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What exactly did you want to hear? Dannymac Send a noteboard - 12/02/2013 04:31:56 AM
I mean, you've set up the scenario where you are basically saying; "I know it's wrong, but I can't help myself, because it feels good."

And this is crap.

You say you love your wife, so I can only assume she legitimately makes you happy. If you are willing to jeopardize that just for the raw chemistry of the flirting you are talking about, then yeah, at least have the decency to divorce her before you do so. You made promises. Keep them.

It's time to be a grown up. That means making your choices and living with the consequences. But if there is ANYTHING to your love for her, shoot straight and at least don't cheat. If serial monogamy is your thing, go for it. But at least own it, instead of playing stupid games and hoping she doesn't find out.

My advice, of course, would be to honor the commitment you made to her. But if you just can't do that, at least be honorable about it. You already have a lot to apologize to her for.
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I am on the verge of having an affair Dark Knight - 11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM 2228 Views
Ditch the wife or stop being a prat. TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:30:30 AM 1476 Views
Great. Helpful advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:33:36 AM 1359 Views
What exactly do you want to hear? TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:47:06 AM 1360 Views
I don't know, something helpful Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:59:23 AM 1415 Views
The telling you to grow up bit wasn't the advice TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:09:54 AM 1374 Views
So there is no situation in which advice helps? Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:23:21 AM 1400 Views
I didn't say nobody could help you at all TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:41:19 AM 1377 Views
You're assuming a moral absolute Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:06:13 AM 1597 Views
It is called forsaking all others, and yes there are absolutes. HyogaRott - 13/02/2013 05:58:20 PM 1464 Views
My opinion ... Nate - 12/02/2013 01:21:38 AM 1414 Views
That's not really advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:28:42 AM 1438 Views
Why is it obvious? Nate - 12/02/2013 01:42:26 AM 1466 Views
That's exactly what I'm looking for Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:11:51 AM 1622 Views
I don't know if that's realistic. Nate - 12/02/2013 05:46:48 AM 1350 Views
Get therapy or get a divorce. Your wife deserves better than the person you're being now. *NM* Ghavrel - 12/02/2013 04:00:38 AM 813 Views
Careful you don't fall off that high horse Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:53:11 AM 1441 Views
You might try 4chan. Their morals seem more in line with the ones you're currently espousing. *NM* Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:29:04 AM 729 Views
What exactly did you want to hear? Dannymac - 12/02/2013 04:31:56 AM 1275 Views
More holier-than-thou judgment. Great thanks. *NM* Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:50:36 AM 903 Views
Well, he's a pastor, so he probably is holier-than-thou. *NM* Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:48:55 PM 729 Views
So what you wanted was a high five? Dannymac - 13/02/2013 04:21:57 PM 1314 Views
role play. *NM* temeraire - 12/02/2013 04:41:07 AM 761 Views
I appreciate something other than judgment. Thank you! Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:51:56 AM 1414 Views
i was poly for a decade. maybe that's a thing to consider? opening your marriage for both of you? temeraire - 13/02/2013 05:12:06 AM 1274 Views
If you don't have kids, then just leave the marriage or have an open relationship. *NM* Tom - 12/02/2013 05:19:27 AM 695 Views
You have 4 options A Deathwatch Guard - 12/02/2013 06:03:43 AM 1376 Views
If it isn't about the sex then swinging really won't help *NM* random thoughts - 12/02/2013 12:55:27 PM 727 Views
Number one is not an option, it is a looming and growing disaster. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:57:19 PM 1370 Views
So, you ask for advice, then get upset when you don't like it? MightyYT - 12/02/2013 06:04:07 AM 1382 Views
I'm not sure there's enough context to offer much useful advice, but I'd line up incentives Isaac - 12/02/2013 08:29:41 AM 1426 Views
It's probably the way you phrased it. Rebekah - 12/02/2013 08:41:06 AM 1545 Views
find another passion random thoughts - 12/02/2013 01:01:10 PM 1281 Views
I don't judge you. I am exactly the same way. ironclad - 12/02/2013 01:56:58 PM 1484 Views
I don't give a shit about polyamory. I give a shit about honesty. Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:26:56 AM 1342 Views
That's why I told him it's not okay, if he is lying to her. *NM* ironclad - 13/02/2013 10:00:04 AM 735 Views
That was kind of my take. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:53:05 PM 1539 Views
I get where you're coming from Orange - 12/02/2013 01:57:48 PM 1418 Views
Here is my advice. callandor1000 - 12/02/2013 03:49:55 PM 1637 Views
Well said. Joel - 13/02/2013 03:16:13 PM 1354 Views
LOL Dragonsoul - 12/02/2013 03:54:46 PM 1342 Views
Nice choice of words, there ironclad - 12/02/2013 04:04:15 PM 1403 Views
I don't know if I agree that you should talk to her about this. Sareitha Sedai - 12/02/2013 04:30:14 PM 1492 Views
If walking the line is the thrill, then keep walking the line. Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:44:59 PM 1506 Views
Seeing your edit, I'm not sure you'll read this.... Jeordam - 12/02/2013 11:20:46 PM 1416 Views
The thrill of the chase ßelals Girl - 13/02/2013 02:38:59 PM 1321 Views
Do you want help making a decision, or validation of one already made? Joel - 13/02/2013 02:47:59 PM 1402 Views
Hehe, love that things are pretty much the same around here. *NM* Nefarious - 14/02/2013 12:29:56 AM 723 Views
I feel sorry for you *NM* Yunalesca - 14/02/2013 01:10:10 AM 809 Views
Best thing you can do is travel around and stay in hostels Sports_Gambler - 14/02/2013 02:24:50 AM 1377 Views
Be open to your wife about how you feel. Timthetrolloc - 14/02/2013 10:24:13 PM 1290 Views
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