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Re: What I forgot to mention in the post Aeryn Send a noteboard - 24/03/2011 05:11:11 AM
I don't think that dating outside your culture makes it easier. The more different the culture, the harder it is. Relationships are complicated to begin with. Every way in which it is harder to understand each other and/or communicate with each other, makes the chances of the relationship succeeding smaller.

That doesn't mean it's impossible, but just that you have to work harder.



I can't even say that we come from different cultures. We grew up fully immersed in the same one - NYC. Once again - this is someone I've only met several times, but as far as I can tell, we have very similar beliefs & values. He's the first person I met - never mind date - who likes the same music as I do. I have far more in common with him than people from my own country living here.

If I don't want to go out with him, it's probably for other reasons.
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Interracial dating (in the dating dilemma series) Aeryn - 23/03/2011 11:11:14 AM 2365 Views
I am not a black woman and I haven't done it ironclad - 23/03/2011 11:24:16 AM 1354 Views
Re: Aeryn - 23/03/2011 11:38:31 AM 1343 Views
Independence Day reference? Good man. *NM* Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 08:28:35 PM 648 Views
john lennon... MalkierKnight - 24/03/2011 01:08:20 PM 1397 Views
If you limit your dating pool by race you really have no reason to complain Camilla - 23/03/2011 11:57:48 AM 1283 Views
I dated a black girl for nearly 3 years. Dragonsoul - 23/03/2011 12:29:26 PM 1368 Views
ironclad - 23/03/2011 12:57:08 PM 1372 Views
LMAO Jens, you know me too well Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:30:35 PM 1256 Views
And her mother is Muslim. Dragonsoul - 24/03/2011 11:48:24 AM 1290 Views
What's it called? *NM* Legolas - 24/03/2011 10:36:28 PM 658 Views
please give him a moment to google an answer. *NM* Aisha - 25/03/2011 11:04:02 AM 662 Views
She said it's called Abu Haifa (sp?) Dragonsoul - 25/03/2011 10:38:13 PM 1253 Views
Hm, okay. Legolas - 26/03/2011 12:16:02 AM 1409 Views
That was it, Abu Hanifa. I'm poor with Arabic. Dragonsoul - 26/03/2011 01:08:12 AM 1341 Views
amazingly enough, I dont believe you. Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:32:26 PM 1389 Views
I'd prove it to you. Dragonsoul - 24/03/2011 11:47:33 AM 1275 Views
God help me, I'm agreeing with Dragonsoul. Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 09:29:56 PM 1236 Views
I think he is making it up for the benefit of this comunity Aisha - 24/03/2011 10:03:21 PM 1366 Views
Sometimes I worry about "this community"... Joel - 25/03/2011 11:33:17 PM 1479 Views
I think that would be a poor reason to not date someone random thoughts - 23/03/2011 01:07:31 PM 1371 Views
Can you edit your post and take out the cow analogies? Thanks. *NM* Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:31:51 PM 662 Views
I didn't even see the "cow & milk" analogy. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:03:02 AM 1243 Views
being offensive makes it no less true random thoughts - 24/03/2011 01:25:34 PM 1254 Views
It's true that after a certain age, average men have an easier time finding dates Helene - 24/03/2011 01:31:35 PM 1244 Views
I don't date so I don't have personal experience random thoughts - 24/03/2011 03:29:50 PM 1233 Views
I don't date either... :-) Helene - 24/03/2011 03:42:33 PM 1452 Views
I think you're doing him a disservice. nossy - 23/03/2011 02:16:59 PM 1337 Views
This. Plus, to try to frame it more in A's terms... Sareitha Sedai - 23/03/2011 03:05:55 PM 1278 Views
It can add extra complications that negatively impact the likelihood of a successful relationship Helene - 23/03/2011 02:50:39 PM 1267 Views
What I forgot to mention in the post Helene - 23/03/2011 03:01:04 PM 1239 Views
Re: What I forgot to mention in the post Aeryn - 24/03/2011 05:11:11 AM 1290 Views
If you have a lot in common with him and like him and are attracted to him Helene - 24/03/2011 09:41:01 AM 1174 Views
I think you should date him. Palatine - 23/03/2011 03:02:56 PM 1184 Views
I think you should date this guy if you like him. Morgawse - 23/03/2011 03:07:30 PM 1225 Views
I think that you're doing both of you a disservice. Jeordam - 23/03/2011 03:09:29 PM 1275 Views
I agree with you. Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:26:02 PM 1269 Views
And my opinion matters more than everyone else here combined! MWAHAHAHAHAHA Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:28:06 PM 1228 Views
Well, you know your sis better than we do... ironclad - 23/03/2011 03:48:12 PM 1236 Views
