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I should clarify that I support gay marriage random thoughts Send a noteboard - 12/08/2010 05:20:36 PM
You are treating marriage simply as a religious function when it clearly is not. Atheists are married everyday and a lot of people simply get married by the JP. There is no reason to challenge churches on their teachers and a lot of reasons not to, the constitution being the top of the list. The Catholic church would not marry me because I am not a Catholic and have gone through their sacraments. That in no way impedes on my rights since I have a ton of other options that will get me a marriage just as valid in the eyes of society and in the eyes of the law.

You talk about the Catholic church denying to marry you, but it was okay because you went through different channels instead. Please, tell me exactly what other channels I have available to me? A domestic partnership is the only thing I can possibly get here in Ohio, and it doesn't really count for a whole lot. You can get a domestic partnership with basically anyone that you live with...it basically means "house partnership" anyway. Anyone that relies on you and whom you rely on for financial support and symbiosis.


My point was that it is the state of Ohio not the church who is stopping you.

Forgive me for wanting something more...definite.

This is like before Jim Crowe laws were revoked: An African American individual goes into a bank and gets denied service, but it's okay, because he lives in Atlanta where there are plenty of other banks to choose from, so the discrimination doesn't mean as much (well, according to your argument it doesn't).


no it is separation of church and state. Marriage is a state controlled function that the church is allowed to play a ceremonial role if that is the choice of those being married. That really is nothing like Jim Crow laws. I think is a grossly unfair and unjust that we do not allow people to marry anyone they want but I really don’t think it compares to suffering of blacks under Jim Crow.

Well, Random, I am in a fucking one stoplight town, where the only bank is a credit union with exclusive membership, and they don't want me.

The opposition to gay marriage goes much deeper than just religion. It is true that many fundamentalist use that as the basis for their opposition but their numbers are too small to stop gay marriage alone. To repeatedly block ballot initiatives all over the country there has to be staunch opposition that extends well beyond the religious right. <
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Really? Who cock blocked the gay marriage bill in California? It was all of the voters that normally don't turn out to these shindigs. What voters were those? Latinos (a group that is fairly religious and socially conservative), inner city African Americans (a group that is liberal, but fairly socially conservative); and the blue collared groups of individuals that are both socially and fiscally conservative individuals.


Well the majority of the country is Christians so any majority vote will have majority Christians support. The question is if these people tend towards social constructivism but why.


All of the aforementioned groups sound like they are religiously influenced to me, and not influenced by governmental policy.


I never said they were influenced by government policy so I am not sure where that is coming form.

My point was that to get the votes to pass prop 8 required more votes then those who typically vote on religious grounds. You can call the African Americans socially conservative but with 70% of their children being born out of wedlock you really can't call them that socially conservative. The numbers of Latinos are really not that much better.

The high divorce rate, drug usage and children born out of wedlock shows us that societal norms easily trump church teachings. It is society not the church that is the problem.

And why, pray tell, does society have such a problem with the gays? I don't remember any fireside chats with Ike talking about the crimes of gays; rather, I seem to remember a lot of indoctrination by the church as a young kid growing up in an overly-religious western country.


I don't really know. I suspect that it has to do with the emphasis our society put on masculinity and the perception that gays are less then masculine. Being called gay is one of the worst insults on the playground maybe that plays a role. Most heterosexual men find gay sex to be rather gross and that probably plays a role as well.

