Active Users:971 Time:29/10/2026 11:51:12 AM
Back to Messageboard Post New Thread Search Help Stats Rules
I think that you're doing both of you a disservice. Jeordam Send a noteboard - 23/03/2011 03:09:29 PM
You're spending time together because you want to. I'm thinking that this is really the only factor that you really should keep in mind.

There's a lesson that I've really been trying to learn right now in my life. Enjoy the moment. Enjoy your time with him not stressing how the two of you dating would have consequences on limiting the dating pool of others. Let the others figure out who they want to date, and you enjoy your time with him.

I'm a firm believer that the color of the skin doesn't ultimately matter. Some people may see it in a different light. I think that the quality of the person's character is far more important then how light/dark their skin is.

~Jeordam
ex-Admin at wotmania (all things wot & art galleries)
Saving the Princess, Humanity, or the World-Entire since 1985
Reply to message
Interracial dating (in the dating dilemma series) Aeryn - 23/03/2011 11:11:14 AM 2550 Views
I am not a black woman and I haven't done it ironclad - 23/03/2011 11:24:16 AM 1477 Views
Re: Aeryn - 23/03/2011 11:38:31 AM 1478 Views
Independence Day reference? Good man. *NM* Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 08:28:35 PM 715 Views
john lennon... MalkierKnight - 24/03/2011 01:08:20 PM 1538 Views
If you limit your dating pool by race you really have no reason to complain Camilla - 23/03/2011 11:57:48 AM 1415 Views
I dated a black girl for nearly 3 years. Dragonsoul - 23/03/2011 12:29:26 PM 1521 Views
ironclad - 23/03/2011 12:57:08 PM 1546 Views
LMAO Jens, you know me too well Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:30:35 PM 1389 Views
And her mother is Muslim. Dragonsoul - 24/03/2011 11:48:24 AM 1419 Views
What's it called? *NM* Legolas - 24/03/2011 10:36:28 PM 731 Views
please give him a moment to google an answer. *NM* Aisha - 25/03/2011 11:04:02 AM 739 Views
She said it's called Abu Haifa (sp?) Dragonsoul - 25/03/2011 10:38:13 PM 1382 Views
Hm, okay. Legolas - 26/03/2011 12:16:02 AM 1534 Views
That was it, Abu Hanifa. I'm poor with Arabic. Dragonsoul - 26/03/2011 01:08:12 AM 1488 Views
amazingly enough, I dont believe you. Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:32:26 PM 1513 Views
I'd prove it to you. Dragonsoul - 24/03/2011 11:47:33 AM 1413 Views
God help me, I'm agreeing with Dragonsoul. Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 09:29:56 PM 1356 Views
I think he is making it up for the benefit of this comunity Aisha - 24/03/2011 10:03:21 PM 1493 Views
Sometimes I worry about "this community"... Joel - 25/03/2011 11:33:17 PM 1603 Views
I think that would be a poor reason to not date someone random thoughts - 23/03/2011 01:07:31 PM 1504 Views
Can you edit your post and take out the cow analogies? Thanks. *NM* Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:31:51 PM 731 Views
I didn't even see the "cow & milk" analogy. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:03:02 AM 1365 Views
being offensive makes it no less true random thoughts - 24/03/2011 01:25:34 PM 1400 Views
It's true that after a certain age, average men have an easier time finding dates Helene - 24/03/2011 01:31:35 PM 1365 Views
I don't date so I don't have personal experience random thoughts - 24/03/2011 03:29:50 PM 1373 Views
I don't date either... :-) Helene - 24/03/2011 03:42:33 PM 1568 Views
I think you're doing him a disservice. nossy - 23/03/2011 02:16:59 PM 1471 Views
This. Plus, to try to frame it more in A's terms... Sareitha Sedai - 23/03/2011 03:05:55 PM 1416 Views
It can add extra complications that negatively impact the likelihood of a successful relationship Helene - 23/03/2011 02:50:39 PM 1393 Views
What I forgot to mention in the post Helene - 23/03/2011 03:01:04 PM 1366 Views
Re: What I forgot to mention in the post Aeryn - 24/03/2011 05:11:11 AM 1420 Views
If you have a lot in common with him and like him and are attracted to him Helene - 24/03/2011 09:41:01 AM 1322 Views
I think you should date him. Palatine - 23/03/2011 03:02:56 PM 1346 Views
I think you should date this guy if you like him. Morgawse - 23/03/2011 03:07:30 PM 1363 Views
I think that you're doing both of you a disservice. Jeordam - 23/03/2011 03:09:29 PM 1409 Views
I agree with you. Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:26:02 PM 1396 Views
And my opinion matters more than everyone else here combined! MWAHAHAHAHAHA Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:28:06 PM 1364 Views
Well, you know your sis better than we do... ironclad - 23/03/2011 03:48:12 PM 1369 Views
