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I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene Send a noteboard - 04/04/2011 03:20:41 PM
beforehand. Long story. He already knew I was going to ask him by then... so I just asked him in the morning after sex.

Does one say: "Will you marry me?" like in the films, or do people rather say: "Do you want to be engaged?". Because if it's the former, then I'd find it awkward not to set a date soon after. And if one of the two comes up with a date, how do things proceed from there? I dunno, sounds odd.


I asked him if he wanted to marry me, I think. I'm not entirely sure. But we haven't set a wedding date yet. First we want to move, so that's already a lot of money, and then we haven't even started saving for the wedding. So I think it'll take a while.

I'd have to say yes, given it's thrown by the right people.


What's the worst wedding you've been to?

My friend Werner and his wife rented this castle / youth hostel for all of us from Friday through Sunday, so the whole circle of friends spent three days in a beautiful castle, celebrating, drinking, laughing. Not only was it the best wedding I ever been to, hands down, it was probably also the best party. Which is just like it's supposed to be.


That sounds lovely and extremely expensive!

I find a lot depends on the location. If it's a cool one and the weather plays along, not much can go wrong. Also: no traditional dance music for the old people. My wedding, my music. This is my day, not my grandma's. I like the thought of a white, open tent on a beautiful green lawn, whenever I think about a wedding. Problem is, I don't think I am cut out for the mere idea of getting married.