Whatever the reason I think it is the church reflecting society not the other way around. You can beat that not by making it gays vs the church (a sure loser) but make it a question of basic human rights and by making gay marriage seem less threatening. Attacking church doctrine and the way we do marriage doesn't accomplish that.
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Gay Marriage - 12/08/2010 10:23:19 AM 1995 Views
I disagree on the latter part - 12/08/2010 12:04:15 PM 1336 Views
I follow your point... - 12/08/2010 12:14:17 PM 1324 Views
Suspect you would find plenty of denominations that would argue with you rather strenuously. - 12/08/2010 12:24:55 PM 1334 Views
See, that's what I'm saying... - 12/08/2010 07:37:26 PM 1290 Views
She didn't say that gays ought not be married. - 12/08/2010 07:45:37 PM 1155 Views
You didn't read my post. - 12/08/2010 09:10:21 PM 1195 Views
Actually, you didn't read my post - 12/08/2010 09:23:54 PM 1273 Views
Um, you're wrong. - 12/08/2010 09:37:13 PM 1233 Views
Re: Um, you're wrong. - 12/08/2010 09:44:17 PM 1207 Views
You're still wrong. - 12/08/2010 09:54:55 PM 1339 Views
Re: You're still wrong. - 12/08/2010 09:58:26 PM 1190 Views
Again, you are still wrong. - 12/08/2010 10:04:42 PM 1251 Views
Re: Again, you are still wrong. - 12/08/2010 10:17:13 PM 1087 Views
Wrong definition of "club" - 12/08/2010 10:30:52 PM 1345 Views
My clubs are cooler than yours. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:35:13 PM 646 Views
I play golf with mine. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:43:01 PM 664 Views
Re: Wrong definition of "club" - 12/08/2010 10:40:55 PM 1251 Views
Are you a member of one of those churches? - 12/08/2010 10:44:12 PM 1249 Views
Also also: - 12/08/2010 10:46:05 PM 1233 Views
Re: Are you a member of one of those churches? - 12/08/2010 10:49:44 PM 1235 Views
Re: Wrong definition of "club" - 12/08/2010 10:47:20 PM 1278 Views
I don't think he means that kind of club. - 12/08/2010 10:31:41 PM 1159 Views
Also - 12/08/2010 10:02:44 PM 1296 Views
And wrong again. - 12/08/2010 10:08:24 PM 1318 Views
Not so quick! - 12/08/2010 10:21:31 PM 1155 Views
Yes, so quick! - 12/08/2010 10:32:13 PM 1102 Views
Let's be reasonable here - 12/08/2010 10:41:53 PM 1212 Views
Why do you get to judge? - 12/08/2010 10:48:57 PM 1246 Views
I don't - 12/08/2010 10:53:21 PM 1128 Views
OK. - 12/08/2010 10:58:22 PM 1244 Views
Re: OK. - 12/08/2010 11:03:50 PM 1198 Views
Then please stop. - 12/08/2010 11:01:05 PM 1210 Views
What's wrong with discussion? - 12/08/2010 11:05:48 PM 1158 Views
Discussion? Nothing. Your assertions about other people's views, something. - 12/08/2010 11:09:48 PM 1178 Views
Really? - 12/08/2010 11:13:46 PM 1204 Views
Yes. That is incorrect. - 12/08/2010 11:18:05 PM 1178 Views
What, because the expressive message of scouting is anti-gay? - 12/08/2010 10:12:54 PM 1062 Views
Re: What, because the expressive message of scouting is anti-gay? - 12/08/2010 10:23:36 PM 1191 Views
Well then that brings us back to my question, which you have yet to answer. - 12/08/2010 10:36:48 PM 1165 Views
Re: Well then that brings us back to my question, which you have yet to answer. - 12/08/2010 10:46:22 PM 1265 Views
Apparently you do believe that you are more qualified - 12/08/2010 10:57:00 PM 1137 Views
You are wrong - 12/08/2010 11:11:37 PM 994 Views
Really? - 12/08/2010 11:19:10 PM 1060 Views
Not entirely true either... or, well, true as far as Brown goes. - 12/08/2010 10:08:42 PM 1165 Views
Heh... we discuss restaurants a post or two over there.. ---> - 12/08/2010 10:10:26 PM 1245 Views
Actually, I did. And since everyone else told you you're wrong about that I didn't see any need - 12/08/2010 09:38:33 PM 1246 Views
Re: Actually, I did. And since everyone else told you you're wrong about that I didn't see any need - 12/08/2010 09:55:05 PM 1161 Views