Because you never know. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:00:44 PM 1588 Views
Geez you know just the right things to say. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:38:34 AM 1386 Views
LOL. ( Yes I really did laugh out loud) *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:55:22 AM 708 Views
Most of the other responses are ignoring your reasons. Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:34:56 PM 1349 Views
No one should try to think from "the perspective of black women", not even 1 black woman can do that Helene - 23/03/2011 03:47:34 PM 1381 Views
Re Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:05:20 PM 1533 Views
I'm sure that Aeryn is lovely, but she's not the only lovely white woman in the world Helene - 24/03/2011 09:43:32 AM 1379 Views
Or nossy - 23/03/2011 03:47:56 PM 1364 Views
We have no control over how other people act. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:07:11 PM 1545 Views
I agree completely. nossy - 23/03/2011 04:17:59 PM 1466 Views
And it's a bit silly to determine for someone else who he should be dating *NM* Helene - 24/03/2011 09:33:09 AM 673 Views
This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. Tom - 23/03/2011 03:54:15 PM 1417 Views
Your opinion: less than nothing. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:10:24 PM 1485 Views
Who are you? Dark Knight - 23/03/2011 08:37:43 PM 1532 Views
It's extremely unlikely that Tom was offended. Vivien - 23/03/2011 09:04:42 PM 1451 Views
I'm glad you're back, by the way. These threads are great. *NM* Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 09:15:41 PM 743 Views
Thank you. *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 04:01:08 AM 732 Views
I'm not offended, only amused at your poor logic. Tom - 23/03/2011 09:24:05 PM 1458 Views
That's lawyer logic! Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:50:37 AM 1357 Views
Is there any other kind? *NM* Tom - 24/03/2011 02:05:27 PM 713 Views
Ooh that's harsh. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:48:50 AM 1371 Views
This is all I get???? Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:54:22 AM 1437 Views
Oh, I appreciate. There's cake in the fridge *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:27:20 AM 691 Views
You two are sooo cute! *NM* ironclad - 24/03/2011 07:29:12 PM 597 Views
+1, though I probably wouldn't have said it in quite the same way. Joel - 23/03/2011 11:03:07 PM 1397 Views
Yup. beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 01:42:16 AM 1469 Views
That's a good analogy. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:50:17 AM 1539 Views
Shrug. She likes *me*. Plus, Jewish guys love Asian girls, well-known fact. beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 04:46:56 AM 1399 Views
So it's not her choice who she wants to date, but everyone around her?? Helene - 24/03/2011 09:39:58 AM 1348 Views
What's wrong with wanting to preserve races or ethnic groups? ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 02:09:02 AM 1429 Views
When its the black race? *NM* Urza - 24/03/2011 02:21:13 AM 722 Views
You're such an ass *NM* ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 02:52:12 AM 701 Views
*butts in* nossy - 24/03/2011 02:45:26 AM 1455 Views
"It would be wrong, immortal [sic] even". Tom - 24/03/2011 02:52:21 AM 1496 Views
Or potentially not (directly) from Africa nossy - 24/03/2011 03:06:36 AM 1307 Views
I've only seen "identifies as" when someone is of mixed race. *NM* Tom - 24/03/2011 03:09:51 AM 707 Views
You're absolutely right. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:14:49 AM 1419 Views
Then your argument is even sillier, as mixed race is too white Helene - 24/03/2011 09:50:15 AM 1279 Views
Is he "identifying as" black in a cultural context as well? Tom - 24/03/2011 02:04:43 PM 1278 Views
Re: *butts in* ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 03:03:14 AM 1319 Views
You're a damn genius! nossy - 24/03/2011 03:09:26 AM 1403 Views
I don't feel like one ßelals Girl - 25/03/2011 01:17:07 AM 1382 Views
Re: This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:07:36 AM 1432 Views
That could be argued in the opposite way just as easily. Helene - 24/03/2011 09:48:16 AM 1371 Views
Huh Aeryn - 25/03/2011 11:15:58 AM 1380 Views
Are you looking for reasons not to date him, or are you just being overly socially conscience? Beqi - 23/03/2011 08:12:48 PM 1381 Views
Ha. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:17:26 AM 1393 Views
Heh, that really is the best thing *NM* beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 04:48:07 AM 736 Views
