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wait. did you..? Aeryn Send a noteboard - 24/03/2011 04:37:23 AM
That is... very sweet. Like, thoughtful and considerate. I'm rather taken aback.

The sort of altruism your argument is premised on is deeply flawed.

You would be so much more beautiful if you would use that sort of thinking to live your life from a perspective of enlightened self interest.

By thinking in this manner you do the man a great dis-service. You do yourself a great dis-service also.
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Interracial dating (in the dating dilemma series) Aeryn - 23/03/2011 11:11:14 AM 2411 Views
I am not a black woman and I haven't done it ironclad - 23/03/2011 11:24:16 AM 1384 Views
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Independence Day reference? Good man. *NM* Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 08:28:35 PM 659 Views
john lennon... MalkierKnight - 24/03/2011 01:08:20 PM 1430 Views
If you limit your dating pool by race you really have no reason to complain Camilla - 23/03/2011 11:57:48 AM 1313 Views
I dated a black girl for nearly 3 years. Dragonsoul - 23/03/2011 12:29:26 PM 1400 Views
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LMAO Jens, you know me too well Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:30:35 PM 1283 Views
And her mother is Muslim. Dragonsoul - 24/03/2011 11:48:24 AM 1320 Views
What's it called? *NM* Legolas - 24/03/2011 10:36:28 PM 670 Views
please give him a moment to google an answer. *NM* Aisha - 25/03/2011 11:04:02 AM 676 Views
She said it's called Abu Haifa (sp?) Dragonsoul - 25/03/2011 10:38:13 PM 1282 Views
Hm, okay. Legolas - 26/03/2011 12:16:02 AM 1434 Views
That was it, Abu Hanifa. I'm poor with Arabic. Dragonsoul - 26/03/2011 01:08:12 AM 1379 Views
amazingly enough, I dont believe you. Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:32:26 PM 1413 Views
I'd prove it to you. Dragonsoul - 24/03/2011 11:47:33 AM 1307 Views
God help me, I'm agreeing with Dragonsoul. Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 09:29:56 PM 1258 Views
I think he is making it up for the benefit of this comunity Aisha - 24/03/2011 10:03:21 PM 1398 Views
Sometimes I worry about "this community"... Joel - 25/03/2011 11:33:17 PM 1504 Views
I think that would be a poor reason to not date someone random thoughts - 23/03/2011 01:07:31 PM 1394 Views
Can you edit your post and take out the cow analogies? Thanks. *NM* Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:31:51 PM 674 Views
I didn't even see the "cow & milk" analogy. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:03:02 AM 1270 Views
being offensive makes it no less true random thoughts - 24/03/2011 01:25:34 PM 1284 Views
It's true that after a certain age, average men have an easier time finding dates Helene - 24/03/2011 01:31:35 PM 1272 Views
I don't date so I don't have personal experience random thoughts - 24/03/2011 03:29:50 PM 1262 Views
I don't date either... :-) Helene - 24/03/2011 03:42:33 PM 1481 Views
I think you're doing him a disservice. nossy - 23/03/2011 02:16:59 PM 1363 Views
This. Plus, to try to frame it more in A's terms... Sareitha Sedai - 23/03/2011 03:05:55 PM 1310 Views
It can add extra complications that negatively impact the likelihood of a successful relationship Helene - 23/03/2011 02:50:39 PM 1299 Views
What I forgot to mention in the post Helene - 23/03/2011 03:01:04 PM 1269 Views
Re: What I forgot to mention in the post Aeryn - 24/03/2011 05:11:11 AM 1324 Views
If you have a lot in common with him and like him and are attracted to him Helene - 24/03/2011 09:41:01 AM 1205 Views
I think you should date him. Palatine - 23/03/2011 03:02:56 PM 1212 Views
I think you should date this guy if you like him. Morgawse - 23/03/2011 03:07:30 PM 1263 Views
I think that you're doing both of you a disservice. Jeordam - 23/03/2011 03:09:29 PM 1307 Views
I agree with you. Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:26:02 PM 1297 Views
And my opinion matters more than everyone else here combined! MWAHAHAHAHAHA Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:28:06 PM 1258 Views
Well, you know your sis better than we do... ironclad - 23/03/2011 03:48:12 PM 1264 Views
Because you never know. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:00:44 PM 1446 Views
Geez you know just the right things to say. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:38:34 AM 1287 Views