Gah. - 12/08/2010 09:59:45 PM 1110 Views
Yes yes yes. It was ungracious. I got bored. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:03:17 PM 592 Views
What a mature response. - 12/08/2010 10:11:00 PM 1315 Views
Yes. - 12/08/2010 10:21:38 PM 1244 Views
Re: Yes. - 12/08/2010 10:35:51 PM 1185 Views
I can't speak for Rebekah, but I don't think the issue is that your points are invalid per se. - 12/08/2010 10:22:30 PM 1113 Views
I think my point was unclear in that post - 12/08/2010 10:55:34 PM 1197 Views
It seems that by your (to me nebulous) definition - 12/08/2010 11:05:01 PM 1230 Views
Re: I think my point was unclear in that post - 13/08/2010 10:58:28 AM 1126 Views
+1 - 13/08/2010 09:16:24 AM 998 Views
Hehe - 13/08/2010 10:46:25 AM 1049 Views
Um - 12/08/2010 09:46:43 PM 1264 Views
That's a very good question. *NM* - 12/08/2010 09:49:05 PM 591 Views
So good it doesn't even need an answer, apparently *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:26:41 PM 627 Views
So good I responded to it someplace else. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:56:05 PM 523 Views
It makes no sense - 12/08/2010 04:29:24 PM 1111 Views
Re: It makes no sense - 12/08/2010 07:39:25 PM 1183 Views
Re: It makes no sense - 12/08/2010 07:41:02 PM 1277 Views
It's not sanctioning anything - 12/08/2010 09:25:44 PM 1202 Views
Re: It's not sanctioning anything - 12/08/2010 09:28:45 PM 1187 Views
Nonsense - 12/08/2010 09:35:25 PM 1124 Views
Yes, but while marrying two murderers does not ensure that they will continue to murder... - 12/08/2010 09:08:53 PM 1099 Views
Re: Yes, but while marrying two murderers does not ensure that they will continue to murder... - 12/08/2010 09:42:21 PM 1211 Views
Suspect you've not read that either. - 12/08/2010 09:43:32 PM 1139 Views
What other church sanctioned circumstances encourage continued sin? - 12/08/2010 09:45:33 PM 1267 Views
Infant baptism, obviously. - 12/08/2010 09:51:48 PM 1249 Views
*NM* - 12/08/2010 09:53:17 PM 426 Views
*groan* I forgot that one! - 12/08/2010 10:09:07 PM 1229 Views
Re: What other church sanctioned circumstances encourage continued sin? - 13/08/2010 11:04:02 AM 1215 Views
Wow, it's almost like an entire denomination believes that! *NM* - 13/08/2010 03:41:07 PM 589 Views
really? - 13/08/2010 03:42:42 PM 1079 Views
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Yeah, that's the Roman Catholic basis against masturbation and contraception. *NM* - 13/08/2010 04:12:00 PM 556 Views
Yes - 13/08/2010 04:22:58 PM 1052 Views
Which is interesting - 13/08/2010 04:28:09 PM 1036 Views
Yes - 13/08/2010 04:29:25 PM 1016 Views
Original poster. *NM* - 13/08/2010 04:32:18 PM 620 Views
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Dude....please at least have a working knowledge of the Bible before you spout off. - 12/08/2010 10:47:13 PM 1084 Views
I like the part in 1 Corinthians (is it chapter 6?) - 12/08/2010 10:49:55 PM 986 Views
Ya know?!? - 12/08/2010 10:55:27 PM 1103 Views
I'm not sure you're correct there. - 12/08/2010 04:33:02 PM 1197 Views
Re: I'm not sure you're correct there. - 12/08/2010 07:40:16 PM 1221 Views
There is a difference... - 12/08/2010 09:02:20 PM 1249 Views
No you don't. - 12/08/2010 09:16:52 PM 1227 Views
That's another concern - 12/08/2010 12:39:53 PM 1284 Views
Not quite my point - 12/08/2010 09:19:50 PM 1155 Views
secular marriage is decoupled from religious marriage - 12/08/2010 02:50:43 PM 1287 Views
Simple, require the legal and religious marriage to be performed separately. - 12/08/2010 02:58:43 PM 1114 Views
What in the world would that accomplish? - 12/08/2010 03:44:32 PM 1211 Views
Provide some much-needed clarity, evidently. - 12/08/2010 03:49:33 PM 1048 Views
the problem is it would be changing a centuries old tradition.. - 12/08/2010 04:26:47 PM 1063 Views
heheheheheheheHAHAHAHEHEHehehehehahheeh*cough* - 12/08/2010 04:55:09 PM 1087 Views
