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I get where you're coming from Orange Send a noteboard - 12/02/2013 01:57:48 PM
I think it's this way for most men really. Not sure how it is for women. I think after some time it's really hard to get excited by your spouse.
OTOH it could be you need to examine your marriage more closely. Maybe change something, maybe couples therapy could open something that's locked inside.

I'm going to therapy with my girlfriend and it's been good mostly.

EDIT: some things don't translate well to english.
This message last edited by Orange on 12/02/2013 at 02:03:18 PM
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I am on the verge of having an affair Dark Knight - 11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM 2152 Views
Ditch the wife or stop being a prat. TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:30:30 AM 1404 Views
Great. Helpful advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:33:36 AM 1289 Views
What exactly do you want to hear? TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:47:06 AM 1282 Views
I don't know, something helpful Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:59:23 AM 1344 Views
The telling you to grow up bit wasn't the advice TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:09:54 AM 1308 Views
So there is no situation in which advice helps? Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:23:21 AM 1322 Views
I didn't say nobody could help you at all TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:41:19 AM 1298 Views
You're assuming a moral absolute Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:06:13 AM 1522 Views
It is called forsaking all others, and yes there are absolutes. HyogaRott - 13/02/2013 05:58:20 PM 1384 Views
My opinion ... Nate - 12/02/2013 01:21:38 AM 1333 Views
That's not really advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:28:42 AM 1368 Views
Why is it obvious? Nate - 12/02/2013 01:42:26 AM 1391 Views
That's exactly what I'm looking for Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:11:51 AM 1537 Views
I don't know if that's realistic. Nate - 12/02/2013 05:46:48 AM 1287 Views
Get therapy or get a divorce. Your wife deserves better than the person you're being now. *NM* Ghavrel - 12/02/2013 04:00:38 AM 725 Views
Careful you don't fall off that high horse Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:53:11 AM 1361 Views
You might try 4chan. Their morals seem more in line with the ones you're currently espousing. *NM* Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:29:04 AM 689 Views
What exactly did you want to hear? Dannymac - 12/02/2013 04:31:56 AM 1214 Views
More holier-than-thou judgment. Great thanks. *NM* Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:50:36 AM 850 Views
Well, he's a pastor, so he probably is holier-than-thou. *NM* Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:48:55 PM 681 Views
So what you wanted was a high five? Dannymac - 13/02/2013 04:21:57 PM 1241 Views
role play. *NM* temeraire - 12/02/2013 04:41:07 AM 713 Views
I appreciate something other than judgment. Thank you! Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:51:56 AM 1342 Views
i was poly for a decade. maybe that's a thing to consider? opening your marriage for both of you? temeraire - 13/02/2013 05:12:06 AM 1192 Views
If you don't have kids, then just leave the marriage or have an open relationship. *NM* Tom - 12/02/2013 05:19:27 AM 648 Views
You have 4 options A Deathwatch Guard - 12/02/2013 06:03:43 AM 1303 Views
If it isn't about the sex then swinging really won't help *NM* random thoughts - 12/02/2013 12:55:27 PM 677 Views
Number one is not an option, it is a looming and growing disaster. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:57:19 PM 1287 Views
So, you ask for advice, then get upset when you don't like it? MightyYT - 12/02/2013 06:04:07 AM 1300 Views
I'm not sure there's enough context to offer much useful advice, but I'd line up incentives Isaac - 12/02/2013 08:29:41 AM 1346 Views
It's probably the way you phrased it. Rebekah - 12/02/2013 08:41:06 AM 1466 Views
find another passion random thoughts - 12/02/2013 01:01:10 PM 1207 Views
I don't judge you. I am exactly the same way. ironclad - 12/02/2013 01:56:58 PM 1410 Views
I don't give a shit about polyamory. I give a shit about honesty. Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:26:56 AM 1262 Views
That's why I told him it's not okay, if he is lying to her. *NM* ironclad - 13/02/2013 10:00:04 AM 683 Views
That was kind of my take. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:53:05 PM 1462 Views
I get where you're coming from Orange - 12/02/2013 01:57:48 PM 1335 Views
Here is my advice. callandor1000 - 12/02/2013 03:49:55 PM 1553 Views
Well said. Joel - 13/02/2013 03:16:13 PM 1273 Views
LOL Dragonsoul - 12/02/2013 03:54:46 PM 1269 Views
Nice choice of words, there ironclad - 12/02/2013 04:04:15 PM 1327 Views
I don't know if I agree that you should talk to her about this. Sareitha Sedai - 12/02/2013 04:30:14 PM 1420 Views
If walking the line is the thrill, then keep walking the line. Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:44:59 PM 1432 Views
Seeing your edit, I'm not sure you'll read this.... Jeordam - 12/02/2013 11:20:46 PM 1328 Views
The thrill of the chase ßelals Girl - 13/02/2013 02:38:59 PM 1257 Views
Do you want help making a decision, or validation of one already made? Joel - 13/02/2013 02:47:59 PM 1314 Views
Hehe, love that things are pretty much the same around here. *NM* Nefarious - 14/02/2013 12:29:56 AM 671 Views
I feel sorry for you *NM* Yunalesca - 14/02/2013 01:10:10 AM 759 Views
Best thing you can do is travel around and stay in hostels Sports_Gambler - 14/02/2013 02:24:50 AM 1303 Views
Be open to your wife about how you feel. Timthetrolloc - 14/02/2013 10:24:13 PM 1207 Views
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