make decisions for ourselves.
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Interracial dating (in the dating dilemma series) Aeryn - 23/03/2011 11:11:14 AM 2270 Views
I am not a black woman and I haven't done it ironclad - 23/03/2011 11:24:16 AM 1226 Views
Re: Aeryn - 23/03/2011 11:38:31 AM 1267 Views
Independence Day reference? Good man. *NM* Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 08:28:35 PM 604 Views
john lennon... MalkierKnight - 24/03/2011 01:08:20 PM 1314 Views
If you limit your dating pool by race you really have no reason to complain Camilla - 23/03/2011 11:57:48 AM 1184 Views
I dated a black girl for nearly 3 years. Dragonsoul - 23/03/2011 12:29:26 PM 1287 Views
ironclad - 23/03/2011 12:57:08 PM 1287 Views
LMAO Jens, you know me too well Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:30:35 PM 1183 Views
And her mother is Muslim. Dragonsoul - 24/03/2011 11:48:24 AM 1204 Views
What's it called? *NM* Legolas - 24/03/2011 10:36:28 PM 615 Views
please give him a moment to google an answer. *NM* Aisha - 25/03/2011 11:04:02 AM 628 Views
She said it's called Abu Haifa (sp?) Dragonsoul - 25/03/2011 10:38:13 PM 1181 Views
Hm, okay. Legolas - 26/03/2011 12:16:02 AM 1321 Views
That was it, Abu Hanifa. I'm poor with Arabic. Dragonsoul - 26/03/2011 01:08:12 AM 1251 Views
amazingly enough, I dont believe you. Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:32:26 PM 1294 Views
I'd prove it to you. Dragonsoul - 24/03/2011 11:47:33 AM 1180 Views
God help me, I'm agreeing with Dragonsoul. Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 09:29:56 PM 1155 Views
I think he is making it up for the benefit of this comunity Aisha - 24/03/2011 10:03:21 PM 1279 Views
Sometimes I worry about "this community"... Joel - 25/03/2011 11:33:17 PM 1382 Views
I think that would be a poor reason to not date someone random thoughts - 23/03/2011 01:07:31 PM 1282 Views
Can you edit your post and take out the cow analogies? Thanks. *NM* Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:31:51 PM 619 Views
I didn't even see the "cow & milk" analogy. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:03:02 AM 1155 Views
being offensive makes it no less true random thoughts - 24/03/2011 01:25:34 PM 1164 Views
It's true that after a certain age, average men have an easier time finding dates Helene - 24/03/2011 01:31:35 PM 1135 Views
I don't date so I don't have personal experience random thoughts - 24/03/2011 03:29:50 PM 1142 Views
I don't date either... :-) Helene - 24/03/2011 03:42:33 PM 1360 Views
I think you're doing him a disservice. nossy - 23/03/2011 02:16:59 PM 1254 Views
This. Plus, to try to frame it more in A's terms... Sareitha Sedai - 23/03/2011 03:05:55 PM 1180 Views
It can add extra complications that negatively impact the likelihood of a successful relationship Helene - 23/03/2011 02:50:39 PM 1189 Views
What I forgot to mention in the post Helene - 23/03/2011 03:01:04 PM 1150 Views
Re: What I forgot to mention in the post Aeryn - 24/03/2011 05:11:11 AM 1208 Views
If you have a lot in common with him and like him and are attracted to him Helene - 24/03/2011 09:41:01 AM 1092 Views
I think you should date him. Palatine - 23/03/2011 03:02:56 PM 1114 Views
I think you should date this guy if you like him. Morgawse - 23/03/2011 03:07:30 PM 1147 Views
I think that you're doing both of you a disservice. Jeordam - 23/03/2011 03:09:29 PM 1195 Views
I agree with you. Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:26:02 PM 1192 Views
And my opinion matters more than everyone else here combined! MWAHAHAHAHAHA Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:28:06 PM 1138 Views
Well, you know your sis better than we do... ironclad - 23/03/2011 03:48:12 PM 1159 Views
Because you never know. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:00:44 PM 1318 Views
Geez you know just the right things to say. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:38:34 AM 1179 Views
LOL. ( Yes I really did laugh out loud) *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:55:22 AM 599 Views
Most of the other responses are ignoring your reasons. Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:34:56 PM 1116 Views
No one should try to think from "the perspective of black women", not even 1 black woman can do that Helene - 23/03/2011 03:47:34 PM 1170 Views