That sounds lovely as well. Although more daring, in case the weather turns nasty. As for whether or not you're cut out for marriage... I am a firm believer that not everyone is cut out for life long commitments. But who knows, may be you'll surprise yourself one day.
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Weddings Helene - 04/04/2011 02:16:28 PM 1540 Views
Own answers Helene - 04/04/2011 02:24:56 PM 1111 Views
Bach. CEREMONY!!! LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 02:25:14 PM 1172 Views
The wedding is the entire day, right, ceremony + reception? Helene - 04/04/2011 02:39:38 PM 1129 Views
ha ha yah I was sober. Unfort. actually LadyLorraine - 04/04/2011 10:32:50 PM 888 Views
Coldness can sober/wake you up...of course, warmth then can make it come back with a vengeance. *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:13 PM 447 Views
Yah, I would have put the window down LadyLorraine - 06/04/2011 04:44:12 AM 872 Views
Re: Weddings random thoughts - 04/04/2011 02:30:21 PM 1025 Views
What's JP? Helene - 04/04/2011 02:43:56 PM 984 Views
The smart way to get married random thoughts - 04/04/2011 03:21:54 PM 921 Views
Ah... we don't do that here, at least, not that fast Helene - 04/04/2011 03:26:43 PM 920 Views
there is still a waiting periiod depending on the state random thoughts - 04/04/2011 04:36:43 PM 896 Views
Oh ok :-). Then it's not very different. Is it just Nevada that has the quick wedding? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:58:44 PM 424 Views
Re: Weddings nossy - 04/04/2011 02:56:31 PM 1031 Views
But you're marrying Snoopster! Helene - 04/04/2011 03:15:42 PM 1080 Views
That's part of the problem! nossy - 04/04/2011 03:26:20 PM 1179 Views
snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:42 PM 1046 Views
Sorry, but you shouldn't have just assumed you were invited. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:33:46 PM 437 Views
I am quietly confident I'm not her aunt. *NM* snoopcester - 04/04/2011 11:05:33 PM 431 Views
But how do we know you're not? *NM* Helene - 05/04/2011 12:59:05 PM 426 Views
Re: That's part of the problem! Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:11:53 PM 1006 Views
She wouldn't be dramatic there, that would be fine. nossy - 05/04/2011 05:11:47 PM 1028 Views
If you don't want drama, don't invite family. Seriously, listen to the voice of experience here. *NM* Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:07:42 PM 490 Views
you are not factoring in the drama of not inviting family. Camilla - 04/04/2011 04:32:51 PM 964 Views
Yes, I was. Macharius - 04/04/2011 06:51:29 PM 963 Views
Wow Camilla - 04/04/2011 06:53:18 PM 953 Views
How can you *not* invite family? Family is all that matters. *NM* Vivien - 05/04/2011 02:18:55 AM 467 Views
That entirely depends on how you define family. LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 03:46:11 AM 1019 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:16:15 PM 919 Views
a lot of families create a lot of inner suffering LadyLorraine - 05/04/2011 10:49:50 PM 966 Views
Re: That entirely depends on how you define family. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:26:06 PM 973 Views
In your opinion. For me, as an example, it is the people I care for and respect that matter. snoopcester - 05/04/2011 10:26:53 AM 864 Views
We just come from different worlds. Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:14:32 PM 993 Views
Yes snoopcester - 05/04/2011 08:56:17 PM 1007 Views
Sorry Grandma but we only had room for 100 guest and you didn't make the cut *NM* random thoughts - 05/04/2011 02:22:07 PM 409 Views
Are you getting married over here or over there? Clover - 26/04/2011 09:22:21 PM 947 Views
I've always wondered about how that works... ironclad - 04/04/2011 03:01:12 PM 1002 Views
I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene - 04/04/2011 03:20:41 PM 1036 Views
Re: I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks ironclad - 04/04/2011 03:38:03 PM 1099 Views
Re: I asked my fiancé on a day I'd planned for quite a few months, but then ruined a couple of weeks Helene - 05/04/2011 01:22:03 PM 983 Views
well, certainly you will talk about it with your s.o. before it happens. temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:47:30 PM 1001 Views
Re: Weddings Birdeye - 04/04/2011 03:27:29 PM 1110 Views
Re: Weddings TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:37:03 PM 987 Views
Gah, weddings. Camilla - 04/04/2011 03:43:51 PM 1040 Views
Getting hitched snoopcester - 04/04/2011 03:54:20 PM 1051 Views
Re: Getting hitched Camilla - 04/04/2011 03:57:18 PM 935 Views
that is the catch snoopcester - 04/04/2011 04:42:16 PM 988 Views
Re: that is the catch Vivien - 05/04/2011 08:18:33 PM 930 Views
Probably best not to count the wedding present snoopcester - 05/04/2011 09:01:45 PM 961 Views
Re: Probably best not to count the wedding present Vivien - 11/04/2011 01:20:24 AM 1036 Views
Re: Weddings Macharius - 04/04/2011 04:19:16 PM 924 Views
Re: Weddings jh - 04/04/2011 04:58:28 PM 1088 Views
Re: Weddings Stephen - 04/04/2011 05:42:06 PM 974 Views
ugh. we are having so much trouble with this... temeraire - 04/04/2011 06:30:10 PM 1018 Views
A very special episode of Love Boat. TaskmasterJack - 04/04/2011 09:46:28 PM 964 Views
Well. Rebekah - 04/04/2011 09:50:04 PM 940 Views
Oooh, what did you wear? Vivien - 05/04/2011 02:26:51 AM 921 Views
You can see the top of it in my profile pic. Rebekah - 06/04/2011 08:37:49 AM 1001 Views
I'd like to elope myself Mark - 04/04/2011 10:18:13 PM 1012 Views
I do! Vivien - 05/04/2011 01:35:41 AM 934 Views
Re: Weddings wolfsister - 05/04/2011 02:40:38 AM 975 Views
Re-Weddings are cool; far less stressful, I think. Joel - 05/04/2011 04:38:03 AM 1054 Views
Weddings...are we talking about mawage? Tom - 05/04/2011 09:18:17 PM 973 Views
Re: Weddings Aeryn - 06/04/2011 04:30:17 AM 987 Views
Re: Weddings globug0822 - 06/04/2011 05:58:54 AM 968 Views
I take it back... there was one. globug0822 - 06/04/2011 06:08:59 AM 862 Views
Re: I recently attended a wedding. mother of pearl - 15/04/2011 02:59:47 PM 1111 Views
There must be at least five wotmaniac ladies who are engaged now. Clover - 26/04/2011 09:40:38 PM 1031 Views
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