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So there is no situation in which advice helps? Dark Knight Send a noteboard - 12/02/2013 01:23:21 AM
What you're doing is wrong, one way or another it has to stop before you hurt your wife.

Maybe you have the same feelings, or you have personal experience with this type of thing, etc. Just telling somebody to grow up is childish and not in the least bit helpful. I'm being serious here. I would like to hear opinions, not snide remarks.

The advice was the other 90% of the post. What is it in your relationship that's missing that makes you constantly look for cheap thrills? Therein lies the answer, nobody here is going to be able to help you with that one.


Nothing is missing, I thought I made that clear. The only thing missing is something that can never come again, i.e. the thrill of first courting her. But, according to you, nobody has any advice that will help me, because the answer for any personal dilemma is always within the person and nobody can ever help. Seriously, I posted on here hoping somebody might have the same situation and figured it out or had some good life experience advice or something. I really don't understand why you bothered to reply, when your only advice is that you don't have any because nobody can help.
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I am on the verge of having an affair Dark Knight - 11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM 1677 Views
Ditch the wife or stop being a prat. TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:30:30 AM 939 Views
Great. Helpful advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:33:36 AM 809 Views
What exactly do you want to hear? TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:47:06 AM 795 Views
I don't know, something helpful Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:59:23 AM 860 Views
The telling you to grow up bit wasn't the advice TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:09:54 AM 817 Views
So there is no situation in which advice helps? Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:23:21 AM 858 Views
I didn't say nobody could help you at all TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:41:19 AM 826 Views
You're assuming a moral absolute Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:06:13 AM 1019 Views
It is called forsaking all others, and yes there are absolutes. HyogaRott - 13/02/2013 05:58:20 PM 933 Views
My opinion ... Nate - 12/02/2013 01:21:38 AM 865 Views
That's not really advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:28:42 AM 852 Views
Why is it obvious? Nate - 12/02/2013 01:42:26 AM 872 Views
That's exactly what I'm looking for Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:11:51 AM 1049 Views
I don't know if that's realistic. Nate - 12/02/2013 05:46:48 AM 808 Views
Get therapy or get a divorce. Your wife deserves better than the person you're being now. *NM* Ghavrel - 12/02/2013 04:00:38 AM 456 Views
Careful you don't fall off that high horse Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:53:11 AM 878 Views
You might try 4chan. Their morals seem more in line with the ones you're currently espousing. *NM* Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:29:04 AM 412 Views
What exactly did you want to hear? Dannymac - 12/02/2013 04:31:56 AM 769 Views
More holier-than-thou judgment. Great thanks. *NM* Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:50:36 AM 559 Views
Well, he's a pastor, so he probably is holier-than-thou. *NM* Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:48:55 PM 434 Views
So what you wanted was a high five? Dannymac - 13/02/2013 04:21:57 PM 805 Views
role play. *NM* temeraire - 12/02/2013 04:41:07 AM 453 Views
I appreciate something other than judgment. Thank you! Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:51:56 AM 869 Views
i was poly for a decade. maybe that's a thing to consider? opening your marriage for both of you? temeraire - 13/02/2013 05:12:06 AM 768 Views
If you don't have kids, then just leave the marriage or have an open relationship. *NM* Tom - 12/02/2013 05:19:27 AM 410 Views
You have 4 options A Deathwatch Guard - 12/02/2013 06:03:43 AM 791 Views
If it isn't about the sex then swinging really won't help *NM* random thoughts - 12/02/2013 12:55:27 PM 414 Views
Number one is not an option, it is a looming and growing disaster. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:57:19 PM 808 Views
So, you ask for advice, then get upset when you don't like it? MightyYT - 12/02/2013 06:04:07 AM 805 Views
I'm not sure there's enough context to offer much useful advice, but I'd line up incentives Isaac - 12/02/2013 08:29:41 AM 880 Views
It's probably the way you phrased it. Rebekah - 12/02/2013 08:41:06 AM 1013 Views
find another passion random thoughts - 12/02/2013 01:01:10 PM 769 Views
I don't judge you. I am exactly the same way. ironclad - 12/02/2013 01:56:58 PM 955 Views
I don't give a shit about polyamory. I give a shit about honesty. Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:26:56 AM 810 Views
That's why I told him it's not okay, if he is lying to her. *NM* ironclad - 13/02/2013 10:00:04 AM 427 Views
That was kind of my take. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:53:05 PM 1020 Views
I get where you're coming from Orange - 12/02/2013 01:57:48 PM 900 Views
Here is my advice. callandor1000 - 12/02/2013 03:49:55 PM 1068 Views
Well said. Joel - 13/02/2013 03:16:13 PM 792 Views
LOL Dragonsoul - 12/02/2013 03:54:46 PM 824 Views
Nice choice of words, there ironclad - 12/02/2013 04:04:15 PM 849 Views
I don't know if I agree that you should talk to her about this. Sareitha Sedai - 12/02/2013 04:30:14 PM 942 Views
If walking the line is the thrill, then keep walking the line. Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:44:59 PM 953 Views
Seeing your edit, I'm not sure you'll read this.... Jeordam - 12/02/2013 11:20:46 PM 863 Views
The thrill of the chase ßelals Girl - 13/02/2013 02:38:59 PM 834 Views
Do you want help making a decision, or validation of one already made? Joel - 13/02/2013 02:47:59 PM 861 Views
Hehe, love that things are pretty much the same around here. *NM* Nefarious - 14/02/2013 12:29:56 AM 433 Views
I feel sorry for you *NM* Yunalesca - 14/02/2013 01:10:10 AM 486 Views
Best thing you can do is travel around and stay in hostels Sports_Gambler - 14/02/2013 02:24:50 AM 833 Views
Be open to your wife about how you feel. Timthetrolloc - 14/02/2013 10:24:13 PM 713 Views
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