Re Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:05:20 PM 1304 Views
I'm sure that Aeryn is lovely, but she's not the only lovely white woman in the world Helene - 24/03/2011 09:43:32 AM 1164 Views
Or nossy - 23/03/2011 03:47:56 PM 1162 Views
We have no control over how other people act. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:07:11 PM 1281 Views
I agree completely. nossy - 23/03/2011 04:17:59 PM 1248 Views
And it's a bit silly to determine for someone else who he should be dating *NM* Helene - 24/03/2011 09:33:09 AM 568 Views
This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. Tom - 23/03/2011 03:54:15 PM 1194 Views
Your opinion: less than nothing. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:10:24 PM 1270 Views
Who are you? Dark Knight - 23/03/2011 08:37:43 PM 1309 Views
It's extremely unlikely that Tom was offended. Vivien - 23/03/2011 09:04:42 PM 1190 Views
I'm glad you're back, by the way. These threads are great. *NM* Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 09:15:41 PM 611 Views
Thank you. *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 04:01:08 AM 613 Views
I'm not offended, only amused at your poor logic. Tom - 23/03/2011 09:24:05 PM 1235 Views
That's lawyer logic! Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:50:37 AM 1149 Views
Is there any other kind? *NM* Tom - 24/03/2011 02:05:27 PM 609 Views
Ooh that's harsh. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:48:50 AM 1135 Views
This is all I get???? Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:54:22 AM 1223 Views
Oh, I appreciate. There's cake in the fridge *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:27:20 AM 574 Views
You two are sooo cute! *NM* ironclad - 24/03/2011 07:29:12 PM 484 Views
+1, though I probably wouldn't have said it in quite the same way. Joel - 23/03/2011 11:03:07 PM 1166 Views
Yup. beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 01:42:16 AM 1247 Views
That's a good analogy. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:50:17 AM 1280 Views
Shrug. She likes *me*. Plus, Jewish guys love Asian girls, well-known fact. beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 04:46:56 AM 1157 Views
So it's not her choice who she wants to date, but everyone around her?? Helene - 24/03/2011 09:39:58 AM 1153 Views
What's wrong with wanting to preserve races or ethnic groups? ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 02:09:02 AM 1221 Views
When its the black race? *NM* Urza - 24/03/2011 02:21:13 AM 603 Views
You're such an ass *NM* ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 02:52:12 AM 588 Views
*butts in* nossy - 24/03/2011 02:45:26 AM 1231 Views
"It would be wrong, immortal [sic] even". Tom - 24/03/2011 02:52:21 AM 1269 Views
Or potentially not (directly) from Africa nossy - 24/03/2011 03:06:36 AM 1093 Views
I've only seen "identifies as" when someone is of mixed race. *NM* Tom - 24/03/2011 03:09:51 AM 565 Views
You're absolutely right. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:14:49 AM 1205 Views
Then your argument is even sillier, as mixed race is too white Helene - 24/03/2011 09:50:15 AM 1074 Views
Is he "identifying as" black in a cultural context as well? Tom - 24/03/2011 02:04:43 PM 1054 Views
Re: *butts in* ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 03:03:14 AM 1090 Views
You're a damn genius! nossy - 24/03/2011 03:09:26 AM 1197 Views
I don't feel like one ßelals Girl - 25/03/2011 01:17:07 AM 1159 Views
Re: This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:07:36 AM 1214 Views
That could be argued in the opposite way just as easily. Helene - 24/03/2011 09:48:16 AM 1125 Views
Huh Aeryn - 25/03/2011 11:15:58 AM 1166 Views
Are you looking for reasons not to date him, or are you just being overly socially conscience? Beqi - 23/03/2011 08:12:48 PM 1159 Views
Ha. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:17:26 AM 1164 Views
Heh, that really is the best thing *NM* beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 04:48:07 AM 606 Views
...wat. Is this a serious post? Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 08:23:04 PM 1179 Views
Kinda? Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:23:12 AM 1215 Views
I just broke up with my Pakistani girlfriend Dark Knight - 23/03/2011 08:24:52 PM 1136 Views
Heh heh heh heh snoopcester - 23/03/2011 08:25:06 PM 1014 Views
