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We have no control over how other people act. Vivien Send a noteboard - 23/03/2011 04:07:11 PM
We're looking at it from the point of view that this one man should be allowed to date who he wants, rather than being "forced" to stick with his own "kind." If Aeryn is uncomfortable that black women will be upset to see them together, that's one thing. It's another to expect that this man act in your pre-approved pattern because of favorable statistics.


All we can do is make decisions for ourselves.
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Interracial dating (in the dating dilemma series) Aeryn - 23/03/2011 11:11:14 AM 2050 Views
I am not a black woman and I haven't done it ironclad - 23/03/2011 11:24:16 AM 995 Views
Re: Aeryn - 23/03/2011 11:38:31 AM 1038 Views
Independence Day reference? Good man. *NM* Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 08:28:35 PM 513 Views
john lennon... MalkierKnight - 24/03/2011 01:08:20 PM 1021 Views
If you limit your dating pool by race you really have no reason to complain Camilla - 23/03/2011 11:57:48 AM 951 Views
I dated a black girl for nearly 3 years. Dragonsoul - 23/03/2011 12:29:26 PM 1058 Views
ironclad - 23/03/2011 12:57:08 PM 1080 Views
LMAO Jens, you know me too well Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:30:35 PM 957 Views
And her mother is Muslim. Dragonsoul - 24/03/2011 11:48:24 AM 982 Views
What's it called? *NM* Legolas - 24/03/2011 10:36:28 PM 520 Views
please give him a moment to google an answer. *NM* Aisha - 25/03/2011 11:04:02 AM 529 Views
She said it's called Abu Haifa (sp?) Dragonsoul - 25/03/2011 10:38:13 PM 987 Views
Hm, okay. Legolas - 26/03/2011 12:16:02 AM 1115 Views
That was it, Abu Hanifa. I'm poor with Arabic. Dragonsoul - 26/03/2011 01:08:12 AM 1036 Views
amazingly enough, I dont believe you. Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:32:26 PM 1091 Views
I'd prove it to you. Dragonsoul - 24/03/2011 11:47:33 AM 948 Views
God help me, I'm agreeing with Dragonsoul. Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 09:29:56 PM 965 Views
I think he is making it up for the benefit of this comunity Aisha - 24/03/2011 10:03:21 PM 1061 Views
Sometimes I worry about "this community"... Joel - 25/03/2011 11:33:17 PM 1157 Views
I think that would be a poor reason to not date someone random thoughts - 23/03/2011 01:07:31 PM 1072 Views
Can you edit your post and take out the cow analogies? Thanks. *NM* Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:31:51 PM 527 Views
I didn't even see the "cow & milk" analogy. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:03:02 AM 937 Views
being offensive makes it no less true random thoughts - 24/03/2011 01:25:34 PM 940 Views
It's true that after a certain age, average men have an easier time finding dates Helene - 24/03/2011 01:31:35 PM 912 Views
I don't date so I don't have personal experience random thoughts - 24/03/2011 03:29:50 PM 932 Views
I don't date either... :-) Helene - 24/03/2011 03:42:33 PM 1140 Views
I think you're doing him a disservice. nossy - 23/03/2011 02:16:59 PM 1041 Views
This. Plus, to try to frame it more in A's terms... Sareitha Sedai - 23/03/2011 03:05:55 PM 959 Views
It can add extra complications that negatively impact the likelihood of a successful relationship Helene - 23/03/2011 02:50:39 PM 975 Views
What I forgot to mention in the post Helene - 23/03/2011 03:01:04 PM 939 Views
Re: What I forgot to mention in the post Aeryn - 24/03/2011 05:11:11 AM 991 Views
If you have a lot in common with him and like him and are attracted to him Helene - 24/03/2011 09:41:01 AM 900 Views
I think you should date him. Palatine - 23/03/2011 03:02:56 PM 916 Views
I think you should date this guy if you like him. Morgawse - 23/03/2011 03:07:30 PM 925 Views
I think that you're doing both of you a disservice. Jeordam - 23/03/2011 03:09:29 PM 985 Views
I agree with you. Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:26:02 PM 983 Views
And my opinion matters more than everyone else here combined! MWAHAHAHAHAHA Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:28:06 PM 914 Views
Well, you know your sis better than we do... ironclad - 23/03/2011 03:48:12 PM 945 Views
Because you never know. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:00:44 PM 1104 Views
Geez you know just the right things to say. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:38:34 AM 968 Views