...wat. Is this a serious post? Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 08:23:04 PM 1381 Views
Kinda? Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:23:12 AM 1431 Views
I just broke up with my Pakistani girlfriend Dark Knight - 23/03/2011 08:24:52 PM 1405 Views
Heh heh heh heh snoopcester - 23/03/2011 08:25:06 PM 1230 Views
Ha, I didn't even see that typo. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 05:14:40 AM 1268 Views
<3 You Ana, BUT Urza - 23/03/2011 08:44:11 PM 1371 Views
wait. did you..? Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:37:23 AM 1371 Views
Your taken aback by this why? Urza - 24/03/2011 06:30:46 AM 1431 Views
I thought this was a great post. Legolas - 23/03/2011 10:26:08 PM 1443 Views
Glad I could entertain. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:47:48 AM 660 Views
I understand what you are saying. Tashmere - 23/03/2011 11:04:44 PM 1369 Views
An ally! Score! Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:56:53 AM 1328 Views
Aw, you're a darling. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:26:39 AM 1382 Views
Also somebody brought up the valid point of his rights. Tashmere - 26/03/2011 11:55:49 PM 1379 Views
There's not a wealth of eligible men from any race; maybe you should just stop dating entirely. Joel - 23/03/2011 11:27:40 PM 1320 Views
Well, yeah. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:49:47 AM 1230 Views
The critically large word is "if"; your reasoning is setting off massive circular claxons for me. Joel - 25/03/2011 11:30:15 PM 1177 Views
he is not a resource, he is a man. *NM* Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:29:37 PM 780 Views
Cock is a resource. *NM* Urza - 23/03/2011 11:43:39 PM 688 Views
"Efficient allocation of cock?" Oh my, that sounds really wrong. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:32:23 AM 695 Views
seriously? that is dumb. date the man. also, it is dehumanising to refer to him as a resource. temeraire - 24/03/2011 12:52:38 AM 1435 Views
This is exactly it. Dan - 24/03/2011 04:02:10 AM 1453 Views
I didn't quite. I was talking about the economic principle. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:42:57 AM 676 Views
<--Black Guy Post Daiyon - 24/03/2011 12:57:13 AM 1539 Views
Re: Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:53:07 AM 1421 Views
Um. rebelaessedai - 24/03/2011 01:00:47 AM 1548 Views
Well, according to stand-up comics who specialize in racially based humor... TaskmasterJack - 24/03/2011 01:29:35 AM 1435 Views
Practical advice. I like it. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:58:24 AM 1443 Views
Practical advice! *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:58:34 AM 680 Views
... how did you? *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:31:14 AM 755 Views
I don't know! Our posts are about 1/10 of a second apart, freaky. *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 04:35:23 AM 687 Views
1/6 of a minute. But it's still a comical coincidence. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 24/03/2011 09:52:19 PM 713 Views
But that means if he's OK with it he's a commodity more rare and valuable than gold. Joel - 25/03/2011 11:37:48 PM 1294 Views
I present to you: A VISION OF THE FUTURE-UTRE-UTRE-UTRE beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 02:19:19 AM 1499 Views
Oh, that was awesome *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:37:01 AM 720 Views
+ 10 best post ever. I can't believe how funny that was. *NM* Timthetrolloc - 24/03/2011 03:54:39 AM 748 Views
What just happened? *NM* Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 04:04:45 AM 687 Views
*NM* ironclad - 24/03/2011 08:32:36 AM 612 Views
Awesome *NM* Stephen - 24/03/2011 09:03:13 AM 789 Views
I am currently dating a black woman... MightyYT - 24/03/2011 06:29:03 AM 1379 Views
...I always figured your name was a Snow Crash reference *NM* beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 03:48:53 PM 707 Views
I have had the nickname longer than that has been out. *NM* MightyYT - 24/03/2011 07:08:02 PM 737 Views
Don't date him. Stephen - 24/03/2011 09:44:30 AM 1378 Views
Its not likely anyone will read this comment since there are so many already MalkierKnight - 24/03/2011 01:12:19 PM 1605 Views
She's not talking about welfare queens, she's talking about well educated black women Helene - 24/03/2011 01:33:48 PM 1431 Views
It is. *NM* Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 09:33:01 PM 667 Views
this might help you understand what she is talking about random thoughts - 25/03/2011 02:24:35 PM 1481 Views
Back to Messageboard Post New Thread Search Help Stats Rules

Reply to Message

Block Quote Paragraph Quote
Formatting
Smiley Codes