Ha, I didn't even see that typo. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 05:14:40 AM 1055 Views
<3 You Ana, BUT Urza - 23/03/2011 08:44:11 PM 1147 Views
wait. did you..? Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:37:23 AM 1165 Views
Your taken aback by this why? Urza - 24/03/2011 06:30:46 AM 1224 Views
I thought this was a great post. Legolas - 23/03/2011 10:26:08 PM 1223 Views
Glad I could entertain. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:47:48 AM 549 Views
I understand what you are saying. Tashmere - 23/03/2011 11:04:44 PM 1154 Views
An ally! Score! Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:56:53 AM 1109 Views
Aw, you're a darling. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:26:39 AM 1174 Views
Also somebody brought up the valid point of his rights. Tashmere - 26/03/2011 11:55:49 PM 1175 Views
There's not a wealth of eligible men from any race; maybe you should just stop dating entirely. Joel - 23/03/2011 11:27:40 PM 1104 Views
Well, yeah. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:49:47 AM 1028 Views
The critically large word is "if"; your reasoning is setting off massive circular claxons for me. Joel - 25/03/2011 11:30:15 PM 971 Views
he is not a resource, he is a man. *NM* Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:29:37 PM 676 Views
Cock is a resource. *NM* Urza - 23/03/2011 11:43:39 PM 580 Views
"Efficient allocation of cock?" Oh my, that sounds really wrong. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:32:23 AM 594 Views
seriously? that is dumb. date the man. also, it is dehumanising to refer to him as a resource. temeraire - 24/03/2011 12:52:38 AM 1212 Views
This is exactly it. Dan - 24/03/2011 04:02:10 AM 1222 Views
I didn't quite. I was talking about the economic principle. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:42:57 AM 576 Views
<--Black Guy Post Daiyon - 24/03/2011 12:57:13 AM 1300 Views
Re: Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:53:07 AM 1196 Views
Um. rebelaessedai - 24/03/2011 01:00:47 AM 1319 Views
Well, according to stand-up comics who specialize in racially based humor... TaskmasterJack - 24/03/2011 01:29:35 AM 1202 Views
Practical advice. I like it. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:58:24 AM 1224 Views
Practical advice! *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:58:34 AM 570 Views
... how did you? *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:31:14 AM 639 Views
I don't know! Our posts are about 1/10 of a second apart, freaky. *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 04:35:23 AM 578 Views
1/6 of a minute. But it's still a comical coincidence. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 24/03/2011 09:52:19 PM 603 Views
But that means if he's OK with it he's a commodity more rare and valuable than gold. Joel - 25/03/2011 11:37:48 PM 1096 Views
I present to you: A VISION OF THE FUTURE-UTRE-UTRE-UTRE beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 02:19:19 AM 1290 Views
Oh, that was awesome *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:37:01 AM 615 Views
+ 10 best post ever. I can't believe how funny that was. *NM* Timthetrolloc - 24/03/2011 03:54:39 AM 633 Views
What just happened? *NM* Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 04:04:45 AM 565 Views
*NM* ironclad - 24/03/2011 08:32:36 AM 502 Views
Awesome *NM* Stephen - 24/03/2011 09:03:13 AM 673 Views
I am currently dating a black woman... MightyYT - 24/03/2011 06:29:03 AM 1164 Views
...I always figured your name was a Snow Crash reference *NM* beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 03:48:53 PM 599 Views
I have had the nickname longer than that has been out. *NM* MightyYT - 24/03/2011 07:08:02 PM 614 Views
Don't date him. Stephen - 24/03/2011 09:44:30 AM 1169 Views
Its not likely anyone will read this comment since there are so many already MalkierKnight - 24/03/2011 01:12:19 PM 1354 Views
She's not talking about welfare queens, she's talking about well educated black women Helene - 24/03/2011 01:33:48 PM 1240 Views
It is. *NM* Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 09:33:01 PM 567 Views
this might help you understand what she is talking about random thoughts - 25/03/2011 02:24:35 PM 1209 Views
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