Because you never know. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:00:44 PM 1417 Views
Geez you know just the right things to say. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:38:34 AM 1260 Views
LOL. ( Yes I really did laugh out loud) *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:55:22 AM 637 Views
Most of the other responses are ignoring your reasons. Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:34:56 PM 1203 Views
No one should try to think from "the perspective of black women", not even 1 black woman can do that Helene - 23/03/2011 03:47:34 PM 1268 Views
Re Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:05:20 PM 1392 Views
I'm sure that Aeryn is lovely, but she's not the only lovely white woman in the world Helene - 24/03/2011 09:43:32 AM 1242 Views
Or nossy - 23/03/2011 03:47:56 PM 1243 Views
We have no control over how other people act. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:07:11 PM 1374 Views
I agree completely. nossy - 23/03/2011 04:17:59 PM 1340 Views
And it's a bit silly to determine for someone else who he should be dating *NM* Helene - 24/03/2011 09:33:09 AM 603 Views
This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. Tom - 23/03/2011 03:54:15 PM 1273 Views
Your opinion: less than nothing. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:10:24 PM 1341 Views
Who are you? Dark Knight - 23/03/2011 08:37:43 PM 1391 Views
It's extremely unlikely that Tom was offended. Vivien - 23/03/2011 09:04:42 PM 1284 Views
I'm glad you're back, by the way. These threads are great. *NM* Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 09:15:41 PM 676 Views
Thank you. *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 04:01:08 AM 662 Views
I'm not offended, only amused at your poor logic. Tom - 23/03/2011 09:24:05 PM 1312 Views
That's lawyer logic! Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:50:37 AM 1235 Views
Is there any other kind? *NM* Tom - 24/03/2011 02:05:27 PM 646 Views
Ooh that's harsh. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:48:50 AM 1239 Views
This is all I get???? Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:54:22 AM 1292 Views
Oh, I appreciate. There's cake in the fridge *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:27:20 AM 619 Views
You two are sooo cute! *NM* ironclad - 24/03/2011 07:29:12 PM 532 Views
+1, though I probably wouldn't have said it in quite the same way. Joel - 23/03/2011 11:03:07 PM 1254 Views
Yup. beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 01:42:16 AM 1335 Views
That's a good analogy. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:50:17 AM 1366 Views
Shrug. She likes *me*. Plus, Jewish guys love Asian girls, well-known fact. beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 04:46:56 AM 1250 Views
So it's not her choice who she wants to date, but everyone around her?? Helene - 24/03/2011 09:39:58 AM 1218 Views
What's wrong with wanting to preserve races or ethnic groups? ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 02:09:02 AM 1298 Views
When its the black race? *NM* Urza - 24/03/2011 02:21:13 AM 650 Views
You're such an ass *NM* ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 02:52:12 AM 630 Views
*butts in* nossy - 24/03/2011 02:45:26 AM 1316 Views
"It would be wrong, immortal [sic] even". Tom - 24/03/2011 02:52:21 AM 1346 Views
Or potentially not (directly) from Africa nossy - 24/03/2011 03:06:36 AM 1173 Views
I've only seen "identifies as" when someone is of mixed race. *NM* Tom - 24/03/2011 03:09:51 AM 609 Views
You're absolutely right. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:14:49 AM 1287 Views
Then your argument is even sillier, as mixed race is too white Helene - 24/03/2011 09:50:15 AM 1150 Views
Is he "identifying as" black in a cultural context as well? Tom - 24/03/2011 02:04:43 PM 1133 Views
Re: *butts in* ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 03:03:14 AM 1168 Views
You're a damn genius! nossy - 24/03/2011 03:09:26 AM 1270 Views
I don't feel like one ßelals Girl - 25/03/2011 01:17:07 AM 1229 Views
Re: This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:07:36 AM 1297 Views
That could be argued in the opposite way just as easily. Helene - 24/03/2011 09:48:16 AM 1212 Views
Huh Aeryn - 25/03/2011 11:15:58 AM 1237 Views
Are you looking for reasons not to date him, or are you just being overly socially conscience? Beqi - 23/03/2011 08:12:48 PM 1242 Views
Ha. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:17:26 AM 1256 Views
Heh, that really is the best thing *NM* beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 04:48:07 AM 654 Views