thats OK I am sure you will get over it - 12/08/2010 05:22:08 PM 1102 Views
Just guessing, but I think it was the "centuries old tradition" that set off the giggle fit. - 12/08/2010 07:25:38 PM 1229 Views
Really? I was hoping for something better - 12/08/2010 10:06:00 PM 1161 Views
So government recognition makes your religion meaningful? - 12/08/2010 10:11:54 PM 1248 Views
not my religion I'm agnostic - 12/08/2010 10:34:40 PM 1110 Views
OK, but the point remains the same. - 12/08/2010 10:51:59 PM 1220 Views
Of course it would - 12/08/2010 11:10:03 PM 1293 Views
I'm not far left, thank you very much. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:20:31 PM 653 Views
no but your are European and that slants your views *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:36:01 PM 635 Views
Sure, but in this case it has little to do with left or right. - 12/08/2010 10:40:42 PM 1177 Views
that is what I said when I metioned you were European *NM* - 12/08/2010 11:11:31 PM 633 Views
Simples - 12/08/2010 09:30:31 PM 1185 Views
there are about 140 post ranging from boyscouts to infant babtism - 12/08/2010 10:57:46 PM 1151 Views
So. - 14/08/2010 01:27:59 AM 1033 Views
sorry I responded I forgot what a tool you are. my bad - 14/08/2010 02:48:57 AM 1545 Views
Agreed *NM* - 12/08/2010 03:45:04 PM 513 Views
I love you, Camilla - 12/08/2010 04:02:15 PM 979 Views
Re: I love you, Camilla - 12/08/2010 04:04:10 PM 1175 Views
Is there an all above option? *NM* - 12/08/2010 04:23:24 PM 660 Views
Naturally. - 12/08/2010 04:25:14 PM 1171 Views
I know I do *NM* - 12/08/2010 05:17:35 PM 595 Views
Another thing - 12/08/2010 07:42:21 PM 1266 Views
A couple of things - 12/08/2010 12:58:09 PM 1165 Views
I disagree - 12/08/2010 07:47:26 PM 1304 Views
Well, you're within your rights to certainly - 12/08/2010 08:24:30 PM 1250 Views
there is major flaw in your argument - 12/08/2010 03:31:45 PM 1290 Views
Re: there is major flaw in your argument - 12/08/2010 04:01:32 PM 1180 Views
I should clarify that I support gay marriage - 12/08/2010 05:20:36 PM 1111 Views
One point about Prop. 8 - 12/08/2010 07:38:55 PM 1148 Views
I know that is the commonl;y held belief but I thinkit is wrong - 12/08/2010 10:32:58 PM 1075 Views
Religious institutions, though, pushed hard to pass it. - 12/08/2010 10:42:33 PM 1169 Views
that doesn’t translate into people voting for religious reasons - 12/08/2010 11:19:48 PM 986 Views
there are major flaws in your argument - 12/08/2010 07:51:52 PM 1295 Views
Women can't be priests in the Catholic church. - 12/08/2010 08:00:24 PM 940 Views
Hehe. You beat me by 6 seconds. *NM* - 12/08/2010 08:03:28 PM 550 Views
Great minds and all. *NM* - 12/08/2010 08:06:01 PM 554 Views
I was writing a reply to this post... - 12/08/2010 03:51:01 PM 1185 Views
I feel your pain *NM* - 12/08/2010 07:52:28 PM 641 Views
Forcing religious institutions to marry gay couples is hideously unconstitutional. - 12/08/2010 04:18:59 PM 1250 Views
100% agreed. - 12/08/2010 05:05:35 PM 1292 Views
This. *NM* - 12/08/2010 07:36:57 PM 475 Views
You are absolutely wrong - 12/08/2010 07:57:19 PM 1191 Views
By that token - 12/08/2010 08:00:30 PM 1101 Views
My God.... - 12/08/2010 09:49:18 PM 1155 Views
no You are absolutely wrong - 12/08/2010 10:08:57 PM 1094 Views
Well, that was horrifyingly stupid. - 13/08/2010 12:57:46 AM 1168 Views
I am a Christian who wholeheartedly supports Gay Marriage. - 12/08/2010 06:49:28 PM 1277 Views
Fair enough. - 12/08/2010 08:01:37 PM 1226 Views
Why do people equate.... - 12/08/2010 07:11:15 PM 1144 Views
Because "homophobic", like "xenophobic", has shifted a bit in meaning... - 12/08/2010 07:33:56 PM 1195 Views
So then.... - 12/08/2010 07:39:24 PM 1128 Views
Well, strongly anti-gay, yes. - 12/08/2010 07:43:40 PM 984 Views
Homophobic is generally "anti-gay" or "anti-queer"... - 12/08/2010 07:46:22 PM 1288 Views
