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Re Vivien Send a noteboard - 23/03/2011 04:05:20 PM
Point 1:

This assumes Aeryn is just a "white woman". She's not. Her appeal is definitely not limited to men who are attracted to white women. She is in fact special and practically any man will be attracted.

Points 2 and 3:

The plight of educated black women is not something we feel comfortable ignoring. Even if not all black women want to date black men.

Besides, plenty of people took that into consideration.

1. If a black guy wants to date white women over black women, he'll date white women over black women. There's nothing that Aeryn can do to change that.

2. It's not her problem that there is a dearth of black men. But if she feels uncomfortable with it, she's probably better off avoiding it.

3. I think it's a bit of a sweeping generalisation to speak of the perspective of black women. Yes, there are probably black women who would feel this way. But that's not a basis to live your life on.
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What I forgot to mention in the post - 23/03/2011 03:01:04 PM 1342 Views
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Most of the other responses are ignoring your reasons. - 23/03/2011 03:34:56 PM 1320 Views
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Or - 23/03/2011 03:47:56 PM 1335 Views
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It is. *NM* - 24/03/2011 09:33:01 PM 648 Views
this might help you understand what she is talking about - 25/03/2011 02:24:35 PM 1450 Views

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