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Gah, weddings. Camilla Send a noteboard - 04/04/2011 03:43:51 PM
So, I've been engaged for over a year now, and we haven't set a wedding date yet.

I like this, as I like being engaged. And planning a wedding sounds like an awful lot of work to me (and probably requires throwing a lot of money at it, too). I'm not really the kind of woman who's been planning her marriage since the age of 4.

I do have a vague sense that I want to throw a really cool party.


I sympathise. I wasn't going to get married, because I thought it was deeply silly. Pragmatism wins, however; but I am resisting the cliché of the matching napkins and the colour coordination with all my heart. I want a big party. That is all.

So on to the survey:

1. 'Did you ever attend a wedding? (if not, prob this survey isn't for you)


A couple, yes.

2. Do you like weddings?


Meh. Sure. They are all right. There is often good food, and I like to cry at speeches. But I get hives from the matching everythings and the impersonal format.

3. Did you ever organize a wedding? (Was it your own?)


Am currently doing it. In theory, anyway.

4. What was the best wedding you ever went to, and why was it so good? (cue for: my own, because I love my spouse so much! real intention of question is that I want to know what made the party fun)


I am not sure I can single out a single wedding. All weddings I have been to have had good things (things that only worked there, because they were particular to that couple) and things that made me cringe (did I mention matching napkins and flowers?). I think I am better at explaining what does not work than what works.

5. What kind of wedding would you like to throw yourself (if you were to marry at some point)?


We are having it in my mother's garden (decided in a haze on wine many years ago and too late to go back on, despite me realising that outside in summer there are bugs and weather in Norway really does not work with outside seating). No white dress. Civil official marrying us just before dinner. No white dress, did I mention? Everyone has to wear a hat. No matching napkins.