LOL. ( Yes I really did laugh out loud) *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:55:22 AM 503 Views
Most of the other responses are ignoring your reasons. Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:34:56 PM 907 Views
No one should try to think from "the perspective of black women", not even 1 black woman can do that Helene - 23/03/2011 03:47:34 PM 945 Views
Re Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:05:20 PM 1059 Views
I'm sure that Aeryn is lovely, but she's not the only lovely white woman in the world Helene - 24/03/2011 09:43:32 AM 960 Views
Or nossy - 23/03/2011 03:47:56 PM 944 Views
We have no control over how other people act. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:07:11 PM 1059 Views
I agree completely. nossy - 23/03/2011 04:17:59 PM 1025 Views
And it's a bit silly to determine for someone else who he should be dating *NM* Helene - 24/03/2011 09:33:09 AM 487 Views
This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. Tom - 23/03/2011 03:54:15 PM 976 Views
Your opinion: less than nothing. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:10:24 PM 1055 Views
Who are you? Dark Knight - 23/03/2011 08:37:43 PM 1097 Views
It's extremely unlikely that Tom was offended. Vivien - 23/03/2011 09:04:42 PM 976 Views
I'm glad you're back, by the way. These threads are great. *NM* Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 09:15:41 PM 520 Views
Thank you. *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 04:01:08 AM 525 Views
I'm not offended, only amused at your poor logic. Tom - 23/03/2011 09:24:05 PM 1008 Views
That's lawyer logic! Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:50:37 AM 942 Views
Is there any other kind? *NM* Tom - 24/03/2011 02:05:27 PM 521 Views
Ooh that's harsh. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:48:50 AM 903 Views
This is all I get???? Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:54:22 AM 1002 Views
Oh, I appreciate. There's cake in the fridge *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:27:20 AM 487 Views
You two are sooo cute! *NM* ironclad - 24/03/2011 07:29:12 PM 392 Views
+1, though I probably wouldn't have said it in quite the same way. Joel - 23/03/2011 11:03:07 PM 937 Views
Yup. beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 01:42:16 AM 1038 Views
That's a good analogy. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:50:17 AM 1009 Views
Shrug. She likes *me*. Plus, Jewish guys love Asian girls, well-known fact. beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 04:46:56 AM 942 Views
So it's not her choice who she wants to date, but everyone around her?? Helene - 24/03/2011 09:39:58 AM 950 Views
What's wrong with wanting to preserve races or ethnic groups? ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 02:09:02 AM 1003 Views
When its the black race? *NM* Urza - 24/03/2011 02:21:13 AM 521 Views
You're such an ass *NM* ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 02:52:12 AM 501 Views
*butts in* nossy - 24/03/2011 02:45:26 AM 996 Views
"It would be wrong, immortal [sic] even". Tom - 24/03/2011 02:52:21 AM 1029 Views
Or potentially not (directly) from Africa nossy - 24/03/2011 03:06:36 AM 886 Views
I've only seen "identifies as" when someone is of mixed race. *NM* Tom - 24/03/2011 03:09:51 AM 481 Views
You're absolutely right. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:14:49 AM 972 Views
Then your argument is even sillier, as mixed race is too white Helene - 24/03/2011 09:50:15 AM 854 Views
Is he "identifying as" black in a cultural context as well? Tom - 24/03/2011 02:04:43 PM 838 Views
Re: *butts in* ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 03:03:14 AM 903 Views
You're a damn genius! nossy - 24/03/2011 03:09:26 AM 998 Views
I don't feel like one ßelals Girl - 25/03/2011 01:17:07 AM 964 Views
Re: This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:07:36 AM 997 Views
That could be argued in the opposite way just as easily. Helene - 24/03/2011 09:48:16 AM 930 Views
Huh Aeryn - 25/03/2011 11:15:58 AM 937 Views
Are you looking for reasons not to date him, or are you just being overly socially conscience? Beqi - 23/03/2011 08:12:48 PM 958 Views
Ha. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:17:26 AM 946 Views
Heh, that really is the best thing *NM* beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 04:48:07 AM 522 Views
...wat. Is this a serious post? Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 08:23:04 PM 952 Views
