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I get where you're coming from Orange Send a noteboard - 12/02/2013 01:57:48 PM
I think it's this way for most men really. Not sure how it is for women. I think after some time it's really hard to get excited by your spouse.
OTOH it could be you need to examine your marriage more closely. Maybe change something, maybe couples therapy could open something that's locked inside.

I'm going to therapy with my girlfriend and it's been good mostly.

EDIT: some things don't translate well to english.
This message last edited by Orange on 12/02/2013 at 02:03:18 PM
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I am on the verge of having an affair Dark Knight - 11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM 2034 Views
Ditch the wife or stop being a prat. TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:30:30 AM 1296 Views
Great. Helpful advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:33:36 AM 1176 Views
What exactly do you want to hear? TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:47:06 AM 1163 Views
I don't know, something helpful Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:59:23 AM 1228 Views
The telling you to grow up bit wasn't the advice TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:09:54 AM 1184 Views
So there is no situation in which advice helps? Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:23:21 AM 1211 Views
I didn't say nobody could help you at all TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:41:19 AM 1188 Views
You're assuming a moral absolute Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:06:13 AM 1380 Views
It is called forsaking all others, and yes there are absolutes. HyogaRott - 13/02/2013 05:58:20 PM 1282 Views
My opinion ... Nate - 12/02/2013 01:21:38 AM 1215 Views
That's not really advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:28:42 AM 1243 Views
Why is it obvious? Nate - 12/02/2013 01:42:26 AM 1255 Views
That's exactly what I'm looking for Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:11:51 AM 1408 Views
I don't know if that's realistic. Nate - 12/02/2013 05:46:48 AM 1167 Views
Get therapy or get a divorce. Your wife deserves better than the person you're being now. *NM* Ghavrel - 12/02/2013 04:00:38 AM 667 Views
Careful you don't fall off that high horse Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:53:11 AM 1239 Views
You might try 4chan. Their morals seem more in line with the ones you're currently espousing. *NM* Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:29:04 AM 623 Views
What exactly did you want to hear? Dannymac - 12/02/2013 04:31:56 AM 1112 Views
More holier-than-thou judgment. Great thanks. *NM* Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:50:36 AM 778 Views
Well, he's a pastor, so he probably is holier-than-thou. *NM* Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:48:55 PM 632 Views
So what you wanted was a high five? Dannymac - 13/02/2013 04:21:57 PM 1128 Views
role play. *NM* temeraire - 12/02/2013 04:41:07 AM 650 Views
I appreciate something other than judgment. Thank you! Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:51:56 AM 1238 Views
i was poly for a decade. maybe that's a thing to consider? opening your marriage for both of you? temeraire - 13/02/2013 05:12:06 AM 1091 Views
If you don't have kids, then just leave the marriage or have an open relationship. *NM* Tom - 12/02/2013 05:19:27 AM 600 Views
You have 4 options A Deathwatch Guard - 12/02/2013 06:03:43 AM 1167 Views
If it isn't about the sex then swinging really won't help *NM* random thoughts - 12/02/2013 12:55:27 PM 620 Views
Number one is not an option, it is a looming and growing disaster. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:57:19 PM 1160 Views
So, you ask for advice, then get upset when you don't like it? MightyYT - 12/02/2013 06:04:07 AM 1167 Views
I'm not sure there's enough context to offer much useful advice, but I'd line up incentives Isaac - 12/02/2013 08:29:41 AM 1235 Views
It's probably the way you phrased it. Rebekah - 12/02/2013 08:41:06 AM 1361 Views
find another passion random thoughts - 12/02/2013 01:01:10 PM 1110 Views
I don't judge you. I am exactly the same way. ironclad - 12/02/2013 01:56:58 PM 1298 Views
I don't give a shit about polyamory. I give a shit about honesty. Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:26:56 AM 1155 Views
That's why I told him it's not okay, if he is lying to her. *NM* ironclad - 13/02/2013 10:00:04 AM 621 Views
That was kind of my take. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:53:05 PM 1347 Views
I get where you're coming from Orange - 12/02/2013 01:57:48 PM 1226 Views
Here is my advice. callandor1000 - 12/02/2013 03:49:55 PM 1431 Views
Well said. Joel - 13/02/2013 03:16:13 PM 1143 Views
LOL Dragonsoul - 12/02/2013 03:54:46 PM 1156 Views
Nice choice of words, there ironclad - 12/02/2013 04:04:15 PM 1207 Views
I don't know if I agree that you should talk to her about this. Sareitha Sedai - 12/02/2013 04:30:14 PM 1301 Views
If walking the line is the thrill, then keep walking the line. Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:44:59 PM 1328 Views
Seeing your edit, I'm not sure you'll read this.... Jeordam - 12/02/2013 11:20:46 PM 1209 Views
The thrill of the chase ßelals Girl - 13/02/2013 02:38:59 PM 1161 Views
Do you want help making a decision, or validation of one already made? Joel - 13/02/2013 02:47:59 PM 1204 Views
Hehe, love that things are pretty much the same around here. *NM* Nefarious - 14/02/2013 12:29:56 AM 631 Views
I feel sorry for you *NM* Yunalesca - 14/02/2013 01:10:10 AM 705 Views
Best thing you can do is travel around and stay in hostels Sports_Gambler - 14/02/2013 02:24:50 AM 1185 Views
Be open to your wife about how you feel. Timthetrolloc - 14/02/2013 10:24:13 PM 1064 Views
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