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It is called forsaking all others, and yes there are absolutes. HyogaRott Send a noteboard - 13/02/2013 05:58:20 PM
The moment you THINK you are flirting with someone, you should stop. It really is just that simple. Just behave at all times as you would if your wife were right beside you. If that means you change the habits and personality traits you have nurtured for years, then you do it, or you get out of the relationship because your habit patterns are more important than she is.

If you wouldn't do something with her there, then don't do it when she isn't.

***Just some advice from someone who is divorced.
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I am on the verge of having an affair Dark Knight - 11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM 2201 Views
Ditch the wife or stop being a prat. TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:30:30 AM 1451 Views
Great. Helpful advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:33:36 AM 1336 Views
What exactly do you want to hear? TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:47:06 AM 1338 Views
I don't know, something helpful Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:59:23 AM 1392 Views
The telling you to grow up bit wasn't the advice TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:09:54 AM 1352 Views
So there is no situation in which advice helps? Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:23:21 AM 1369 Views
I didn't say nobody could help you at all TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:41:19 AM 1351 Views
You're assuming a moral absolute Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:06:13 AM 1574 Views
It is called forsaking all others, and yes there are absolutes. HyogaRott - 13/02/2013 05:58:20 PM 1442 Views
My opinion ... Nate - 12/02/2013 01:21:38 AM 1388 Views
That's not really advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:28:42 AM 1417 Views
Why is it obvious? Nate - 12/02/2013 01:42:26 AM 1437 Views
That's exactly what I'm looking for Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:11:51 AM 1600 Views
I don't know if that's realistic. Nate - 12/02/2013 05:46:48 AM 1327 Views
Get therapy or get a divorce. Your wife deserves better than the person you're being now. *NM* Ghavrel - 12/02/2013 04:00:38 AM 775 Views
Careful you don't fall off that high horse Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:53:11 AM 1417 Views
You might try 4chan. Their morals seem more in line with the ones you're currently espousing. *NM* Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:29:04 AM 715 Views
What exactly did you want to hear? Dannymac - 12/02/2013 04:31:56 AM 1257 Views
More holier-than-thou judgment. Great thanks. *NM* Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:50:36 AM 888 Views
Well, he's a pastor, so he probably is holier-than-thou. *NM* Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:48:55 PM 715 Views
So what you wanted was a high five? Dannymac - 13/02/2013 04:21:57 PM 1289 Views
role play. *NM* temeraire - 12/02/2013 04:41:07 AM 747 Views
I appreciate something other than judgment. Thank you! Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:51:56 AM 1389 Views
i was poly for a decade. maybe that's a thing to consider? opening your marriage for both of you? temeraire - 13/02/2013 05:12:06 AM 1249 Views
If you don't have kids, then just leave the marriage or have an open relationship. *NM* Tom - 12/02/2013 05:19:27 AM 680 Views
You have 4 options A Deathwatch Guard - 12/02/2013 06:03:43 AM 1352 Views
If it isn't about the sex then swinging really won't help *NM* random thoughts - 12/02/2013 12:55:27 PM 711 Views
Number one is not an option, it is a looming and growing disaster. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:57:19 PM 1340 Views
So, you ask for advice, then get upset when you don't like it? MightyYT - 12/02/2013 06:04:07 AM 1356 Views
I'm not sure there's enough context to offer much useful advice, but I'd line up incentives Isaac - 12/02/2013 08:29:41 AM 1396 Views
It's probably the way you phrased it. Rebekah - 12/02/2013 08:41:06 AM 1518 Views
find another passion random thoughts - 12/02/2013 01:01:10 PM 1256 Views
I don't judge you. I am exactly the same way. ironclad - 12/02/2013 01:56:58 PM 1456 Views
I don't give a shit about polyamory. I give a shit about honesty. Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:26:56 AM 1317 Views
That's why I told him it's not okay, if he is lying to her. *NM* ironclad - 13/02/2013 10:00:04 AM 722 Views
That was kind of my take. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:53:05 PM 1515 Views
I get where you're coming from Orange - 12/02/2013 01:57:48 PM 1393 Views
Here is my advice. callandor1000 - 12/02/2013 03:49:55 PM 1612 Views
Well said. Joel - 13/02/2013 03:16:13 PM 1328 Views
LOL Dragonsoul - 12/02/2013 03:54:46 PM 1318 Views
Nice choice of words, there ironclad - 12/02/2013 04:04:15 PM 1378 Views
I don't know if I agree that you should talk to her about this. Sareitha Sedai - 12/02/2013 04:30:14 PM 1465 Views
If walking the line is the thrill, then keep walking the line. Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:44:59 PM 1481 Views
Seeing your edit, I'm not sure you'll read this.... Jeordam - 12/02/2013 11:20:46 PM 1393 Views
The thrill of the chase ßelals Girl - 13/02/2013 02:38:59 PM 1299 Views
Do you want help making a decision, or validation of one already made? Joel - 13/02/2013 02:47:59 PM 1366 Views
Hehe, love that things are pretty much the same around here. *NM* Nefarious - 14/02/2013 12:29:56 AM 709 Views
I feel sorry for you *NM* Yunalesca - 14/02/2013 01:10:10 AM 792 Views
Best thing you can do is travel around and stay in hostels Sports_Gambler - 14/02/2013 02:24:50 AM 1357 Views
Be open to your wife about how you feel. Timthetrolloc - 14/02/2013 10:24:13 PM 1267 Views
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