6. Do you like traditional weddings, or ones that do something unique/funny?


I think you can guess from my earlier replies.
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Weddings Helene - 04/04/2011 02:16:28 PM 1582 Views
Own answers Helene - 04/04/2011 02:24:56 PM 1160 Views
Bach. CEREMONY!!! LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 02:25:14 PM 1226 Views
The wedding is the entire day, right, ceremony + reception? Helene - 04/04/2011 02:39:38 PM 1174 Views
ha ha yah I was sober. Unfort. actually LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 10:32:50 PM 933 Views
Coldness can sober/wake you up...of course, warmth then can make it come back with a vengeance. *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:13 PM 477 Views
Yah, I would have put the window down LadyLorraine - 06/04/2011 04:44:12 AM 920 Views
Re: Weddings random thoughts - 04/04/2011 02:30:21 PM 1072 Views
What's JP? Helene - 04/04/2011 02:43:56 PM 1036 Views
The smart way to get married random thoughts - 04/04/2011 03:21:54 PM 964 Views
Ah... we don't do that here, at least, not that fast Helene - 04/04/2011 03:26:43 PM 966 Views
there is still a waiting periiod depending on the state random thoughts - 04/04/2011 04:36:43 PM 932 Views
Oh ok :-). Then it's not very different. Is it just Nevada that has the quick wedding? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:44 PM 455 Views
Re: Weddings nossy - 04/04/2011 02:56:31 PM 1073 Views
But you're marrying Snoopster! Helene - 04/04/2011 03:15:42 PM 1129 Views
That's part of the problem! nossy - 04/04/2011 03:26:20 PM 1229 Views
snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:42 PM 1092 Views
Sorry, but you shouldn't have just assumed you were invited. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:33:46 PM 466 Views
I am quietly confident I'm not her aunt. *NM* snoopcester - 04/04/2011 11:05:33 PM 464 Views
But how do we know you're not? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:59:05 PM 458 Views
Re: That's part of the problem! Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:11:53 PM 1056 Views
She wouldn't be dramatic there, that would be fine. nossy - 05/04/2011 05:11:47 PM 1080 Views
If you don't want drama, don't invite family. Seriously, listen to the voice of experience here. *NM* Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:07:42 PM 519 Views
you are not factoring in the drama of not inviting family. Camilla - 04/04/2011 04:32:51 PM 1004 Views
Yes, I was. Macharius - 04/04/2011 06:51:29 PM 1007 Views
Wow Camilla - 04/04/2011 06:53:18 PM 996 Views
How can you *not* invite family? Family is all that matters. *NM* Vivien - 05/04/2011 02:18:55 AM 495 Views
That entirely depends on how you define family. LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 03:46:11 AM 1069 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:16:15 PM 964 Views
a lot of families create a lot of inner suffering LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 10:49:50 PM 1008 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:26:06 PM 1019 Views
In your opinion. For me, as an example, it is the people I care for and respect that matter. snoopcester - 05/04/2011 10:26:53 AM 906 Views
We just come from different worlds. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:14:32 PM 1042 Views
Yes snoopcester - 05/04/2011 08:56:17 PM 1056 Views
Sorry Grandma but we only had room for 100 guest and you didn't make the cut *NM* random thoughts - 05/04/2011 02:22:07 PM 437 Views
Are you getting married over here or over there? Clover - 26/04/2011 09:22:21 PM 995 Views
I've always wondered about how that works... ironclad - 04/04/2011 03:01:12 PM 1050 Views
I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene - 04/04/2011 03:20:41 PM 1083 Views
Re: I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks ironclad - 04/04/2011 03:38:03 PM 1148 Views
Re: I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene - 05/04/2011 01:22:03 PM 1033 Views
well, certainly you will talk about it with your s.o. before it happens. temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:47:30 PM 1053 Views
Re: Weddings Birdeye - 04/04/2011 03:27:29 PM 1168 Views
Re: Weddings TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:37:03 PM 1031 Views
Gah, weddings. Camilla - 04/04/2011 03:43:51 PM 1092 Views
Getting hitched snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:20 PM 1095 Views
Re: Getting hitched Camilla - 04/04/2011 03:57:18 PM 975 Views
that is the catch snoopcester - 04/04/2011 04:42:16 PM 1035 Views
Re: that is the catch Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:18:33 PM 975 Views
Probably best not to count the wedding present snoopcester - 05/04/2011 09:01:45 PM 1005 Views
Re: Probably best not to count the wedding present Vivien - 11/04/2011 01:20:24 AM 1081 Views
Re: Weddings Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:19:16 PM 969 Views
Re: Weddings jh - 04/04/2011 04:58:28 PM 1133 Views
Re: Weddings Stephen - 04/04/2011 05:42:06 PM 1016 Views
ugh. we are having so much trouble with this... temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:30:10 PM 1069 Views
A very special episode of Love Boat. TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:46:28 PM 1010 Views
Well. Rebekah - 04/04/2011 09:50:04 PM 994 Views
Oooh, what did you wear? Vivien - 05/04/2011 02:26:51 AM 969 Views
You can see the top of it in my profile pic. Rebekah - 06/04/2011 08:37:49 AM 1047 Views
I'd like to elope myself Mark - 04/04/2011 10:18:13 PM 1058 Views
I do! Vivien - 05/04/2011 01:35:41 AM 981 Views
Re: Weddings wolfsister - 05/04/2011 02:40:38 AM 1028 Views
Re-Weddings are cool; far less stressful, I think. Joel - 05/04/2011 04:38:03 AM 1109 Views
Weddings...are we talking about mawage? Tom - 05/04/2011 09:18:17 PM 1012 Views
Re: Weddings Aeryn - 06/04/2011 04:30:17 AM 1026 Views
Re: Weddings globug0822 - 06/04/2011 05:58:54 AM 1023 Views
I take it back... there was one. globug0822 - 06/04/2011 06:08:59 AM 910 Views
Re: I recently attended a wedding. mother of pearl - 15/04/2011 02:59:47 PM 1157 Views
There must be at least five wotmaniac ladies who are engaged now. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:40:38 PM 1082 Views
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