LOL. ( Yes I really did laugh out loud) *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:55:22 AM 648 Views
Most of the other responses are ignoring your reasons. Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:34:56 PM 1235 Views
No one should try to think from "the perspective of black women", not even 1 black woman can do that Helene - 23/03/2011 03:47:34 PM 1295 Views
Re Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:05:20 PM 1436 Views
I'm sure that Aeryn is lovely, but she's not the only lovely white woman in the world Helene - 24/03/2011 09:43:32 AM 1275 Views
Or nossy - 23/03/2011 03:47:56 PM 1272 Views
We have no control over how other people act. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:07:11 PM 1408 Views
I agree completely. nossy - 23/03/2011 04:17:59 PM 1371 Views
And it's a bit silly to determine for someone else who he should be dating *NM* Helene - 24/03/2011 09:33:09 AM 616 Views
This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. Tom - 23/03/2011 03:54:15 PM 1298 Views
Your opinion: less than nothing. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:10:24 PM 1369 Views
Who are you? Dark Knight - 23/03/2011 08:37:43 PM 1422 Views
It's extremely unlikely that Tom was offended. Vivien - 23/03/2011 09:04:42 PM 1317 Views
I'm glad you're back, by the way. These threads are great. *NM* Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 09:15:41 PM 688 Views
Thank you. *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 04:01:08 AM 675 Views
I'm not offended, only amused at your poor logic. Tom - 23/03/2011 09:24:05 PM 1345 Views
That's lawyer logic! Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:50:37 AM 1273 Views
Is there any other kind? *NM* Tom - 24/03/2011 02:05:27 PM 656 Views
Ooh that's harsh. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:48:50 AM 1270 Views
This is all I get???? Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:54:22 AM 1325 Views
Oh, I appreciate. There's cake in the fridge *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:27:20 AM 632 Views
You two are sooo cute! *NM* ironclad - 24/03/2011 07:29:12 PM 543 Views
+1, though I probably wouldn't have said it in quite the same way. Joel - 23/03/2011 11:03:07 PM 1284 Views
Yup. beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 01:42:16 AM 1367 Views
That's a good analogy. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:50:17 AM 1393 Views
Shrug. She likes *me*. Plus, Jewish guys love Asian girls, well-known fact. beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 04:46:56 AM 1289 Views
So it's not her choice who she wants to date, but everyone around her?? Helene - 24/03/2011 09:39:58 AM 1248 Views
What's wrong with wanting to preserve races or ethnic groups? ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 02:09:02 AM 1331 Views
When its the black race? *NM* Urza - 24/03/2011 02:21:13 AM 662 Views
You're such an ass *NM* ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 02:52:12 AM 641 Views
*butts in* nossy - 24/03/2011 02:45:26 AM 1351 Views
"It would be wrong, immortal [sic] even". Tom - 24/03/2011 02:52:21 AM 1388 Views
Or potentially not (directly) from Africa nossy - 24/03/2011 03:06:36 AM 1202 Views
I've only seen "identifies as" when someone is of mixed race. *NM* Tom - 24/03/2011 03:09:51 AM 618 Views
You're absolutely right. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:14:49 AM 1319 Views
Then your argument is even sillier, as mixed race is too white Helene - 24/03/2011 09:50:15 AM 1181 Views
Is he "identifying as" black in a cultural context as well? Tom - 24/03/2011 02:04:43 PM 1166 Views
Re: *butts in* ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 03:03:14 AM 1202 Views
You're a damn genius! nossy - 24/03/2011 03:09:26 AM 1302 Views
I don't feel like one ßelals Girl - 25/03/2011 01:17:07 AM 1259 Views
Re: This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:07:36 AM 1329 Views
That could be argued in the opposite way just as easily. Helene - 24/03/2011 09:48:16 AM 1265 Views
Huh Aeryn - 25/03/2011 11:15:58 AM 1271 Views
Are you looking for reasons not to date him, or are you just being overly socially conscience? Beqi - 23/03/2011 08:12:48 PM 1270 Views
Ha. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:17:26 AM 1283 Views
Heh, that really is the best thing *NM* beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 04:48:07 AM 665 Views
...wat. Is this a serious post? Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 08:23:04 PM 1282 Views