Re: Why do people equate.... - 12/08/2010 08:04:24 PM 1346 Views
+1 - 12/08/2010 08:06:19 PM 1300 Views
Stop with the pile on Camilla. - 12/08/2010 09:22:35 PM 1222 Views
You would have said nothing if I had just said "agreed" - 12/08/2010 09:27:33 PM 1053 Views
Which speaks highly of you.... - 12/08/2010 09:36:30 PM 1228 Views
This is being very petty. *NM* - 12/08/2010 09:41:26 PM 600 Views
As opposed to a snarky +1 comment? *NM* - 12/08/2010 09:45:02 PM 620 Views
It's not snarky. - 12/08/2010 09:47:47 PM 1201 Views
Its a +1 shorthand comment... - 12/08/2010 09:52:04 PM 1455 Views
Wow. Those two characters allowed you to read Camilla's motivations? - 12/08/2010 09:54:25 PM 1100 Views
*shrug* - 12/08/2010 09:58:42 PM 1290 Views
Yes, I am terribly selfish - 13/08/2010 09:10:54 AM 1083 Views
Re: Why do people equate.... - 12/08/2010 09:13:07 PM 1285 Views
Re: Why do people equate.... - 12/08/2010 09:26:41 PM 1175 Views
LOL - 12/08/2010 09:42:32 PM 1151 Views
Re: LOL - 13/08/2010 09:12:29 AM 1094 Views
you are exactly why the state needs to make a clear seperation between the secular and religious - 12/08/2010 09:33:22 PM 1146 Views
Ok, so if the state does then... - 12/08/2010 09:44:31 PM 1072 Views
No, marriage started because of property. - 12/08/2010 09:59:14 PM 1172 Views
So then two things come to mind... - 12/08/2010 10:04:39 PM 1154 Views
Only two? - 12/08/2010 10:27:08 PM 1147 Views
Is this the same guy... - 12/08/2010 10:43:02 PM 1058 Views
I thought the cow died in an accident, but yes... that guy. - 12/08/2010 10:58:46 PM 1132 Views
That's a little difficult to do - 13/08/2010 03:19:32 PM 1341 Views
Re: That's a little difficult to do - 13/08/2010 03:30:14 PM 1193 Views
Oh, I hope not - 13/08/2010 04:19:47 PM 1187 Views
I may be wrong - 13/08/2010 04:24:28 PM 1164 Views
Property isn't just agricultural. - 13/08/2010 06:11:12 PM 1093 Views
True enough - 16/08/2010 03:12:31 PM 1365 Views
yes but about half of the old testament deals with protecting those rights - 13/08/2010 05:16:09 PM 1144 Views
The relationship between religion and rain go even farther back... - 13/08/2010 06:15:32 PM 1150 Views
to me it is a beside the point when it comes to the law - 13/08/2010 06:25:50 PM 1142 Views
moot, not mute - 13/08/2010 08:48:04 PM 1433 Views
damn - 13/08/2010 08:52:23 PM 1238 Views
Actually, I agree with that - 12/08/2010 10:01:37 PM 1045 Views
See, now this, I could deal with.... - 12/08/2010 10:06:15 PM 1033 Views
So is it that you are hung up on the name then? - 13/08/2010 03:29:02 PM 1101 Views
Rights.... - 12/08/2010 09:34:45 PM 1125 Views
See, what I don't get is why gay people care about - 12/08/2010 08:18:45 PM 1137 Views
It's mostly about getting married in the eyes of the state. - 12/08/2010 08:42:52 PM 1257 Views
I'm fairly sure Jonte was referring only to the "churches have to accept gay marriages" bit. *NM* - 12/08/2010 08:44:52 PM 650 Views
Hmmm... Then I shall reply to that part here. - 12/08/2010 08:50:10 PM 1274 Views
Oh, so it is an american thing, then. *NM* - 14/08/2010 08:58:28 AM 591 Views
Starting again - 12/08/2010 08:23:08 PM 1269 Views
Not at all - 12/08/2010 10:58:45 PM 1171 Views
Re: Not at all - 13/08/2010 09:14:48 AM 956 Views
Agreed *NM* - 13/08/2010 10:21:06 AM 494 Views
Oh dear - 13/08/2010 10:30:45 AM 1068 Views
But what if I like being selfish and evil? *NM* - 13/08/2010 11:25:01 AM 621 Views
Well, being English might help you get away with it - 13/08/2010 11:26:17 AM 1008 Views
I'm curious - 13/08/2010 01:49:15 PM 1130 Views
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Okay, good. - 13/08/2010 01:58:14 PM 1184 Views
I suppose you also think that religious Pacifists should be eligible for the draft? - 12/08/2010 08:42:21 PM 1219 Views
very nicely said *NM* - 13/08/2010 02:16:53 PM 502 Views

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