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Because nossy Send a noteboard - 08/03/2017 09:30:37 PM

View original postWe take measures to help the anorexic person understand that they aren't overweight. What they are seeing is normal and healthy. That their mind is not aligned with what their body needs. That they are loved and valued.


View original postWhy don't we take the measures to help the transgender person to understand that the gender they see is correct? That they are that gender. That their body is correct, and instead it is their mind that is not aligned with their body, and that they are loved and valued.


View original postWhy the disparity between the two? Why are we willing to help one person become mentally healthy and gain weight back, but we are not telling the other person to become mentally healthy and see their body as being correct? And in fact, we are taking the direct opposite pathway....

I would imagine that "we" do work with many people who don't feel as though they are properly matched with their body. If it's about helping them feel safe, happy, healthy, comfortable (whatever!), and the "treatment" that works best is allowing them to choose the body that best suits them, who are the rest of us to say "no, you can't have that because you're "wrong"? I'm sure there are many in therapy who make the other choice as well.

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Self-Identification vs. Mental Health Issue *trigger warning* Jeordam - 06/03/2017 08:53:17 PM 1217 Views
I have to say I'm very confused about what your question is... and I don't think it's just me. Legolas - 07/03/2017 12:04:27 AM 946 Views
Yes, I'm talking about... Jeordam - 07/03/2017 05:03:18 PM 964 Views
Okay, clear. Legolas - 07/03/2017 06:50:00 PM 948 Views
<3 *NM* nossy - 07/03/2017 06:57:23 PM 461 Views
Mind over Matter? Jeordam - 07/03/2017 09:06:53 PM 921 Views
Mind over body might've been more apt. I believe I did answer your question actually. Legolas - 07/03/2017 10:41:01 PM 1025 Views
Let's be clear.... Jeordam - 07/03/2017 11:17:02 PM 909 Views
By all means. Legolas - 07/03/2017 11:58:41 PM 951 Views
Well that's the crux of the topic isn't it.... Jeordam - 08/03/2017 05:48:50 PM 853 Views
That takes us right back to body vs mind, doesn't it? Legolas - 08/03/2017 07:13:32 PM 866 Views
Well that would be the difference... Jeordam - 08/03/2017 08:54:59 PM 957 Views
So do tell me what in fact the purpose of our discussion is, then? Legolas - 08/03/2017 09:40:09 PM 880 Views
What can I possibly say? Jeordam - 09/03/2017 05:45:54 PM 890 Views
There's a distinction to be made with eating disorders. Ghavrel - 08/03/2017 08:31:08 PM 903 Views
That brings us all the way back around.... Jeordam - 08/03/2017 09:05:40 PM 970 Views
Because nossy - 08/03/2017 09:30:37 PM 951 Views
Two things... Jeordam - 09/03/2017 05:50:32 PM 882 Views
you're missing a rather obvious difference, aren't you? damookster - 08/03/2017 09:50:09 PM 911 Views
Yeah, Snoop was just saying the same. nossy - 08/03/2017 10:14:41 PM 953 Views
Well now we are bridging a rather big gap.... Jeordam - 09/03/2017 07:12:26 PM 921 Views
Re: Well now we are bridging a rather big gap.... nossy - 09/03/2017 08:52:30 PM 1040 Views
So two conversations now..... Jeordam - 09/03/2017 09:39:55 PM 902 Views
Re: So two conversations now..... nossy - 09/03/2017 10:23:39 PM 887 Views
And this is what you're overlooking.... Jeordam - 09/03/2017 10:47:47 PM 927 Views
I could be wrong nossy - 09/03/2017 11:15:22 PM 895 Views
Sex vs Gender Jeordam - 09/03/2017 11:33:54 PM 858 Views
So this is an interesting point..... Jeordam - 09/03/2017 05:56:12 PM 909 Views
Sure about that? damookster - 09/03/2017 08:53:14 PM 887 Views
It's a mater of persepctive.... Jeordam - 09/03/2017 09:12:09 PM 918 Views
wrong damookster - 09/03/2017 09:41:53 PM 810 Views
Sure. Jeordam - 09/03/2017 09:57:48 PM 951 Views
sure, could be damookster - 09/03/2017 11:56:31 PM 838 Views
I feel like this has been said several times already, in several ways Sareitha Sedai - 10/03/2017 04:10:27 PM 884 Views
It has been said, and I understand what is being said... Jeordam - 10/03/2017 06:01:06 PM 899 Views
Re: It has been said, and I understand what is being said... Sareitha Sedai - 10/03/2017 07:58:57 PM 883 Views
I find your wording problematic and agenda driven. damookster - 07/03/2017 11:58:03 PM 923 Views
I appolozie if I offended Jeordam - 08/03/2017 06:18:41 PM 906 Views
no worries damookster - 08/03/2017 06:36:10 PM 918 Views
It always goes from it doesn't hurt anyone to the whole world has to change accommodate me *NM* random thoughts - 10/03/2017 02:46:38 AM 541 Views
That's true - doesn't change the issue as such but certainly there's intolerance on that side too. *NM* Legolas - 10/03/2017 07:45:43 AM 469 Views
Both extremes are dangerous random thoughts - 10/03/2017 12:59:41 PM 960 Views
Take your trigger warnings back to tumblr where they belong ßelals Girl - 07/03/2017 12:21:05 PM 1051 Views
*ha* Jeordam - 07/03/2017 05:04:10 PM 936 Views
I self-identify as a deity, so I need you to use My preferred pronouns in reference to Myself Cannoli - 07/03/2017 05:15:56 PM 856 Views
So I could self-identify aerocontrols - 08/03/2017 12:36:39 AM 875 Views
I read through this thread. kazetaran - 10/03/2017 12:44:03 AM 1222 Views
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