Kinda? Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:23:12 AM 1334 Views
I just broke up with my Pakistani girlfriend Dark Knight - 23/03/2011 08:24:52 PM 1261 Views
Heh heh heh heh snoopcester - 23/03/2011 08:25:06 PM 1124 Views
Ha, I didn't even see that typo. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 05:14:40 AM 1175 Views
<3 You Ana, BUT Urza - 23/03/2011 08:44:11 PM 1268 Views
wait. did you..? Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:37:23 AM 1272 Views
Your taken aback by this why? Urza - 24/03/2011 06:30:46 AM 1331 Views
I thought this was a great post. Legolas - 23/03/2011 10:26:08 PM 1336 Views
Glad I could entertain. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:47:48 AM 598 Views
I understand what you are saying. Tashmere - 23/03/2011 11:04:44 PM 1270 Views
An ally! Score! Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:56:53 AM 1228 Views
Aw, you're a darling. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:26:39 AM 1275 Views
Also somebody brought up the valid point of his rights. Tashmere - 26/03/2011 11:55:49 PM 1277 Views
There's not a wealth of eligible men from any race; maybe you should just stop dating entirely. Joel - 23/03/2011 11:27:40 PM 1211 Views
Well, yeah. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:49:47 AM 1133 Views
The critically large word is "if"; your reasoning is setting off massive circular claxons for me. Joel - 25/03/2011 11:30:15 PM 1081 Views
he is not a resource, he is a man. *NM* Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:29:37 PM 719 Views
Cock is a resource. *NM* Urza - 23/03/2011 11:43:39 PM 633 Views
"Efficient allocation of cock?" Oh my, that sounds really wrong. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:32:23 AM 634 Views
seriously? that is dumb. date the man. also, it is dehumanising to refer to him as a resource. temeraire - 24/03/2011 12:52:38 AM 1330 Views
This is exactly it. Dan - 24/03/2011 04:02:10 AM 1330 Views
I didn't quite. I was talking about the economic principle. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:42:57 AM 619 Views
<--Black Guy Post Daiyon - 24/03/2011 12:57:13 AM 1422 Views
Re: Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:53:07 AM 1317 Views
Um. rebelaessedai - 24/03/2011 01:00:47 AM 1443 Views
Well, according to stand-up comics who specialize in racially based humor... TaskmasterJack - 24/03/2011 01:29:35 AM 1335 Views
Practical advice. I like it. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:58:24 AM 1338 Views
Practical advice! *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:58:34 AM 620 Views
... how did you? *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:31:14 AM 695 Views
I don't know! Our posts are about 1/10 of a second apart, freaky. *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 04:35:23 AM 625 Views
1/6 of a minute. But it's still a comical coincidence. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 24/03/2011 09:52:19 PM 657 Views
But that means if he's OK with it he's a commodity more rare and valuable than gold. Joel - 25/03/2011 11:37:48 PM 1192 Views
I present to you: A VISION OF THE FUTURE-UTRE-UTRE-UTRE beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 02:19:19 AM 1390 Views
Oh, that was awesome *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:37:01 AM 665 Views
+ 10 best post ever. I can't believe how funny that was. *NM* Timthetrolloc - 24/03/2011 03:54:39 AM 675 Views
What just happened? *NM* Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 04:04:45 AM 625 Views
*NM* ironclad - 24/03/2011 08:32:36 AM 553 Views
Awesome *NM* Stephen - 24/03/2011 09:03:13 AM 732 Views
I am currently dating a black woman... MightyYT - 24/03/2011 06:29:03 AM 1276 Views
...I always figured your name was a Snow Crash reference *NM* beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 03:48:53 PM 651 Views
I have had the nickname longer than that has been out. *NM* MightyYT - 24/03/2011 07:08:02 PM 677 Views
Don't date him. Stephen - 24/03/2011 09:44:30 AM 1276 Views
Its not likely anyone will read this comment since there are so many already MalkierKnight - 24/03/2011 01:12:19 PM 1488 Views
She's not talking about welfare queens, she's talking about well educated black women Helene - 24/03/2011 01:33:48 PM 1343 Views
It is. *NM* Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 09:33:01 PM 605 Views
this might help you understand what she is talking about random thoughts - 25/03/2011 02:24:35 PM 1351 Views
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