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I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene Send a noteboard - 04/04/2011 03:20:41 PM
beforehand. Long story. He already knew I was going to ask him by then... so I just asked him in the morning after sex.

Does one say: "Will you marry me?" like in the films, or do people rather say: "Do you want to be engaged?". Because if it's the former, then I'd find it awkward not to set a date soon after. And if one of the two comes up with a date, how do things proceed from there? I dunno, sounds odd.


I asked him if he wanted to marry me, I think. I'm not entirely sure. But we haven't set a wedding date yet. First we want to move, so that's already a lot of money, and then we haven't even started saving for the wedding. So I think it'll take a while.

I'd have to say yes, given it's thrown by the right people.


What's the worst wedding you've been to?

My friend Werner and his wife rented this castle / youth hostel for all of us from Friday through Sunday, so the whole circle of friends spent three days in a beautiful castle, celebrating, drinking, laughing. Not only was it the best wedding I ever been to, hands down, it was probably also the best party. Which is just like it's supposed to be.


That sounds lovely and extremely expensive!

I find a lot depends on the location. If it's a cool one and the weather plays along, not much can go wrong. Also: no traditional dance music for the old people. My wedding, my music. This is my day, not my grandma's. I like the thought of a white, open tent on a beautiful green lawn, whenever I think about a wedding. Problem is, I don't think I am cut out for the mere idea of getting married.


That sounds lovely as well. Although more daring, in case the weather turns nasty. As for whether or not you're cut out for marriage... I am a firm believer that not everyone is cut out for life long commitments. But who knows, may be you'll surprise yourself one day.
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Weddings Helene - 04/04/2011 02:16:28 PM 1435 Views
Own answers Helene - 04/04/2011 02:24:56 PM 1012 Views
Bach. CEREMONY!!! LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 02:25:14 PM 1063 Views
The wedding is the entire day, right, ceremony + reception? Helene - 04/04/2011 02:39:38 PM 1005 Views
ha ha yah I was sober. Unfort. actually LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 10:32:50 PM 789 Views
Coldness can sober/wake you up...of course, warmth then can make it come back with a vengeance. *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:13 PM 397 Views
Yah, I would have put the window down LadyLorraine - 06/04/2011 04:44:12 AM 765 Views
Re: Weddings random thoughts - 04/04/2011 02:30:21 PM 937 Views
What's JP? Helene - 04/04/2011 02:43:56 PM 892 Views
The smart way to get married random thoughts - 04/04/2011 03:21:54 PM 816 Views
Ah... we don't do that here, at least, not that fast Helene - 04/04/2011 03:26:43 PM 805 Views
there is still a waiting periiod depending on the state random thoughts - 04/04/2011 04:36:43 PM 795 Views
Oh ok :-). Then it's not very different. Is it just Nevada that has the quick wedding? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:44 PM 376 Views
Re: Weddings nossy - 04/04/2011 02:56:31 PM 930 Views
But you're marrying Snoopster! Helene - 04/04/2011 03:15:42 PM 968 Views
That's part of the problem! nossy - 04/04/2011 03:26:20 PM 1061 Views
snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:42 PM 933 Views
Sorry, but you shouldn't have just assumed you were invited. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:33:46 PM 387 Views
I am quietly confident I'm not her aunt. *NM* snoopcester - 04/04/2011 11:05:33 PM 388 Views
But how do we know you're not? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:59:05 PM 382 Views
Re: That's part of the problem! Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:11:53 PM 906 Views
She wouldn't be dramatic there, that would be fine. nossy - 05/04/2011 05:11:47 PM 927 Views
If you don't want drama, don't invite family. Seriously, listen to the voice of experience here. *NM* Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:07:42 PM 441 Views
you are not factoring in the drama of not inviting family. Camilla - 04/04/2011 04:32:51 PM 859 Views
Yes, I was. Macharius - 04/04/2011 06:51:29 PM 861 Views
Wow Camilla - 04/04/2011 06:53:18 PM 854 Views
How can you *not* invite family? Family is all that matters. *NM* Vivien - 05/04/2011 02:18:55 AM 426 Views
That entirely depends on how you define family. LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 03:46:11 AM 923 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:16:15 PM 823 Views
a lot of families create a lot of inner suffering LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 10:49:50 PM 856 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:26:06 PM 870 Views
In your opinion. For me, as an example, it is the people I care for and respect that matter. snoopcester - 05/04/2011 10:26:53 AM 764 Views
We just come from different worlds. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:14:32 PM 878 Views
Yes snoopcester - 05/04/2011 08:56:17 PM 904 Views
Sorry Grandma but we only had room for 100 guest and you didn't make the cut *NM* random thoughts - 05/04/2011 02:22:07 PM 363 Views
Are you getting married over here or over there? Clover - 26/04/2011 09:22:21 PM 838 Views
I've always wondered about how that works... ironclad - 04/04/2011 03:01:12 PM 891 Views
I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene - 04/04/2011 03:20:41 PM 950 Views
Re: I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks ironclad - 04/04/2011 03:38:03 PM 980 Views
Re: I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene - 05/04/2011 01:22:03 PM 886 Views
well, certainly you will talk about it with your s.o. before it happens. temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:47:30 PM 886 Views
Re: Weddings Birdeye - 04/04/2011 03:27:29 PM 1001 Views
Re: Weddings TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:37:03 PM 881 Views
Gah, weddings. Camilla - 04/04/2011 03:43:51 PM 935 Views
Getting hitched snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:20 PM 943 Views
Re: Getting hitched Camilla - 04/04/2011 03:57:18 PM 844 Views
that is the catch snoopcester - 04/04/2011 04:42:16 PM 870 Views
Re: that is the catch Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:18:33 PM 824 Views
Probably best not to count the wedding present snoopcester - 05/04/2011 09:01:45 PM 858 Views
Re: Probably best not to count the wedding present Vivien - 11/04/2011 01:20:24 AM 926 Views
Re: Weddings Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:19:16 PM 820 Views
Re: Weddings jh - 04/04/2011 04:58:28 PM 967 Views
Re: Weddings Stephen - 04/04/2011 05:42:06 PM 872 Views
ugh. we are having so much trouble with this... temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:30:10 PM 933 Views
A very special episode of Love Boat. TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:46:28 PM 860 Views
Well. Rebekah - 04/04/2011 09:50:04 PM 856 Views
Oooh, what did you wear? Vivien - 05/04/2011 02:26:51 AM 819 Views
You can see the top of it in my profile pic. Rebekah - 06/04/2011 08:37:49 AM 895 Views
I'd like to elope myself Mark - 04/04/2011 10:18:13 PM 898 Views
I do! Vivien - 05/04/2011 01:35:41 AM 816 Views
Re: Weddings wolfsister - 05/04/2011 02:40:38 AM 874 Views
Re-Weddings are cool; far less stressful, I think. Joel - 05/04/2011 04:38:03 AM 933 Views
Weddings...are we talking about mawage? Tom - 05/04/2011 09:18:17 PM 857 Views
Re: Weddings Aeryn - 06/04/2011 04:30:17 AM 880 Views
Re: Weddings globug0822 - 06/04/2011 05:58:54 AM 880 Views
I take it back... there was one. globug0822 - 06/04/2011 06:08:59 AM 754 Views
Re: I recently attended a wedding. mother of pearl - 15/04/2011 02:59:47 PM 1002 Views
There must be at least five wotmaniac ladies who are engaged now. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:40:38 PM 938 Views
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