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Re: Probably best not to count the wedding present Vivien Send a noteboard - 11/04/2011 01:20:24 AM
The friends I know who did it were very clear that they didn't want wedding presents, since as far as they were concerned travelling to their wedding was a wedding present from the guests. I agree with them on that and would think it fairly obnoxious to expect a present on top of attending.

Well they don't get a holiday *out of it*, they're forced to use both their vacation time and vacation money for it, and that's not even counting the wedding present. I think it's really irresponsible to ask other people to spend money like that, unless everyone you want at your wedding is loaded and would not mind.


Well yes they do very much get a holiday out of it - perhaps we have different definitions of "holiday"?


Yeah. Vacation time is quite precious in the US. Average number of paid vacation days in the US, counting paid holidays- 15. Remember, that's counting holidays, so you can't shift those around. For professionals, it's typical to have 2 weeks of paid vacation time in addition to a few holidays.

At my place of employment, the vacation policy was fairly generous. I had 4 (I think) paid holidays, 4 floating holidays, and 10 days vacation. The floating holidays are not as great as they sound because I would forget that a floating holiday is coming up, I'd forget to put in the request for the vacation day in time, and then I'd be stuck spending hours and hours commuting on these holidays because public transportation is awful on holidays.

I didn't even go on any long vacations when I was working. There were some long weekends where I'd take a friday or monday off but generally I also wound up taking vacation day every other month or so just to catch up on errands and go to the dentist/doctor and stuff like that.
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Weddings Helene - 04/04/2011 02:16:28 PM 1435 Views
Own answers Helene - 04/04/2011 02:24:56 PM 1012 Views
Bach. CEREMONY!!! LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 02:25:14 PM 1062 Views
The wedding is the entire day, right, ceremony + reception? Helene - 04/04/2011 02:39:38 PM 1005 Views
ha ha yah I was sober. Unfort. actually LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 10:32:50 PM 789 Views
Coldness can sober/wake you up...of course, warmth then can make it come back with a vengeance. *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:13 PM 397 Views
Yah, I would have put the window down LadyLorraine - 06/04/2011 04:44:12 AM 763 Views
Re: Weddings random thoughts - 04/04/2011 02:30:21 PM 937 Views
What's JP? Helene - 04/04/2011 02:43:56 PM 892 Views
The smart way to get married random thoughts - 04/04/2011 03:21:54 PM 816 Views
Ah... we don't do that here, at least, not that fast Helene - 04/04/2011 03:26:43 PM 804 Views
there is still a waiting periiod depending on the state random thoughts - 04/04/2011 04:36:43 PM 794 Views
Oh ok :-). Then it's not very different. Is it just Nevada that has the quick wedding? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:44 PM 376 Views
Re: Weddings nossy - 04/04/2011 02:56:31 PM 930 Views
But you're marrying Snoopster! Helene - 04/04/2011 03:15:42 PM 968 Views
That's part of the problem! nossy - 04/04/2011 03:26:20 PM 1061 Views
snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:42 PM 932 Views
Sorry, but you shouldn't have just assumed you were invited. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:33:46 PM 387 Views
I am quietly confident I'm not her aunt. *NM* snoopcester - 04/04/2011 11:05:33 PM 388 Views
But how do we know you're not? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:59:05 PM 382 Views
Re: That's part of the problem! Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:11:53 PM 905 Views
She wouldn't be dramatic there, that would be fine. nossy - 05/04/2011 05:11:47 PM 927 Views
If you don't want drama, don't invite family. Seriously, listen to the voice of experience here. *NM* Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:07:42 PM 441 Views
you are not factoring in the drama of not inviting family. Camilla - 04/04/2011 04:32:51 PM 858 Views
Yes, I was. Macharius - 04/04/2011 06:51:29 PM 861 Views
Wow Camilla - 04/04/2011 06:53:18 PM 852 Views
How can you *not* invite family? Family is all that matters. *NM* Vivien - 05/04/2011 02:18:55 AM 426 Views
That entirely depends on how you define family. LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 03:46:11 AM 922 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:16:15 PM 821 Views
a lot of families create a lot of inner suffering LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 10:49:50 PM 854 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:26:06 PM 868 Views
In your opinion. For me, as an example, it is the people I care for and respect that matter. snoopcester - 05/04/2011 10:26:53 AM 763 Views
We just come from different worlds. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:14:32 PM 878 Views
Yes snoopcester - 05/04/2011 08:56:17 PM 902 Views
Sorry Grandma but we only had room for 100 guest and you didn't make the cut *NM* random thoughts - 05/04/2011 02:22:07 PM 363 Views
Are you getting married over here or over there? Clover - 26/04/2011 09:22:21 PM 838 Views
I've always wondered about how that works... ironclad - 04/04/2011 03:01:12 PM 891 Views
I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene - 04/04/2011 03:20:41 PM 949 Views
Re: I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks ironclad - 04/04/2011 03:38:03 PM 980 Views
Re: I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene - 05/04/2011 01:22:03 PM 886 Views
well, certainly you will talk about it with your s.o. before it happens. temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:47:30 PM 884 Views
Re: Weddings Birdeye - 04/04/2011 03:27:29 PM 1000 Views
Re: Weddings TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:37:03 PM 881 Views
Gah, weddings. Camilla - 04/04/2011 03:43:51 PM 933 Views
Getting hitched snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:20 PM 942 Views
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that is the catch snoopcester - 04/04/2011 04:42:16 PM 868 Views
Re: that is the catch Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:18:33 PM 822 Views
Probably best not to count the wedding present snoopcester - 05/04/2011 09:01:45 PM 856 Views
Re: Probably best not to count the wedding present Vivien - 11/04/2011 01:20:24 AM 926 Views
Re: Weddings Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:19:16 PM 820 Views
Re: Weddings jh - 04/04/2011 04:58:28 PM 965 Views
Re: Weddings Stephen - 04/04/2011 05:42:06 PM 872 Views
ugh. we are having so much trouble with this... temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:30:10 PM 932 Views
A very special episode of Love Boat. TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:46:28 PM 859 Views
Well. Rebekah - 04/04/2011 09:50:04 PM 854 Views
Oooh, what did you wear? Vivien - 05/04/2011 02:26:51 AM 819 Views
You can see the top of it in my profile pic. Rebekah - 06/04/2011 08:37:49 AM 894 Views
I'd like to elope myself Mark - 04/04/2011 10:18:13 PM 898 Views
I do! Vivien - 05/04/2011 01:35:41 AM 815 Views
Re: Weddings wolfsister - 05/04/2011 02:40:38 AM 872 Views
Re-Weddings are cool; far less stressful, I think. Joel - 05/04/2011 04:38:03 AM 933 Views
Weddings...are we talking about mawage? Tom - 05/04/2011 09:18:17 PM 857 Views
Re: Weddings Aeryn - 06/04/2011 04:30:17 AM 879 Views
Re: Weddings globug0822 - 06/04/2011 05:58:54 AM 878 Views
I take it back... there was one. globug0822 - 06/04/2011 06:08:59 AM 754 Views
Re: I recently attended a wedding. mother of pearl - 15/04/2011 02:59:47 PM 1002 Views
There must be at least five wotmaniac ladies who are engaged now. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:40:38 PM 937 Views
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