I'm concerned you may be confusing your conclusion with your premise here, but whether we speak of black guys specifically or guys in general my point stands: Why are you so much more concerned about the happiness of these hypothetical other women than about your own, particularly when it involves a guy who's apparently showing interest in you rather than them? Are they somehow more "worthy" of these eligible men than you are? Do you think women of other ethnicities are out there thinking, Well, yeah, Tom Brady/George Clooney/whoever does it for you is cute, and successful, and nice, and he seems as attracted to me as I am to him, but am I being unfair to Neph and all the other white girls out there if I allow us to rock each others worlds? You think I'm losing a lot of sleep over denying some Norwegian dude my wife?

Are there indications of cultural differences so significant that they're likely to make the relationship fail? Are you just looking for a reason not to date? I realize there are more than just those two options, but give yourself a chance to be happy, woman; you're threatening to make me agree with Urza, and none of us wants that....