...wat. Is this a serious post? Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 08:23:04 PM 1256 Views
Kinda? Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:23:12 AM 1309 Views
I just broke up with my Pakistani girlfriend Dark Knight - 23/03/2011 08:24:52 PM 1229 Views
Heh heh heh heh snoopcester - 23/03/2011 08:25:06 PM 1091 Views
Ha, I didn't even see that typo. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 05:14:40 AM 1146 Views
<3 You Ana, BUT Urza - 23/03/2011 08:44:11 PM 1239 Views
wait. did you..? Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:37:23 AM 1245 Views
Your taken aback by this why? Urza - 24/03/2011 06:30:46 AM 1301 Views
I thought this was a great post. Legolas - 23/03/2011 10:26:08 PM 1305 Views
Glad I could entertain. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:47:48 AM 586 Views
I understand what you are saying. Tashmere - 23/03/2011 11:04:44 PM 1242 Views
An ally! Score! Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:56:53 AM 1205 Views
Aw, you're a darling. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:26:39 AM 1247 Views
Also somebody brought up the valid point of his rights. Tashmere - 26/03/2011 11:55:49 PM 1251 Views
There's not a wealth of eligible men from any race; maybe you should just stop dating entirely. Joel - 23/03/2011 11:27:40 PM 1180 Views
Well, yeah. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:49:47 AM 1107 Views
The critically large word is "if"; your reasoning is setting off massive circular claxons for me. Joel - 25/03/2011 11:30:15 PM 1050 Views
he is not a resource, he is a man. *NM* Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:29:37 PM 708 Views
Cock is a resource. *NM* Urza - 23/03/2011 11:43:39 PM 620 Views
"Efficient allocation of cock?" Oh my, that sounds really wrong. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:32:23 AM 624 Views
seriously? that is dumb. date the man. also, it is dehumanising to refer to him as a resource. temeraire - 24/03/2011 12:52:38 AM 1299 Views
This is exactly it. Dan - 24/03/2011 04:02:10 AM 1296 Views
I didn't quite. I was talking about the economic principle. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:42:57 AM 610 Views
<--Black Guy Post Daiyon - 24/03/2011 12:57:13 AM 1390 Views
Re: Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:53:07 AM 1289 Views
Um. rebelaessedai - 24/03/2011 01:00:47 AM 1412 Views
Well, according to stand-up comics who specialize in racially based humor... TaskmasterJack - 24/03/2011 01:29:35 AM 1299 Views
Practical advice. I like it. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:58:24 AM 1309 Views
Practical advice! *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:58:34 AM 610 Views
... how did you? *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:31:14 AM 683 Views
I don't know! Our posts are about 1/10 of a second apart, freaky. *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 04:35:23 AM 615 Views
1/6 of a minute. But it's still a comical coincidence. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 24/03/2011 09:52:19 PM 643 Views
But that means if he's OK with it he's a commodity more rare and valuable than gold. Joel - 25/03/2011 11:37:48 PM 1159 Views
I present to you: A VISION OF THE FUTURE-UTRE-UTRE-UTRE beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 02:19:19 AM 1362 Views
Oh, that was awesome *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:37:01 AM 654 Views
+ 10 best post ever. I can't believe how funny that was. *NM* Timthetrolloc - 24/03/2011 03:54:39 AM 661 Views
What just happened? *NM* Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 04:04:45 AM 613 Views
*NM* ironclad - 24/03/2011 08:32:36 AM 543 Views
Awesome *NM* Stephen - 24/03/2011 09:03:13 AM 720 Views
I am currently dating a black woman... MightyYT - 24/03/2011 06:29:03 AM 1245 Views
...I always figured your name was a Snow Crash reference *NM* beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 03:48:53 PM 640 Views
I have had the nickname longer than that has been out. *NM* MightyYT - 24/03/2011 07:08:02 PM 663 Views
Don't date him. Stephen - 24/03/2011 09:44:30 AM 1240 Views
Its not likely anyone will read this comment since there are so many already MalkierKnight - 24/03/2011 01:12:19 PM 1452 Views
She's not talking about welfare queens, she's talking about well educated black women Helene - 24/03/2011 01:33:48 PM 1313 Views
It is. *NM* Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 09:33:01 PM 596 Views
this might help you understand what she is talking about random thoughts - 25/03/2011 02:24:35 PM 1311 Views
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