It is one thing to freeze up when a spider comes near you. Yes, that is definitely phobia.
But you not wanting fish isn't classified as a phobia, even though you have a clear aversion to it, because you're not saying all seafood is bad, or that people who eat seafood are in some way wrong, or less of a human being, or committing a sin.
For a person to say "homsexual intercourse isn't for me" wouldn't be homophobia. That's their sexuality. But to judge others who are homosexual is different. When aversion to the innate nature of a person, or a group of people, is used to demean them, I think that very much counts as a phobia.
So someone believing something different or contrary is considered a phobia? Since when is that the case? Do you not see that you are judging him just as much (and some could argue even more so) than you accuse him of judging? He is standing among the tenants of his faith. A faith system that's been around for a very long time. A faith system that millions of people believe in. Yet you so very easily declare it "phobic". Sure, there are the wackos out there who very loudly HATE, but there are more who just don't agree.
Don't automatically think that the goal is to demean someone. Don't automatically think that the purpose is to judge them. I don't think that just because someone is gay that they have sex with everything that moves, or that they are effeminate/butch. Much like I don't think that just because someone is <insert characteristic here> that they are <insert corresponding stereotype here>.
I originally asked you how you could tell that someone is phobic, and you jumped to the conclusion that aversion to a behavior in order to demean them is translated to a phobia. I'm still wondering how you know his motivations. How do you know his motive is to demean them?
~Jeordam
Saving the Princess, Humanity, or the World-Entire since 1985
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