Kinda? Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:23:12 AM 1004 Views
I just broke up with my Pakistani girlfriend Dark Knight - 23/03/2011 08:24:52 PM 909 Views
Heh heh heh heh snoopcester - 23/03/2011 08:25:06 PM 806 Views
Ha, I didn't even see that typo. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 05:14:40 AM 846 Views
<3 You Ana, BUT Urza - 23/03/2011 08:44:11 PM 941 Views
wait. did you..? Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:37:23 AM 974 Views
Your taken aback by this why? Urza - 24/03/2011 06:30:46 AM 1012 Views
I thought this was a great post. Legolas - 23/03/2011 10:26:08 PM 987 Views
Glad I could entertain. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:47:48 AM 465 Views
I understand what you are saying. Tashmere - 23/03/2011 11:04:44 PM 937 Views
An ally! Score! Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:56:53 AM 916 Views
Aw, you're a darling. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:26:39 AM 973 Views
Also somebody brought up the valid point of his rights. Tashmere - 26/03/2011 11:55:49 PM 952 Views
There's not a wealth of eligible men from any race; maybe you should just stop dating entirely. Joel - 23/03/2011 11:27:40 PM 889 Views
Well, yeah. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:49:47 AM 801 Views
The critically large word is "if"; your reasoning is setting off massive circular claxons for me. Joel - 25/03/2011 11:30:15 PM 751 Views
he is not a resource, he is a man. *NM* Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:29:37 PM 569 Views
Cock is a resource. *NM* Urza - 23/03/2011 11:43:39 PM 480 Views
"Efficient allocation of cock?" Oh my, that sounds really wrong. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:32:23 AM 503 Views
seriously? that is dumb. date the man. also, it is dehumanising to refer to him as a resource. temeraire - 24/03/2011 12:52:38 AM 995 Views
This is exactly it. Dan - 24/03/2011 04:02:10 AM 1005 Views
I didn't quite. I was talking about the economic principle. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:42:57 AM 492 Views
<--Black Guy Post Daiyon - 24/03/2011 12:57:13 AM 1081 Views
Re: Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:53:07 AM 1003 Views
Um. rebelaessedai - 24/03/2011 01:00:47 AM 1096 Views
Well, according to stand-up comics who specialize in racially based humor... TaskmasterJack - 24/03/2011 01:29:35 AM 974 Views
Practical advice. I like it. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:58:24 AM 1015 Views
Practical advice! *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:58:34 AM 488 Views
... how did you? *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:31:14 AM 506 Views
I don't know! Our posts are about 1/10 of a second apart, freaky. *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 04:35:23 AM 477 Views
1/6 of a minute. But it's still a comical coincidence. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 24/03/2011 09:52:19 PM 501 Views
But that means if he's OK with it he's a commodity more rare and valuable than gold. Joel - 25/03/2011 11:37:48 PM 890 Views
I present to you: A VISION OF THE FUTURE-UTRE-UTRE-UTRE beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 02:19:19 AM 1081 Views
Oh, that was awesome *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:37:01 AM 505 Views
+ 10 best post ever. I can't believe how funny that was. *NM* Timthetrolloc - 24/03/2011 03:54:39 AM 554 Views
What just happened? *NM* Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 04:04:45 AM 470 Views
*NM* ironclad - 24/03/2011 08:32:36 AM 411 Views
Awesome *NM* Stephen - 24/03/2011 09:03:13 AM 588 Views
I am currently dating a black woman... MightyYT - 24/03/2011 06:29:03 AM 949 Views
...I always figured your name was a Snow Crash reference *NM* beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 03:48:53 PM 505 Views
I have had the nickname longer than that has been out. *NM* MightyYT - 24/03/2011 07:08:02 PM 523 Views
Don't date him. Stephen - 24/03/2011 09:44:30 AM 951 Views
Its not likely anyone will read this comment since there are so many already MalkierKnight - 24/03/2011 01:12:19 PM 1053 Views
She's not talking about welfare queens, she's talking about well educated black women Helene - 24/03/2011 01:33:48 PM 1003 Views
It is. *NM* Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 09:33:01 PM 476 Views
this might help you understand what she is talking about random thoughts - 25/03/2011 02:24:35 PM 948 Views
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